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Neighbour being ridiculous or AIBU?

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Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 18:57

Today a neighbour stopped me whilst walking my dog and told me I'd been allowing him to "foul" his property. He then showed me his ring doorbell footage of my dog cocking his leg on a bush right on the boundary of his front garden and the public footpath.

I apologised for any offence but also pointed out that's what dogs do - pointed towards my home and that I see dogs urinating on my bushes daily and it's really not a problem. Obviously there are no health risks or anything like there is for dog waste.

Despite me apologising he carried, and said it was damaging his property and he would report me (to who??), at which point I said he was being silly and this is not a reportable problem.

Honestly he was quite polite but AIBU to think he's being utterly ridiculous to approach someone about this.

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Weirdlynormal · 11/10/2022 18:59

He is, but I have to say that dog piss makes me want to gag and streams of it at the front of my house would make me want to say something too

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pocketvenuss · 11/10/2022 19:01

If you know he hates it then just guide your dog elsewhere. You don't have to let him pee on the man's plants. Yes dogs pee but it's weird and entitled to think that should mean he has no right to object to you allowing your dog to pee on his plants. The urine may indeed kill the plant. Our dogs have killed some f our plants by repeated urinating. Can't you just walk your dog past his house?

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Ponoka7 · 11/10/2022 19:01

It might not be a problem for you, but it is for him. It's easy enough to pull your dog away. I'd just avoid that stop with your dog.

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Tontostitis · 11/10/2022 19:01

I actually stop my dog from cooking his leg on neighbours plants. In fact I try to stop him cooking his leg on anyone's garden.

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Tontostitis · 11/10/2022 19:02

Cocking

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WillPowerLite · 11/10/2022 19:04

Yabu. Move your dog elsewhere.

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Dailymash · 11/10/2022 19:11

Why not let your dog wee all over your own bushes? Dog piss stinks so I can I understand why your neighbour doesn’t want it happening of it can be avoided.

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Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:14

Yes just to clarify - of course I will move my dog on in future. I accept I'd be unreasonable if I continued to allow it (although I can't/won't guarantee it'll never happen).

I don't think this is a usual thing to seek out a neighbour you've never spoken to before and castigate them about something so inconsequential though.

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Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:15

I do! And as I said, all the neighborhood dogs urinate up my bushes - why on earth would it be a problem?!

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Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:15

Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:15

I do! And as I said, all the neighborhood dogs urinate up my bushes - why on earth would it be a problem?!

Apologies this was in response to @Dailymash

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MeowMeowPowerRangers · 11/10/2022 19:16

Actually dog urine can kill certain plants/bushes so YABU.

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Whatacarryonthisis · 11/10/2022 19:17

He politely asked you to stop

You’re going to stop

this is a non issue

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NightfeedsandNetflix · 11/10/2022 19:18

I don't like animal piss anywhere my property especially when it can be walked over and into the house. Move your animal elsewhere to urinate.

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thelobsterquadrille · 11/10/2022 19:19

YABU. I never let the dogs I walk pee on people's property.

Dog pee damages plants.

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IndianSummer78 · 11/10/2022 19:20

Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:14

Yes just to clarify - of course I will move my dog on in future. I accept I'd be unreasonable if I continued to allow it (although I can't/won't guarantee it'll never happen).

I don't think this is a usual thing to seek out a neighbour you've never spoken to before and castigate them about something so inconsequential though.

It's not inconsequential to him and how would he have achieved the outcome of you not letting your dog do it without approaching you about the problem? It's not as if you'd have suddenly realised, because you alreadyknew it was happening and didn't care.

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Mountainpika · 11/10/2022 19:24

Anyone letting their dog do that on our plants would get short shrift from me.

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SendHelp999 · 11/10/2022 19:26

I hate dogs. And don't have any pets myself. I don't want animals piss all over the front of my house for people to tread into my home when they enter. Or to kill my plants.

Stop being such an entitled dick and make your dog piss elsewhere

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Dailymash · 11/10/2022 19:27

@Southwig22 It’s a problem because it stinks. You might be happy for your plants and bushes to stink of all the neighbourhood dogs’ urine but the man next door cares about his property more that you do.

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Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:29

Dailymash · 11/10/2022 19:27

@Southwig22 It’s a problem because it stinks. You might be happy for your plants and bushes to stink of all the neighbourhood dogs’ urine but the man next door cares about his property more that you do.

It doesn't stink at all, it's not saturated in urine is it 🙄

Or maybe the neighbour is laying on the floor sniffing his six inch high plant?

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Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:30

The plant is not at all damaged

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Random789 · 11/10/2022 19:31

It wasn't unreasonable for you to have let the dog wee there in the past, but equally it isn't unreasonable for him to ask you not to do it in the future.

Perhaps he has had grass or shrubs scorched by dog urine un the past, or perhaps even this bush is suffering. So long as he was polite about it, I think it is reasonable for him to have approached you.
I can understand you feeling defensive about it - because you feel he has accused you of behaving wrongfully. But it doesn't need to be seen as a matter of right and wrong -- just as a reasonable request which, being a reasonable person, you re going to comply with.

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thelobsterquadrille · 11/10/2022 19:31

Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:30

The plant is not at all damaged

Maybe not yet, but as soon as one dog pees there, other dogs will want to pee there and very soon, it will be damaged or even dead.

It's his property - have some respect.

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Dailymash · 11/10/2022 19:31

So keep doing it then if your dog has fragrance-free urine that doesn’t damage plants. Crack on.

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MrsMinted · 11/10/2022 19:34

Dog wee is gross.it has killed my neighbour's lawn in great big seared dead patches (it is their own dog). I don't want to see people's dogs peeing on my garden really. Bad enough with the flipping cats!

I guess I feel it is the same as seeing people spit, or chuck fag ends, in my garden. It is just unnecessarily antisocial and I'd call you out on that also.

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ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 11/10/2022 19:35

I do not let my dog urinate or defecate on or at the edge of anyone's property. Only on public property and of course not where people tend to walk or gather -- and I pick it up if necessary.

Can't blame your neighbour one bit.

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