be honest, if you and partner/dh were offered 5 million each to seperate...

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Basically you can have all the custody of the kids if you want but you must separate permanently from your oh and you are both given 5 million each to start again would you do it>?

No, wouldn’t even think about it even after 21 years.

Yep. I love my DH but 5 mil would be so much security and freedom.

No!

No. We're happy, do ok financially and wouldn't do that to the kids.

Resounding no. We're comfortably off, and have been together for nearly 28 years, married for nearly 25. I'm not chucking that away.

Ooh I'm really skint and we don't have kids together nor do we live together. I have kids and 5 million would really help so I'm gonna say yes but I'd be really down about it.

Nah but I know we’d both secretly sometimes think “I COULD HAVE HAD 5 MILLION QUID). I take your point OP, it’s not an unreasonable one tbh. We are lucky that we could afford to turn it down. If we were on the bones of our arse and couldn’t provide adequate food, clothing or shelter then I think we would for our kids.

@loubieloo4 I’m so sorry

No. Not a chance.

Just asked my OH this. We both agreed that we'd want to read the T&Cs first.

If we could still be "FWBs", we might, just might consider it. If not, no, they can keep their money.

Yeah, is this actually a thing? cos ill pack his bags now if it is😂

Hahahaha, that made me cackle 😂

Would we be allowed illicit meet ups in 5* hotels? Could we go on dates and spend hours during custody handover of our 20-something-year-olds If so, then yes. If not then nah.

The way teen DD is treating me, yes. (Currently haunting my home.ie to see if I can afford a flat for myself, but sadly the housing crisis means no).

He gets full custody of Dd and dog.

Still love DH but can't take family life anymore.

Yes.

I'd do it for less than that. Just need enough to buy my own house.

No, actually I don't think I would take it

No. I would have no interest living in a world without DH in it.

My parents used to call it the push of love 🤣

No. But we have enough money that it doesn't put any real constraints on my life and I don't think more money would make me happier. We're not super-rich, but I never think "if only I had more money then...". And I really like my husband, so wouldn't want to mess with a good thing!

Already a single parent. Can I still claim my £5m for pre-emptively separating? (And it's a definite yes BTW)

Nah, we get by alright as we are. We aren't rich but aren't on the poverty line either. He's my best friend and I'd be so unhappy without him, Maybe one day we will split, who knows but obviously that's different to splitting for money when you still love them.

Yes absolutely

Yep.

For 5 mil tax free? Sure. Buy my house outright. Own car. Start a little campsite. Happy as a pig in shit I’d be.