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cutthelawn · 2022-10-05T20:35:59+00:00

Basically you can have all the custody of the kids if you want but you must separate permanently from your oh and you are both given 5 million each to start again would you do it>?

user568720164728553401928574738 · 05/10/2022 22:25

Yes

PinkButtercups · 05/10/2022 22:25

No I wouldn't but think about if you did.

Kids with you full time then a lot of CM owed on that £5 million 🤑. You'd be a rich bitch 🤣.

SpaceyCake · 05/10/2022 22:25

Nah.

TheGoogleMum · 05/10/2022 22:26

Honestly? I'd be tempted... I love DH though. 5 million is a lot of money though we could give DD such a good life...

DelilahBucket · 05/10/2022 22:27

Absolutely not. I'd want to share spending that with my best friend a.k.a my husband.

TwoWrightFeet · 05/10/2022 22:27

Only if he gets custody of the kids.

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cutthelawn · 05/10/2022 22:27

*I tend to think that with £5M each, there would be ways around the rules. Rich people always find a loophole. So, on that basis, I’m going to say yes.

I’ll get to legitimately live in my own house (appearances, innit, got to look as if we’re complying!) and DH can live very close by in his own place. Suits me perfectly. DH not so much but he’d get over it. Then we’d have to spend a lot of time co-parenting anyway - because if it negatively impacted the kids we’d never have agreed. And who would be keeping tabs? I reckon we’d get away with a lovely long-term relationship, if a bit unconventional*

again it's hypothetical, don't over analyse. As for parenting you must parent pretty separately in that you both get your own times with the kids but only be present together on occasions like a graduation, a birthday etc. Effectively you can't cheat it.

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Cheeselog · 05/10/2022 22:28

FunnysInLaJardin · 05/10/2022 22:19

interesting and quite predictable that the vote is 50/50.

I could never happily live without my DH. 34 years now and I couldn't do any of it without him

I’m a bit surprised and sad that it’s not more in favour of keeping the DHs!

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cutthelawn · 05/10/2022 22:30

I’m a bit surprised and sad that it’s not more in favour of keeping the DHs

i'm not, I've read enough mn threads and have enough friends to know many marriages are not held together by love.

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RewildingAmbridge · 05/10/2022 22:31

So you're asking if I'd separate my child and his father when neither have done anything wrong. Absolutely not. I love both of them too much to inflict that kind of pain, especially for money

Novum · 05/10/2022 22:31

No, I wouldn't.

RiderGirl · 05/10/2022 22:31

I'm normally the first one scratching around for ways to make money, permanently a bit skint - but even I'd say no to this, my DH is genuinely wonderful. If it was any of my exes, or some members of my family, I'd do it for a hell of a lot less!!

Lessofallthisunpleasantness · 05/10/2022 22:32

Haha, good one I might. Kids are old enough to muddle along. We live in different houses most of the time anyway. It would be weird though. I think he might go for it more than me. He is a bit more financially motivated.

We could have competitive flash holidays and lives and really screw the kids up.

shieldmaiden7 · 05/10/2022 22:33

No way

PatchworkElmer · 05/10/2022 22:34

Absolutely not. Love him to bits.

Mythreefavouritethings · 05/10/2022 22:34

Nope, love is the best!

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cutthelawn · 05/10/2022 22:35

So you're asking if I'd separate my child and his father when neither have done anything wrong. Absolutely not. I love both of them too much to inflict that kind of pain, especially for money

You are making money sound like a bad thing there, easier to do I suppose when you have and it's not an issue. I think if it was a huge issue in your lives you might think differently.

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cutthelawn · 05/10/2022 22:36

Nope, love is the best

but it can't pay the bills.

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NoSquirrels · 05/10/2022 22:38

cutthelawn · 05/10/2022 22:27

*I tend to think that with £5M each, there would be ways around the rules. Rich people always find a loophole. So, on that basis, I’m going to say yes.

I’ll get to legitimately live in my own house (appearances, innit, got to look as if we’re complying!) and DH can live very close by in his own place. Suits me perfectly. DH not so much but he’d get over it. Then we’d have to spend a lot of time co-parenting anyway - because if it negatively impacted the kids we’d never have agreed. And who would be keeping tabs? I reckon we’d get away with a lovely long-term relationship, if a bit unconventional*

again it's hypothetical, don't over analyse. As for parenting you must parent pretty separately in that you both get your own times with the kids but only be present together on occasions like a graduation, a birthday etc. Effectively you can't cheat it.

Yeah, I reckon I can cheat it, though. I’m filthy rich now, and so is my husband. Where there’s a will (& a bucket of cash…)

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 05/10/2022 22:38

No way he is my life plus I have no interest in that stupid amount of money

Bbq1 · 05/10/2022 22:41

No. That would be heartbreaking and the money would mean nothing then anyway

BrightBlueFlamingo · 05/10/2022 22:42

Over 30 years married but in all honesty yes. The money would sort out sooooooo many problems / offer the sort of security that is so needed at this time of life. Slightly fed up of DH, can you tell?!😋

Cheeselog · 05/10/2022 22:43

cutthelawn · 05/10/2022 22:30

I’m a bit surprised and sad that it’s not more in favour of keeping the DHs

i'm not, I've read enough mn threads and have enough friends to know many marriages are not held together by love.

Yes but that’s obviously skewed happy people not posting threads to brag about how great their husbands are. I thought more like 75% of couples were in love. I guess that means I should cherish what I have even more.

goldfinchonthelawn · 05/10/2022 22:44

No. Definitely not. I wouldn't see the point. But we are not poor. We've both been poor at various stages in life and I know that if we were strugging now the way we each struggled in our twenties, we might be tempted.

FunnysInLaJardin · 05/10/2022 22:44

Cheeselog · 05/10/2022 22:28

I’m a bit surprised and sad that it’s not more in favour of keeping the DHs!

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Really? I think a lot of marriages are unhappy really. I count myself among the lucky ones!