An 'up yours' to my employers I thought I would share

[MandiY]

Was recently blocked twice for a promotion as someone was going on maternity leave and they said it would mean them having to recruit someone in my place which would have been too costly. Found this fairly unethical due to the fact that I was a perfect fit for the promotion and I'm getting into debt due to cost of living m. Have been bullied at work and was told to pull my socks up when dealing with poor mental health due to DV. After multiple attempts for promotion, I decided I would leave, and have been offered an amazing job, twice the income, and current manager is now telling me how disappointed she is in me. Two weeks to go and I couldn't give a fig. Onwards and upwards! Anyone want to celebrate with me? Had a horrific week and am feeling very positive :) AIBU to be absolutely loving this?!

I hope you get an exit interview?? She can be as disappointed as she wants. Tell her how disappointed you are in her as a manager 😂

Congratulations! 🍾

This is your thread and enjoy it, I could tell you a tale of yah boo sucks, now ain't the time. Enjoy my lovely. Enjoy.

Congratulations!
Enjoy the new job and all that $$

Had a petty boss do similar to myself and a coworker.

The boss got quite aggressive and threatened my coworker.
Withdraw his recommendation on LinkedIn etc.

He was bizarre when I told him I was resigning. Asked me why I didn't tell him I'd been looking for a new job. After I'd been lied to twice about why I received no payrise.

He later withdrew my recommendation and trashed me all over town saying I didn't complete some document before I left. Batshit!

I think my parting words would be "I'd like to say it's been a pleasure working here - but it hasn't so I won't" accompanied by an enormous grin, and a little wave!

I think I would have asked her why she was disappointed in me.

@MandiY disappointed in you? Blooming cheek. Not as disappointed as you’ve been in them. Annoyed on your behalf, so, wahey, enjoy leaving that toxic place. Serves them right.

This!

Brilliant outcome, OP. I hope you pointed out to your manager how easily she could have avoided her disappointment.

"disappointed in you!" because you've escaped their clutches. Twats!

Well done to you!

Don't descend to their level, just leave with your head held high.

Congrats.

I never knew what it was like to live without a manager. Respect to all people who have lived without such. I have no idea how you do it.

Well done, 💐

Congratulations💐💐💐

I'd be dancing around the office if I was you. Show them you are happy and living well.

I am leaving my current workplace soon after a long notice period, and having been similarly overlooked for a promotion.

Things at my current company are getting worse and worse, and I can see that next year will be extremely difficult. Colleagues keep asking me how they should deal with what's coming, and I put on a sympathetic face and say "I'm sure you'll find a way"...while at the same time thinking in my head "it's not my problem".

I find myself withdrawing more and more from current work, and I'm counting down with glee until the day I leave!

It may be good you didn’t get the promotion as that might have had you stuck in that toxic work environment even longer! My DH was made redundant years ago and it was stressful but again pushed him to get work in a less dysfunctional workplace. I hope it all goes really well for you. Sounds like you’ve had plenty to deal with and deserve this break. Bloody brilliant of you to recognise you deserve more and keep fighting for that but awful that they’ve tried to demoralise you when they know you’ve been through a hard time. Argh people can be horrid.

I have been overlooked for promotion 8 times, and had to watch people‘s underqualified mates getting plum jobs while I’m just expected to do the grunt work. I happen to be really, really good at what I do, and I have just been approached by a head hunter for a job on literally double my salary with a huge increase in status. Cheered me right up! (Haven’t got the job yet though).

@MandiY first, congratulations, you have done well for yourself!

Second, however, I would do differently from some of the advice: no overtime, but do a bang-up excellent job for the past two weeks and provide a crisp, concise and useful handover document.

Leaving your STBXB (soon to be ex-boss) really pining for you and wishing you had not left would be a much richer revenge than leaving kippers or similar.

And, if you end up dissatisfied with the new place for any reason, best not to have burned your bridges. Depending on the type of work, if you ever needed work again you could tell them you are now self employed and quote them a day rate high enough that you would not mind working there again for a little while, so probably equivalent to your new salary (so 2x the old one).

Congratulations 🎉

Well fuck her and her disappointment, she's just pissed that she's going to have to find a replacement now - how thoughtless of you! Lots of 'yes it is a shame' and fake smiles all round.

Massive well done you - clearly far more valuable than your silly employer realises. I love the kipper on the cupboard idea!!

Honestly no one should put up with crap like this at work. I’m just so glad you realised your worth and found a company that does. Enjoy every second of it. I hope your boss knows your are leaving for twice the salary. It’s probably going to cost her loads more also to replace you. Recruiting is tough at present and she has failed miserably not giving you the growth opportunities you deserve or supporting you if being bullied.

Noone these days should have to put up with a toxic work culture.

Brilliant, well done OP, enjoy the countdown to leaving with a big smile on your face so everyone can see your joy 😃

Wonderful to hear. Why not go sick until you leave due to stress......

Congratulations xx

Well done !👏

She’s disappointed in you?! Appalling. All she’s disappointed in is the fact that she’s no longer able to exploit your dedication and hard work. Dreadful people manager and regrettably too many of them around.
Congratulations and best wishes on your perseverance, resilience and well deserved new role

She can take her disappointment and shove it up her bum ! Congratulations Op and all the best in your new job .

Congratulations on your new role!

Make sure you have a huge, beaming smile on your face for every minute left at work - especially when your manager is telling you how disappointed they are in you. Nod enthustically and say "ok, thanks for letting me know! See you later!" And skip off with a big smile, humming a happy little tune.