Be honest! Has anyone ever set out to marry a rich man and/or encouraged their daughters to do it?

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I was wondering as it seems to be the case with lots on Instagram influencers, as well as some women I know locally, that lots of women come from a low income working class background, have not had a career themselves and have just seemingly set out to marry a rich city type or business owner.

One woman that I know, who has three twentysomething daughters, has encouraged all three to marry rich men; two have done so, and married wealthy men far older than they are, and the third is still single but works in healthcare and has said she is 'trying to find a consultant' to be with.

Has anyone on here done this or do you encourage your daughters to marry someone wealthy?

I think we could all do with teaching our kids that marriage and kids doesn't have to be the end goal

That being happy on your own is just as important

@Topgub I'd definitely agree with that.

But how can you be sure a rich man will want to marry you ? Genuinely interested. And why would they necessarily marry a poor person ?
You would have to presumably move in his circles to get to know him?

I know someone who did. I always suspect those that marry purely for money have no actual personality to give so have to go down the superficial and subservient route.

I’m not saying it’s totally impossible for a girl from a poor background to access a high paying career but extremely hard to do. Hard for boys of a similar background too, tbh.

If you’re exceptional you might just make it, but really, how many of us are exceptional? I’m not.

Of course, I’m generalising massively here, but for many young people they will never move up in social class without marriage. How can you? It’s not a question of working hard; I put the hours in but no way was I ever going to scrape above a C in maths, science, other subjects that lend themselves to high pay. That’s true of many of us, and especially girls, it may be unpalatable to many but is true.

Lots of interesting responses there!

I often think that most football/sporting WAGs have married just for the money and lifestyle; I can think of lots of footballers that are not good looking but have a trophy wife. Said footballers usually can't keep their trousers in their pants either. No way would their wives just overlook that if they weren't rich. In interviews the WAGs always say they worked as a shop assistant or receptionist in a hairdressers or something before they met their spouse, so it's not like they had a high flying career and came into contact with them that way.

I live near a city that has a premiership football team; It's well known that some young women spend their time hanging around the bars the footballers frequent, hoping to start dating one.

This thread is interesting. One of the economic reasons for increasing inequality tin the UK over the last 40 years has been the rise of female graduates who partner only with graduates.
I pass no value judgement on this, but the thread seems to back that up. Women who do well in their careers consider a partner who is intellectually and economically equal important in a way that men don't

I set out to find a well educated, high achieving, intelligent, kind, sophisticated tastes and interests, handsome, family man.

I did.

And it turns out not surprisingly he’s very wealthy. Though I was mad about him from the first conversation and didn’t even know his job for a date or two and it was a year in before I knew anything about his investments.

But I earn enough myself to run the whole family single handedly so don’t feel ashamed that I’m attracted to the sort of men that do well in their careers.

I do find men attractive for their character and could have fallen for someone who was not wealthy easily. It wouldn’t have bothered me but I would regardless have pushed ahead for my own career.

I just don’t think it’s so simple as ‘going after a rich man’. I can categorically say I wouldn’t touch a rich man who I didn’t feel I could honestly love and make a partner of.

Are you talking about Mrs Bennett @FlorettaB ?!

My Mum worrying used to say to me “it’s as easy to love a rich man as it is a poor man “. I think she was joking…

Obviously avoiding a useless man who is rubbish with money is a good thing. But setting your stall at a rich man as your ticket to an easy life is quite another thing. Not for me and not for my daughters!

Not at all, but I encourage independence and hope she finds someone has good career too. It's difficult to be happy when you struggle financially so it is just as important.

If you just go for money then expect karma to bite. I must say it's really great working together to make money and gradually earning more together as the years go on.

Absolutely!

And when my DH decided ‘family life is not for me’ I had choices as an educated, working female; able to move away, able to bring our children up alone and provide them with a happy and principled life.

I valued myself. I could show my DC’s that I value ‘me’

No! Last time I checked we do not live in Jane Austen times and women have other options open to them to earn a living which isnt just marriage or inheriting!

Youre wasting your time anyway - the super rich marry each other to avoid this nonsense.

If I did, I failed miserably 😂

No but I accidentally ended up with one and it’s great!

Kate Middleton did spring to my mind too.

In Carol Middleton’s case. It worked.

If my daughter told me she was marrying someone well off I would be happier than if she married someone less well off. I am making the assumption that the relationship is just as good either way and that marrying wealth doesn't mean sacrificing love and respect

is this the type of shit that people who married poor men tell themselves to make themselves feel better or something? I happened to fall in love with someone rich, married him and he’s wonderful. No idea wtf this stupid quote is supposed to mean but I’m very lucky and certainly don’t feel that way!

Yes but then I fell in love with dh - a penniless post grad student.

I'd encourage my kids to be financially independent, and marry someone who was atleast their financial equal, and sensible with money. There are too many people with self esteem problems and too many money-grabbers andtoo many people with no financial sense that I've seen in my dating life.

Well, that's Kate and Pippa Middleton told.... 😂

Kate went to Marlborough college. On what planet was she from a low income background?

And now Kate is seemingly trapped in a marriage where her rich oh gets ficked by other women.

@Isaidnono

How many girls from poor council estates do you think are marrying rich men?

What a load of tosh, most women married to 'rich' men met them before they became rich and supported them to do so, often by giving up their careers to be the SAHM.