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Would you be bothered flying economy whilst partner flies business?

324 replies

Wigollia · 09/10/2022 17:05

For context:

You both discuss going to European city, half of accommodation each and paying for own flights.

Boyfriend messages to say they’ve booked their flights, you message to say ok I’ll book mine now, did you reserve your seat?? Boyfriend says “oh I’m flying business we can just meet up on the other side”

Thoughts?

OP posts:
ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 09/10/2022 19:24

Toadcatcher · 09/10/2022 19:05

Ex P did this too. He also stayed in 5 star hotels and the kids and I had a holiday apartment nearby. Not that we particularly wanted to spend a lot of time with him, so it was a blessing in disguise, but it started with me and baby DS flying economy and he flew business before we had DC 2 and then it was off to the apartment for us. Or we shared one room and he had his own room. Just saying … a taste of things to come …

I can't help but wonder why you went on to have more DC with him. He actually sent you off to stay in a cheaper place on holiday?

HikingforScenery · 09/10/2022 19:24

🤣🤣🤣
I’m sorry but that’s my only reaction! Wow! Run!

Downdaysoon · 09/10/2022 19:24

MadMadMadamMim · 09/10/2022 17:08

I'd not bother going. He sounds lacking in both charm and self awareness.

This.

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 09/10/2022 19:27

You are dating a knob.

I can imagine him pulling this trick on your honeymoon.

HTH1 · 09/10/2022 19:27

It’s very selfish and unromantic. I would have expected him to say that he had decided to treat you to business class flights as a surprise (and 7 months isn’t that short a time, I was engaged before then).

slashlover · 09/10/2022 19:27

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lingle · 09/10/2022 19:28

He may have a phobia and not want you to see him scared?

Dreamingcats · 09/10/2022 19:29

Wouldn't bother me tbh, I usually don't sit next to my husband on flights as we refuse to pay extra to sit together. Is he extremely tall and have problems with space in economy?

Remainiac · 09/10/2022 19:32

BonesOfWhatYouBelieve · 09/10/2022 17:08

Is he staying in a nicer hotel by himself as well. What a tit.

With an upgraded girlfriend? Hilarious.

ChipsforMe · 09/10/2022 19:32

TheMeanGirlsEnding · 09/10/2022 19:05

You can refuse an upgrade.

Sigh, no you cannot - at least not always (according to other experiences on this thread). If you have been upgraded due to an over booked flight then the only seat is the one offered in the upgrade.

yes you can
you might not be able to get your original seat back

lightisnotwhite · 09/10/2022 19:33

@Dreamingcats but presumably that decision was taken together?
The Op has been given no choice and it’s half her holiday.

I wonder how you should tackle it though Op. He’ll make it your problem doubtlessly.

adriftabroad · 09/10/2022 19:34

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How rude.

Floomobal · 09/10/2022 19:38

Zone2NorthLondon · 09/10/2022 17:57

Genuine question. Why shouldn’t he travel business if he can afford it? If you cannot afford it that’s not his responsibility. It’s a bit dire to be financially reliant on your boyfriend hoping he’ll either upgrade your seat or he’ll settle and downgrade

Genuine question. Why would anyone book a flight without discussing it with their partner? Doesn’t matter if you decide to travel/sit separately, but to just book it on your own and announce it? Weird

Badger1970 · 09/10/2022 19:41

Out of interest OP, did he steer the break to a particular city/destination? ie one he knew he could get a good deal on a flight to?

ZenNudist · 09/10/2022 19:42

Dump!

Floomobal · 09/10/2022 19:45

KitsyWitsy · 09/10/2022 17:58

My bf of 5 months pays for my BC tickets and everything. Raise your standards!

Not sure this is anything to feel smug about. Most people wouldn’t want their boyfriend/girlfriend to pay for everything

coodawoodashooda · 09/10/2022 19:45

MadMadMadamMim · 09/10/2022 17:08

I'd not bother going. He sounds lacking in both charm and self awareness.

Either that or he knows exactly what he's doing

Greengr · 09/10/2022 19:47

Selfish twat
Just that!

KangFang · 09/10/2022 19:47

lingle · 09/10/2022 19:28

He may have a phobia and not want you to see him scared?

Bingo.

Always one outlandish suggestion on here.

Guineapig123 · 09/10/2022 19:47

I think he is an idiot, however flying business on short haul simply isn’t worth the money. And he is wasting he is avios as they they are much better spent on long haul… (sorry missing the whole point of the thread - he is a being a selfish tw*t)

theshadeofgreen · 09/10/2022 19:51

What a prick 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 sorry op but part of me admires the balls of it.

I'd book business too, but to a different location so you don't have to spend another minute with him!

passport123 · 09/10/2022 19:51

7 months into the relationship? Time to make sure it doesn't get to 8 months.

notimagain · 09/10/2022 19:52

ChipsforMe · 09/10/2022 19:32

yes you can
you might not be able to get your original seat back

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A lot might depend on when the refusal happens, and it certainly could cause difficulties on a completely full flight if you decline the upgrade late in the process (e.g. at the gate) by which time economy seats have been assigned.

Oddbobbyboo · 09/10/2022 19:54

I wouldn’t be going…. Just screams selfish and part of holidaying together would be doing the whole thing together xx

dingdongdarling · 09/10/2022 19:54

If it works like British Airways points he had 2 choices

1 business class flight for him and no flight for you
2 economy flights