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be honest, if you and partner/dh were offered 5 million each to seperate...

338 replies

cutthelawn · 05/10/2022 21:35

Basically you can have all the custody of the kids if you want but you must separate permanently from your oh and you are both given 5 million each to start again would you do it>?

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/02/2023 23:42

I would have done so when I was married to my exh, but then I did so without any 5 million quid so I’m probably not the person you want an answer from!

ICanSeeYouNextWednesdayAtFour · 20/02/2023 23:43

A fiver would do me tbh

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 20/02/2023 23:51

I've read the posts clarifying the rules, and no I wouldn't.

I'll admit I was tempted by the idea if there was a loophole as the money would solve a lot of our problems many times over, but I wouldn't want to be without DH and the trauma it would cause DS wouldn't be worth it.

bonzaitree · 20/02/2023 23:52

Not married but after the evening I’ve had I’d leave for a packet of skittles.

UnattendedPotato · 20/02/2023 23:58

Big shouty yes please!

Hawkins003 · 21/02/2023 00:01

Yes, as bills still need to be paid,

notangelinajolie · 21/02/2023 00:01

We'd do it.

And buy a 1.5 million pound penthouse apartment each - next door to each other. And put in a secret door between the two which is hidden behind a wall hung Persian rug. Separate front doors obvs.
We've discussed this many times 😎
We would also have a secret house in Spain with a hidden door that is accessed via a lift in a cave on the beach and a beach apartment in Barbados for Christmas.

We don't go out much so no one would ever know we were secretly still together.

Aldisfinest · 21/02/2023 00:02

In a heartbeat

VivienneDelacroix · 21/02/2023 00:05

I don't believe in soul mates, so I absolutely would. We'd both meet someone else if we wanted to. Personally though the thought of rattling around on my own in my mansion (with the kids) sounds like heaven!

PinkButtercups · 21/02/2023 00:14

Yep! Might even treat him to the expensive bin bags to put his clothes in.

PinkButtercups · 21/02/2023 00:14

But that being said if we were nothing getting 5 million he can transfer me back the money for the expensive bin bags.

PinkButtercups · 21/02/2023 00:15

Both* not nothing.

QueenOfHiraeth · 21/02/2023 00:16

Like a shot... Grin

SwordToFlamethrower · 21/02/2023 00:16

No, my dh is worth more than all the gold and diamonds in the world.

Feels good to say that!

Astrak · 21/02/2023 00:28

Definitely Not. He's my best mate and love of my life.

Littleroundsponge · 21/02/2023 00:30

Not for any amount of money!

threeplusmum · 21/02/2023 00:32

No I've learnt in life money isn't everything, but someone who loves and adores you is gold dust... I won't meet another guy like him

Itisbetter · 21/02/2023 00:33

Never. I’d sell everything and live in a box if I was with him (but no need to tell him 🤣)

KimberleyClark · 21/02/2023 00:36

No. My life would be so much poorer without him and £5 million wouldn’t make up for it

LuluBlakey1 · 21/02/2023 00:55

No. DC would hate him not being here.

dizzydizzydizzy · 21/02/2023 00:57

Sounds like a good deal. I'm trying to work out how to separate from DP. With that kind of money, I'd buy my own house and retire. Problem solved!

summerpoolandsun · 21/02/2023 00:58

No way. DH is my soulmate. I’d find 500K to keep him, whatever that took!

FavouriteSlippers · 21/02/2023 00:59

Nope

loubieloo4 · 21/02/2023 02:07

As someone who has just had a life insurance payout due to dh(42) having less than 6 months to live, and nowhere near 5mil.

No. Please take all the money and give me a healthy dh that I get to grow old with like we planned. 💔

Ponoka7 · 21/02/2023 07:12

If you had asked me during my marriage, it would have been a no. Having been widowed in my 30's, with three young children and later on having relationship breakups from men I could have spent my life with, I realise that actually, you can move on. Housing situations make a big difference as well. So as much as I'm enjoying life with my DP, it's a yes, especially as my GC have additional needs.