be honest, if you and partner/dh were offered 5 million each to seperate...

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Basically you can have all the custody of the kids if you want but you must separate permanently from your oh and you are both given 5 million each to start again would you do it>?

Absolutely not. My DH offers me something that money can't buy. He loves me just as I am and he is my best source of support. I would be lost without him.

Unequivocally no. DH is the most incredible human being I’ve ever met. No amount of money could make me feel as happy as he does. I won the Euromillions lottery when I married him 🤷🏻‍♀️

Is he asked too? is it going to be a golden valley moment where he walks away with both 5 millions and you go home empty handed to an empty bed?

Yep. I could do one hell of a lot with 5 mil.

Yep. There's loads of men in the world I could be compatible with and £5mil would make finding someone a lot more fun. Or just work my way through several someones.
DH is fine but he isn't the be all and end all of my life and if I turned down that offer I'd always be thinking about it!

Probably not. £5m would get a brilliant but not life changing house round here, and tbh I wouldn't want to live in it without DH. That's a fair old chunk of money though.

That would solve all my problems! DP is abusive and I am trying to find a way to start a new solo life. Where shall I sign?

No!

The only thing that gives me pause for thought is the future of my DD. This kind of money would be a game changer for her (She needs a lot of support).... Personally I wouldn't pick any amount of money over my DH. And I have experienced poverty. I do know what it is like. And we are struggling at the moment, and worried about the future. But we are better together.

So I am glad this is hypothetical. I wouldn't thank you for this offer!

No, not a chance. Why would I break up my family, the most important thing in my life for money?

Key question!

Surprisingly no, I actually wouldn’t want to do that. I’m actually quite surprise, I must be still loving my husband.

I mean is it going to be a Golden Balls moment where you say no and he takes the money and leaves anyway.

I want to know what he would really do or say. I might do it. imagine how much good you could do for 5 million. and he gets 5 million. we could start fixing the world for our kids. or be selfish and stay together.
I would miss him.
I know if we ever had money problems it would cause arguments. "oh I wish I took that 5 million! you jerk head!!"

No way. I’d not leave him for all the money in the world.

Is he asked too? is it going to be a golden valley moment where he walks away with both 5 millions and you go home empty handed to an empty bed

no the decision is all yours

Having been in an unhappy marriage previously, having the guts to walk away and now married to my absolute soulmate, I can hand on heart say no amount of money would make me walk away from him.

I tend to think that with £5M each, there would be ways around the rules. Rich people always find a loophole. So, on that basis, I’m going to say yes.

I’ll get to legitimately live in my own house (appearances, innit, got to look as if we’re complying!) and DH can live very close by in his own place. Suits me perfectly. DH not so much but he’d get over it. Then we’d have to spend a lot of time co-parenting anyway - because if it negatively impacted the kids we’d never have agreed. And who would be keeping tabs? I reckon we’d get away with a lovely long-term relationship, if a bit unconventional.

interesting and quite predictable that the vote is 50/50.

I could never happily live without my DH. 34 years now and I couldn't do any of it without him

right I've finally decided for real.
if we both stay single forever and I know he's pining for me too, I would take the money.
if he would have a new partner I wouldn't take the money and keep him.

So if he loves me more than anything I would leave him and if he doesn't ill keep him. wow. what an idiot. I know myself though and this is what I'd do for sure.

No, no amount of money.

Absolutely not. It would be pointless without him to share it with.

Nope, Not for any amount of money.

The fact that in instantly thought that yes I would had actually got nothing to do with money, which is quite sad. 😞 I’d do it in a heartbeat if I knew that me and my kids would be financially comfortable.

No amount of money would be enough, too much love and shared history there. The kids would be devastated if we split.

And our dogs, they need us all every day. 😂 They don’t settle til everyone is home each day, if any of us are out late or away from home, they keep going to the front doors and crying. 😔

Fuck yeah