Would you be bothered flying economy whilst partner flies business?

[Wigollia]

For context:

You both discuss going to European city, half of accommodation each and paying for own flights.

Boyfriend messages to say they’ve booked their flights, you message to say ok I’ll book mine now, did you reserve your seat?? Boyfriend says “oh I’m flying business we can just meet up on the other side”

Thoughts?

what a twat. Tell him you’ve booked and dump him at the airport.

Why should he pay the difference? Aren't people on here prancing on about how women need to pay their own way in life? You can guest one person into the lounge at the airport if you're flying business class.

This is the difference between your boyfriend of 7 months, and my DH of 17 years.

He flies regularly, so if we’re flying long haul as a family, he’ll bump me up to business on his airpoints, while he flies in economy with the kids.

Your boyfriend could have made a lovely, romantic gesture, and booked for you to fly business, but no.

Indicative of a lot.

I’d be moving on - it’s only 7 months, and there are zillions more fish in the sea.

I can't imagine any boyfriend I have every had doing this, even the quite shit ones. My OH certainly wouldn't. Why weren't you booking together though, surely the companionship on the flight is nice, you can have a few drinks and watch a movie or something. If he's flying business class, wouldn't his points have stretched to two standard class tickets? He seems selfish.

When my lanky boyfriend and i go away together, we pay for our own tickets, but he always pays to upgrade us both to extra leg-room seats so he can stretch out. If he had done what OP's has done, I think I would be letting him go alone.

What's he said now you've said that you are not going?

Still wouldn't bother me. They agreed, by the sounds of it, to arrange their own flights. If sitting together was so important surely they should have booked together and split the cost. Just sounds like a miscommunication to me.

You can't have been that bothered about sitting together if you were buying your tickets separately, so I don't really get the fuss about him booking business class for himself.

@StupidSmallFruit how lovely.
Any updates OP?

People keep saying what's the point of business class flying to Europe... week why not if can afford it.

I've travelled both classes in Europe and business was better.

As it happened, my Dsis got had her ticket upgraded by her DH and mine was just an economy. When we checked in and said she'd prefer to sit with me in Economy than be on her own and they seemed touched and upgraded me to sit with her in BC.

It's obviously better than economy....but that's not really the issue at hand.

One would have expected, if you're travelling together, you book the flights together, as you want to sit together. Especially in a new relationship.

If he has a particular reason like..need the extra legroom, then one would expect thst he mentioned it beforehand.. and that would be understandable.

Yeah I wouldn’t be having this. It’s the selfishness, and the obvious lack of priority being given to travelling together. Especially so early in a relationship.

Let us know what happens when you tell him OP!

I don't think they were planning to travel together. Just holiday together once they got there. Hence his "Cya on the other side!"

Odd booking flight separately- there would be every chance you’d not be sitting together anyway.

Yes , I would be massively bothered and would be really upset if anyone did this to me, friend relative or boyfriend. They are basically saying they prefer comfort to your company! Sitting together on plane is all part and parcel of the holiday and most people actively don’t want to be sitting separately on the plane to their holiday companion let alone in a whole different section of the plane!

*@Toadcatcher

Ex P did this too. He also stayed in 5 star hotels and the kids and I had a holiday apartment nearby. Not that we particularly wanted to spend a lot of time with him, so it was a blessing in disguise, but it started with me and baby DS flying economy and he flew business before we had DC 2 and then it was off to the apartment for us. Or we shared one room and he had his own room. Just saying … a taste of things to come …

He did this because you allowed him to treat you like crap unfortunately. He saw that you accepted the first incident and carried on.

I can't for the life of me imagine going on holiday with a partner who I have kids with and he goes off to a luxurious hotel and I'm dumped in an apartment with the kids.

*@ZeldaWillTellYourFortune
I can't help but wonder why you went on to have more DC with him. He actually sent you off to stay in a cheaper place on holiday?

My thoughts exactly.
The first time my partner tried to pull such nonsense, like sitting in BC while I have the baby... that works have been the end of the relationship.

Just saying … a taste of things to come …

It’s categorically NOT a taste of things to come for anyone who wouldn’t dream of accepting it the first time it happened.

Surely he's joking. No one would actually think this is ok?

This is hilarious. He's not serious? Lord, can you imagine what he'd be like going forward? No thanks. Bin.

Because he’s decided that he must fly business class. So you’d think he’d want to sit with his girlfriend - not go on a two tier holiday.

I don’t expect anyone to pay for me. But, equally, I don’t expect to be treated like the OP has been.

This guy is clearly a bastard.

Twat. Dump!

Tell him he's booked a one way ticket and have a nice flight 😁

@Dreamingcats The Op said they agreed costs :to pay their own way with the flights and split the hotel. They also agreed the dates of travel.
They didn’t agree to booking flights separately and it’s a weird assumption to make unless they will be using different airports or something. Why would you not discuss the flight you were booking with the person you were going with.

Bothered? I'd be furious!!

Whaaaaat? One time when I had enough points to get flights for points I paid for both me and my friend who were flying together (she paid her tax, I paid mine, was cheaper for her than buying a different flight and a better time). You never book on points unless it’s for both of you! I agree with your update that you don’t go!

This.

Nothing further to say.