Would you be bothered flying economy whilst partner flies business?

[Wigollia]

For context:

You both discuss going to European city, half of accommodation each and paying for own flights.

Boyfriend messages to say they’ve booked their flights, you message to say ok I’ll book mine now, did you reserve your seat?? Boyfriend says “oh I’m flying business we can just meet up on the other side”

Thoughts?

That’s so rude!!

Business and economy seats are so similar on a European flight, why on earth isn’t he sitting in economy with you, or if he’s so well off he can’t face economy, he should be upgrading your ticket as a gift.

I don’t see this working out, he sounds very self-centred 🤔

Wow what a prince amongst men. Dump the cunt. He’s clearly telling you who he is. His lack of self awareness is galling.

Personally I think you need to have a chat. You haven't been going out all that long

There is something disconcerting about him just doing this without some kind of discussion.

There may also be valid reasons, E.g. his points might be about to expire so he needs to use them or lose them.

He might be totally thoughtless & /or new to relationships so needs this kind of bs behaviour needs to be called out as unacceptable to him

I guess you're the only person who knows whether this guy is worth it

Yes that would bother anyone.
plus short haul flights to Europe from uk, business class is likely to just be the first few rows and not worth the money.

As you're only 7 months in and 'business class' on a European City short haul flight isn't really 'all that', I'd go with it for now but be noting this.

I'd respond "No Prob - do you want to meet up at the (other side) Airport or at the (other side) Hotel?"....and take it from there....which ultimately might involve me visiting the European City myself, leaving my dickhead ex-bf pleasuring himself on his Euro City break.

Tell him you've decided not to go. What an odd thing to do. It just creates some sort of financial barrier between you and what the future holds. Different starred hotels? A la carte meals for him and table d'hote for you? I wonder what his reaction would have been if you'd said you were flying First? Dump

Business and economy seats are so similar on a European flight, why on earth isn’t he sitting in economy with you, or if he’s so well off he can’t face economy, he should be upgrading your ticket as a gift

This

The reason this sucks, OP, is that he'd rather sit alone in business class than spend time with you, travelling together in economy

That's why it stings

But you're good for a quick shag once there. As long as you pay half the hotel, and pay for your own dinner... after all, you're a modern independent woman right?

Yes I've met this kind of man. No thanks

This 100%.

Another one from the ‘cool wives/girlfriends’ brigade

I'd been with my DH for 4 months and he paid for me and my son to go on holiday!! Yeah, yeah too soon etc but we're married with another kid now so it worked out, when you know, you know!!

Your situation is so odd because there's no actually thought of you or even you and him as a couple, no 'oh I have avios points so I could get a good deal on flights and we could split the hotel bill to reflect that' etc.
This really wouldn't sit well with me!

I personally can’t be bothered to have to call a man out on this kind of thing. If I have to tell you something that is plain obvious, or if you’re that inexperienced, then I’m breaking up with you

I’d reply ‘oh haha very funny, you had me going there for a minute, as if you’d ditch me to go in business!’

@Shitfather says the truth 😂😂😂😂

He sounds like a complete knob! Not really soul mate material :)

OP, my boyfriend, 9 months in, booked (and paid) business for both of us to fly trans-Atlantic to see MY friends for a week.

Don't settle for being treated second class to HIM.

Beautifully put!

There is absolutely nothing ‘cool wife/girlfriend’ about willingly accepting dregs.

Quite the opposite.

I wouldn't do this to a friend, never mind a supposed romantic partner

If the plane goes down, I'd rather die on my own than sitting next to him.

Hell no!

What a strange set up.

I am old - and when travelling with friends, family or my husband one person books the flights and the others reimburse (or not).

The boyfriend could even have paid for your ticket if he's got so much spare cash 😉

THIS! Don't be second class, I'd definitely be letting him go at this point!

He should be more considerate than this! At least you've only wasted 7 months. Get rid and go on another trip xx

Our first trip abroad (and weekends away that weren't a surprise) we planned and booked together - OH transferred me the money for his half after we had agreed travel / hotel / price etc (as I always paid on credit card as I tend to do for with bigger spends for that extra protection) . We always booked seats together. I would have thought this was normal.

Red flags to be honest....

Red flags for your situation I mean, I think it's weird - it's almost like a weird way of trying to impress you, that he can book business class.... weird