Today a neighbour stopped me whilst walking my dog and told me I'd been allowing him to "foul" his property. He then showed me his ring doorbell footage of my dog cocking his leg on a bush right on the boundary of his front garden and the public footpath.
I apologised for any offence but also pointed out that's what dogs do - pointed towards my home and that I see dogs urinating on my bushes daily and it's really not a problem. Obviously there are no health risks or anything like there is for dog waste.
Despite me apologising he carried, and said it was damaging his property and he would report me (to who??), at which point I said he was being silly and this is not a reportable problem.
Honestly he was quite polite but AIBU to think he's being utterly ridiculous to approach someone about this.
AIBU?
Neighbour being ridiculous or AIBU?
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 18:57
Am I being unreasonable?
940 votes. Final results.
POLLSouthwig22 · 11/10/2022 22:05
Yes definitely agree, and I acknowledge this when I say I don't think he is BU for being upset about it.
I can honestly say without him raising it this would never be on my radar of possible issues, it's so much of a non-issue to me!
The AIBU is about telling him it's ridiculous to threaten to report it and continue going on about it once I've apologised and accepted his concern.
lannistunut · 11/10/2022 22:01
I'm not saying you are wrong - I am saying you think one way and other people think another. You now are aware that your actions would upset about half the people in the world if the poll on here is anything to go by.
There are things that do not annoy me that I would not do because I know they annoy other people. Isn't that the very definition of being considerate?
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 21:52
Well yes but if you read the post I'd quoted I was answering the question as to how I'd like it if dogs were urinating on my plants and now that I've answered and said to me it's not a problem, you're trying to tell me I am wrong.
You couldn't make it up!
lannistunut · 11/10/2022 21:48
You think it is not a problem because you are also a dog owner who does this. A bit like when smokers say they don't mind people smoking.
He does not need to find a hobby, that is very judgemental.
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 21:36
As I've said several times - multiple dogs urinate up the bushes in front of my house every day. It's not a problem, there is 0 harm.
I still appreciate that he may not like it, and don't think he's unreasonable for that (if not a bit weird and needs to find a hobby!).
Jellybean23 · 11/10/2022 21:30
Your neighbour shouldn't have had to raise the situation with you. You should have realised it wasn't right to let your dog cock its leg there . Would you like it if someone's dog cocked its leg over your boundary, especially this summer.
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:29
It doesn't stink at all, it's not saturated in urine is it 🙄
Or maybe the neighbour is laying on the floor sniffing his six inch high plant?
Dailymash · 11/10/2022 19:27
@Southwig22 It’s a problem because it stinks. You might be happy for your plants and bushes to stink of all the neighbourhood dogs’ urine but the man next door cares about his property more that you do.
ittakes2 · 12/10/2022 09:14
You yourself said he was polite. If you think someone can’t politely ask you to stop doing something to their property they don’t like - then where does this leave you? You don’t need to understand why he doesn’t like it - it’s not for you to judge whether he is being unreasonable or not - it’s his property and it’s very entitled if you to tell him he should be ok with it.
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 20:24
Read the poll results, not those getting their knickers in a twist commenting
MinnyMous · 11/10/2022 20:23
50/50? Most people are saying YABU.
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 20:16
Well this certainly seems a divisive issue - 50/50 so far.
I've had dogs all my life and walk with plenty of people who also have dogs, and it has never been a problem but I do accept he clearly has a specific problem with it. He must be approaching everyone in the neighborhood as he's right next to the green/ park!
I find it a bit odd that those who think I'm BU are massively catrastophising the impact of the leg cocking - there is no smell, it isn't in a place it can physically be walked through, it hasn't and won't kill the plant. If you still think it's unreasonable considering all those facts, fair enough but there's no need to over exaggerate.
To be clear also, although I think it's an odd thing to do to be bothered enough to approach someone about this, what I think is ridiculous is the threats of being 'reported'. That's what I told him was silly.
MossCoveredTree · 12/10/2022 09:57
@thelobsterquadrille apologies, I thought you hated dog owners yourself which I can see is not the case
I am in agreement with you. I think where we differ is that I find some of the reactions on this thread to be really over the top to what I honestly consider to be quite a trivial matter in the scheme of things. The hostility of some people is quite depressing at times.
I honestly would not be able to tell if a dog had peed on my garden bordering the street. If it pissed up my front door, then yes I would not like that.
We are all different I suppose.
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 19:15
I do! And as I said, all the neighborhood dogs urinate up my bushes - why on earth would it be a problem?!
MossCoveredTree · 12/10/2022 09:32
@thelobsterquadrille I think you reveal yourself when you say you are not surprised people hate dog owners. Most rational people don't hate blanket group of people. I certainly don't.
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 22:05
Yes definitely agree, and I acknowledge this when I say I don't think he is BU for being upset about it.
I can honestly say without him raising it this would never be on my radar of possible issues, it's so much of a non-issue to me!
The AIBU is about telling him it's ridiculous to threaten to report it and continue going on about it once I've apologised and accepted his concern.
lannistunut · 11/10/2022 22:01
I'm not saying you are wrong - I am saying you think one way and other people think another. You now are aware that your actions would upset about half the people in the world if the poll on here is anything to go by.
There are things that do not annoy me that I would not do because I know they annoy other people. Isn't that the very definition of being considerate?
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 21:52
Well yes but if you read the post I'd quoted I was answering the question as to how I'd like it if dogs were urinating on my plants and now that I've answered and said to me it's not a problem, you're trying to tell me I am wrong.
You couldn't make it up!
lannistunut · 11/10/2022 21:48
You think it is not a problem because you are also a dog owner who does this. A bit like when smokers say they don't mind people smoking.
He does not need to find a hobby, that is very judgemental.
Southwig22 · 11/10/2022 21:36
As I've said several times - multiple dogs urinate up the bushes in front of my house every day. It's not a problem, there is 0 harm.
I still appreciate that he may not like it, and don't think he's unreasonable for that (if not a bit weird and needs to find a hobby!).
Jellybean23 · 11/10/2022 21:30
Your neighbour shouldn't have had to raise the situation with you. You should have realised it wasn't right to let your dog cock its leg there . Would you like it if someone's dog cocked its leg over your boundary, especially this summer.
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