Won’t let DH keep shoes on entry shoe rack

[Sundaya]

Yes, there is a shoe rack in my house’s entryway, but I would prefer to only keep one pair of shoes per person there. I begrudgingly let DH keep two of his pairs there. He says it’s inefficient to not fill the rack completely and wants to keep more there. But the entryway is not a closet! AIBU?

I left my partner because he wouldn't let me put my shoes in the shoe box and made me keep them upstairs. True story.

I hope so.

OP YANBU. 💪🏼 Stand firm!

Jesus, seriously? 😂. "Instruct" your partner how to use his own home? What sort of wet lettuces are you all paired with?

Omg do you hate him or something? This is so controlling.

Why do you want smelly muddy shoes anywhere near upstairs of your house?

How many rules do you have?

@Johnnysgirl some men really like instructions 😂 I know it sounds controlling but seriously my OH can follow instructions better than me nagging or getting emotional 😆

I imagine they are cleaned first.

Ha haha are you for real? These replies are hilarious 😂 l.

So these people have to clean their shoes every time they return home before tootling through the whole house to place them in the wardrobe, rather than just leave them near the door?
The lives some people lead...

I'm a little...um...confused? SURELY shoe racks are for keeping shoes on? If you only want one pair per person, GET A SMALLER SHOE RACK. And that said, does your husband work and contribute to the family? Is he a legal adult? If the answer to both of those is, "YES," then why on earth are you even making an issue of this? It is his home as much as yours, and you will be better in the long run for making him feel that way. I'd have been overjoyed if my ex had ever put anything away properly at all.

Absolutely, I don't envy your life if this iis your biggest worry.

Yanbu

Can you get something that hides the unsightly shoes instead? One of those slimline shoe cupboards? A basket with lid?

A chest? Shoe racks are ugly

I’ve heard that if you are visited by the Police (E.g. if you have reported a crime), the first things they notice are coats hanging on the stair post and too many shoes in the hallway. These apparently indicate a “less-than decent” household🤷🏼‍♀️
Don’t know if it’s true (but assume others judge, too, on this first impression), so when we reorganised the house (during lockdown) I moved a wardrobe and several shoe cabinets to the utility room and placed one slightly smarter slimline shoe cabinet on the hallway wall. Each family member has one section in this, which can store up to 4 pairs, but out of sight, and all additional shoes have to be stored in the utility along with all coats.
I prefer this to shoes being on display, and love my decluttered hallway…

I’ve heard that if you are visited by the Police (E.g. if you have reported a crime), the first things they notice are coats hanging on the stair post and too many shoes in the hallway. These apparently indicate a “less-than decent” household🤷🏼‍♀️

Please tell me you're not being serious. You actually reorganised your storage based on this?

Don’t know if it’s true but you rearranged all your storage anyway? Just in case the police judged you? Are you expecting the police?

He wants to keep more pairs of shoes on the shoe rack so all HIS shoes are conveniently near the door and sod everyone else.

Dear god, this is the most batshit crazy post I've ever read on MN!!!

You cannot honestly believe that and have organised your life around that notion.

Where do you get that it's sod anyone else? He's not stopping any other family members from using the space on the rack.It's OP who's doing that with her ridiculous and controlling 'one pair only' rule. And it's ludicrous to say that he can't use the space in case an occasional visitor arrives.

I could never imagine my DH telling me he would ‘let’ me keep something somewhere in the house. I’d be telling him I would ‘let’ him fuck off for being such a controlling weirdo.

I have a big shoe rack and most shoes are on it. It’s the easiest way to get them quickly. Everyone has a pair of trainers, school/work shoes, walking shoes (to walk dog in fields/woods etc). I suppose it doesn’t look great, but I do not care as it functions very well.

Imagine if you had actual problems how would you cope 🙄😣

@saraclara , @GloriousGlory no!
I reorganised my hallway because I wanted it clutter-free and welcoming, and not with my DC’s shoes on display (they are those horrible plimsoll-style shoes that cost the earth and always look dirty)😂😂😂

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Okay. Then explain to me where in OP's posts there's anything that says that he's preventing anyone else using the shoe rack.
A shoe rack exists for a practical reason. To have one's shoes/storage for them to hand when you leave or enter the house. There is nothing selfish or entitled about having more than one pair there, as we all have more than one type of footwear that we use regularly.

OP is the entitled one here, who's dictating his use of the shoe rack because she wants it to look nice rather than be useful.