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Worriedschoolmum · 2022-10-10T17:36:24+00:00

My 7yo has been sexually assaulted in school by another child. Not a mistake. The school has confirmed this but then told me it has been dealt with and that’s it. Ive been told for information purposes. I’ve asked for a meeting and for the children to be separated but no reply. What do I do now? My child is safe and seems quite calm about this. They acted admirably. No idea who the other child is or their background. It’s seems to have been dismissed given they are children but I’m not happy. If I grabbed another persons groin in work I’m sure I would be disciplined, if not sacked. Im going in tomorrow to speak to the safeguarding lead but what else can I do?

Facecream · 11/10/2022 17:41

The advice to openly speak about it in the playground- and I speak from related experience- is poor.
Not because sexual assault should not be ousted and outed but because 1) of the age of the child 2) the assumption that the parents are responsible 3) that by saying such things you could easily be seen as harassing them and if I were the parent being spoken to like that in a playground I’d tear the speaker a new arsehole with legal action 4) was the assault actually description as sexual assault or part of bullying (it sounds like a very difficult assault to enact unless the child who did it was very close beside your child, under the table or standing above your child - all your f which could be prevented by the teachers (but not the parents).

for the record I hope some day the GDPR gets re-written so that sexual assault victims are not treated worse than the perpetrators as they hide behind the confidentiality of third party details and it’s fucking sickening

Pumperthepumper · 11/10/2022 17:50

Facecream · 11/10/2022 17:41

The advice to openly speak about it in the playground- and I speak from related experience- is poor.
Not because sexual assault should not be ousted and outed but because 1) of the age of the child 2) the assumption that the parents are responsible 3) that by saying such things you could easily be seen as harassing them and if I were the parent being spoken to like that in a playground I’d tear the speaker a new arsehole with legal action 4) was the assault actually description as sexual assault or part of bullying (it sounds like a very difficult assault to enact unless the child who did it was very close beside your child, under the table or standing above your child - all your f which could be prevented by the teachers (but not the parents).

for the record I hope some day the GDPR gets re-written so that sexual assault victims are not treated worse than the perpetrators as they hide behind the confidentiality of third party details and it’s fucking sickening

Prevented by the teachers, how?

Sherrystrull · 11/10/2022 18:10

I'd love to learn some strategies about how I could stop this happening in a classroom of 30+ children.

It is absolutely awful op and shouldn't happen but the suggestions by other posters that it can be prevented by the teacher is wrong. We teach our children about not touching each other etc but cannot physically stop it happening.

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Worriedschoolmum · 11/10/2022 18:45

Sherrystrull · 11/10/2022 18:10

I'd love to learn some strategies about how I could stop this happening in a classroom of 30+ children.

It is absolutely awful op and shouldn't happen but the suggestions by other posters that it can be prevented by the teacher is wrong. We teach our children about not touching each other etc but cannot physically stop it happening.

Just coming back to this now. I don’t think anyone can 100% stop this. I’d like to think it could but it won’t. I don’t blame the school at all. Other than emailing me they have dealt with it very well. I had my meeting and they apologised for the email. The head teacher, class teacher, senco and a school governor was there. Child moved seats, parents informed, immediate monitoring. The child has only very recently joined the school from outside the UK. Parents have apologised. My child is ok but mentioned a few more comments that I’m not happy with. They travel to school by bus so I’m not in the playground in the mornings. I will be tomorrow.

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Hercisback · 11/10/2022 18:51

@Valeriekat Read the thread, I acknowledge this about 5 posts later.

BrendaWearingBaffies · 28/02/2023 14:08

My DC was sexually assaulted when he was 8, by another child of same age. He didn't report at the time but has recently disclosed to school that he was assaulted (he will soon be 16). Police involvement is standard and a report has been logged. Social work also involved.

I am sorry this has happened to your DC OP. I am dealing with this incident retrospectively which is very stressful. I hope you managed to reach a resolution to the incident and counselling/ therapy was offered if needed.

jgjgjgjgjg · 28/02/2023 14:24

This may not be a popular opinion but I wonder if you are making this into much more than it is. Your child of 7 was groped, on one occasion, by a peer who is also 7. You have no confirmation that there was any sexual intent by the peer and your child is not particularly perturbed by it . Clearly it is not good and needs to be stopped, but I think talk of sexual assault and being traumatised is rather over blown.