And yes, people do talk of ow, they criticise and talk of their dalliances and speak of them behind their backs and laugh when they believe they are getting away with it, that no one notices, but they do.
I don't think ow and om are paranoid enough, many of them do a terrible job of covering it up, they are a constant source of amusement to some people who can't believe their niavity when it's usually blindingly obvious to others.
And those who are older even quantify the obsurdity and age range of the ow.
It goes like this...
You get the 20 year olds with wasters, usually with young kids that can't hack it and are unbelievably selfish, pumping iron, preening men who girls fawn over in the pubs and clubs, hoping the one night stand evolves into claiming the waste of space for their own.
Much of it is competitive, much of young single motherhood is made up of this sector.
Then the thirties girls, kids are a wee bit older, they begin to go out again after being tied to children, confident and re entering social life with other mothers who want payback on the shithead at home that left them to all the crap with the kids. They usually calm down and ease into middle age, ill health and job/money responsibilites.
Then the 40's, these women tend to be corkers, the best ones are the ones who have been supposedly neglected, when in fact they've had an affair upted sticks, divorce ensues, after which that relationships flounders. They may have their own home, advantaged parents with property forthcoming, still yummy mummies 😅The middle class mummies
These ones don't wan't a full time hubby, getting his hands on the cash, many of these advocate the FWB's but they do find it hard getting the replacement, all the decent men are taken and they are left with the circulating trash that is in the divorce pool.
Many of these are the 20's men twats who never really had family responsiblities.
So the net widens to married men.
So their only option is the affair, the work colleague, the tradesman who does a little job at a reduced price, the neighbour, the desperate.
Sometimes they do re-marry depending on social class, and financial desperateness, quite often the ugly friend who although beneath them will pop them up on that pedastal at least and look after them.
Married men who leave longish marrages and can't believe their luck they got with the 'looker bird who would have never had them when they were younger. Well needs must when you're hurtling into middle age, and fuck the wife and kids left behind she's cannon fodder, our 40's lady is getting desperate.
Standards are usually lowered and the age of the men creeps up, if they are really desperate we're talking 20 years plus older. I have seen many women like this who started out again on single life so independant and so full of hope have some real mental health issues as they steer into the menopause, the fifties and then sixties.
So from what I can see, affairs don't really help any woman be it you're the ow or the wife but then again I've also seen a hell of a lot of very miserable older men who have fucked their lives up for the fun of chasing skirt or thinking they were in luuve. Nobody wins, and as a hobby it's a pretty boring and destructive activity, you really are better with a good book and your integrity in tact because one day you will look back and see that none of it was real, it was just a marker in time.
If possible don't get involved with the destruction of family units, it's not a pleasant thing to do.
That is for all the male and female cheaters.