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be honest, if you and partner/dh were offered 5 million each to seperate...

338 replies

cutthelawn · 05/10/2022 21:35

Basically you can have all the custody of the kids if you want but you must separate permanently from your oh and you are both given 5 million each to start again would you do it>?

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AlwaysLatte · 06/10/2022 01:36

Nope!!

No499 · 06/10/2022 01:36

No, my DH is worth more to me than any money in the world

CoalCraft · 06/10/2022 01:50

No.

oneuptwodown · 06/10/2022 02:00

Thing is, you’re fucked as soon as the question is asked. How would you ever avoid “I gave up 5 million quid for THIS??!” every time he pisses you off or you have an argument. Which obviously would be wrong. And then you’re putting a monetary value on things….and then you get an inheritance….or you make amazing unforeseen career moves…or he loses out in a business deal….aaaaagh!! Nightmare!

2018SoFarSoGreat · 06/10/2022 02:54

Hell no. Not for 50 million!

StupidSmallFruit · 06/10/2022 03:06

Interesting question, and kind of reassuring that it took me a couple of seconds to land categorically on ‘no’.

I wouldn’t be happier with lots of money, but split from him.

Our DC definitely would not be happier.

We are comfortable, money-wise and although under other circumstances, I wouldn’t turn the money down, under these circs, I would.

I don’t think any of my good friends would take the money, either. Hmm, maybe one couple (maybe. I’d like to hope not, but maybe).

DaughterofDawn · 06/10/2022 03:56

StupidSmallFruit · 06/10/2022 03:06

Interesting question, and kind of reassuring that it took me a couple of seconds to land categorically on ‘no’.

I wouldn’t be happier with lots of money, but split from him.

Our DC definitely would not be happier.

We are comfortable, money-wise and although under other circumstances, I wouldn’t turn the money down, under these circs, I would.

I don’t think any of my good friends would take the money, either. Hmm, maybe one couple (maybe. I’d like to hope not, but maybe).

I feel the same. I would not be happier. If anything I would be more depressed than ever. Lonely and heart broken but stupid rich. Money would not heal my shattered heart and my baby would be torn to bits. She loves her mommy and daddy together in the same room. We have never been well off with money but we've always managed to push through hard times because we love each other.

kingtamponthefurred · 06/10/2022 03:58

I'm currently single but would like to proactively sign up for the money 😁

WarmBeerAndSandwiches · 06/10/2022 04:11

No, I’ve been I’ll this year and he’s the only thing that made life bearable. I wouldn’t swap him for any amount of money, he’s priceless.

WarmBeerAndSandwiches · 06/10/2022 04:14

Ill not I’ll! 🙄

FindingMeno · 06/10/2022 04:15

Yes!

strawberry2017 · 06/10/2022 04:26

topcat2014 · 05/10/2022 21:36

500k!

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autocollantes · 06/10/2022 05:48

Yes. Yes. YES!

I'd do it for less. But if you're offering 5 mil then that's what I'll take.

I've been buying lottery tickets in the hope of winning so that I can afford to divorce him from a position of financial security so he has less powers during the divorce. I would like to be considered equal to him and for him to know that he has no power over my life ie if he refuses to pay life than absolute basic legal requirements that it would not impact me. This is after he's sabotaged my career and financial future so that I'm always around to support him, enabling his career.

If would be a dream come true.

autocollantes · 06/10/2022 05:48
  • pay less than
garlictwist · 06/10/2022 05:57

Absolutely no way! Don't get me wrong, I would love to have 5 million pounds, but I love my OH much more and he adds things to my life that money just can't buy,

ChagSameachDoreen · 06/10/2022 06:04

I'd take the money then move us to another country, change our identities, and get back together with him.

Hillrunning · 06/10/2022 06:09

No, what would be the point in being rich and heartbroken?

MrTumblesSpottyHag · 06/10/2022 06:34

No, he's my best friend! We daydream about winning the big bucks on the euro millions but all of our plans to spend the fantasy money involve each other.
I'm not actually sure what I would spend the money on if I was alone 🤔

SleeplessInEngland · 06/10/2022 07:02

The much more interesting question is: do you think your partner do it for the money?

DucklingDaisy · 06/10/2022 07:16

Wouldn’t take it.

W0tnow · 06/10/2022 07:18

Well, he could buy the house next door….

AppleKatie · 06/10/2022 07:21

What do you mean by ‘permenantly’ how would that be policed?

would I do it for say a year and then quietly get back together? Well that’s a different question..,

hellcatspangle · 06/10/2022 07:51

Bloody hell, enough to buy me a little house by the sea would do it!

SaltyCrisp · 06/10/2022 07:52

SleeplessInEngland · 06/10/2022 07:02

The much more interesting question is: do you think your partner do it for the money?

I daren't ask 😂

SaltyCrisp · 06/10/2022 07:54

What do you mean by ‘permenantly’ how would that be policed?

Ankle tags. Or chips implanted in your eyeballs.