DS and his gf are students, they're expecting a baby in a couple of months. They have clothes for baby etc but DS has asked if we can buy a pram and a cot.
I've said no as I'm currently paying their rent for them, but AIBU?
AIBU?
To not buy things for grandchild?
medvedgosha · 11/10/2022 15:46
CJsGoldfish · 12/10/2022 13:11
Actually you're wrong. There was a great NYT article with graphs for all the methods and the failure rates. There are many children born while using contraception. Those failure rates are often with perfect use, for one year. Well unless you only have sex for one year, the cumulative risk is quite large
Yeah, that article really just confirms that user error (or complacency) is the cause of most 'accidents'. 😂
Darbs76 · 11/10/2022 18:49
That’s because the rules have changed since you were at Uni, loans are now means tested and parents are expected to make up the short fall
mam0918 · 11/10/2022 18:46
Thats news too me... when I was at uni half my friends lived at home and commuted the other half lived in student housing paid for by loans and part time work.
I was the odd one out as I privately rented my own house for me, DH and DS as I was a mature student.
I didnt know ANYONE whose parents paid for them in uni... I find it so bizaare that some mumsnetters think thats normal.
FamilyTreeBuilder · 11/10/2022 18:29
Because they're students? And most parents pay rent or costs for their student offspring?
Cuppasoupmonster · 11/10/2022 15:51
Why are you paying their rent?! No YANBU, they need to learn the value of money and that you won’t always be there to open your purse when they need something.
CJsGoldfish · 12/10/2022 22:35
Also you are neatly confirming my theory that the crying/laughing face is only ever used passive aggressively by people when they're being nobbers
LOL. Sorry the point you tried to make didn't go so well. Better luck next time I guess 🤷♀️
Some people are in for a massive shock if they think they wave their offspring away to Uni aged 18 and aren't expected to contribute a penny
Meh.
I doubt anyone believes financial support stops at 18. Perfectly reasonable to not want to fully fund stupid and immature decisions though.
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