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About what I feed my child

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Sunshineonacloud · 04/10/2022 16:24

So at a recent 2 year olds party I noticed other kids eating and drinking stuff that my dc doesn't. I've noticed it a lot on playdates recently too..

My dc is 2.5 years old. We just give him milk and water to drink and veg puffs lentil chips and baby oat bars as snacks lots of fruit and veg. Occasionally chips or a slice of margarita pizza. The odd mini milk or lick or bite of our ice cream.

I've noticed children same age snacking on walkers crisps, drinking strong ribena, eating cupcakes, grown up biscuits like bourbons and nice's, midget gems etc.

I've also noticed my 2 year old being offered sugary biscuits and mini Cheddar at playgroups and when I decline I can tell people think I'm snooty. I'm not, I just thought I was supposed to follow guidelines. I'm a first time mum so enlighten me.. do most people let their kids eat whatever? Tbh it would make my life a lot easier 😂

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Jumperoo56370000 · 04/10/2022 17:00

I was strict until about 12-15 months. Then I had no choice but to relax because of other circumstances.

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MintyGreenDreams · 04/10/2022 17:01

Pmsl he'll be scoffing wotsits in no time

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dottiedodah · 04/10/2022 17:04

We used to feed treats like Biscuits /crisps (Pom Bear or cheesy Wotsits) Obv offer healthy foods at mealtimes.Often when out just more easy . There are no rules as such .We never gave DC chewy sweets or toffees as worried about teeth! Galaxy squares of chocolate or milky bars ok

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inheritanceshiteagain · 04/10/2022 17:08

Judgy

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outtheshowernow · 04/10/2022 17:08

Hahaha first child

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CheezePleeze · 04/10/2022 17:10

Sunshineonacloud · 04/10/2022 16:40

@CheezePleeze love that you googled this 😂

I can't believe you didn't to be honest.

I mean before you start inviting criticism of other parents who probably have.

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goodnightsugarpop · 04/10/2022 17:10

amazed you've held out this long OP, all the other middle class mummies I know in real life (including me) stuck to the organix veggie crisps until maybe 18 months at the outside. I gave my son a chocolate coin on his first Xmas (aged 8 months) and it was all downhill from there 🤣

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Mariposista · 04/10/2022 17:11

These parents will be the same ones bleating on here next time we have a heatwave that 'my child won't drink water, they only like sticky squash', or 'my child won't touch vegetables, he only eats crap'. You're doing fine.

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NotLactoseFree · 04/10/2022 17:11

I read your original post and thought, "but why isn't your child getting any protein or healthy carbs" then realised you were talking about snacks.

I'm not convinced that refusing a mini cheddar is necessary at all. The other stuff, well, I can't get too worked up about it. And I always resented paying the ridiculous amounts of "baby" snacks when a babybel and a couple of hula hoops were fine.

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Popaholic · 04/10/2022 17:11

I know loads of mums who control what their children eat so it is healthy. I would no more judge you for withholding crisps and sweet treats, than I would judge someone for insisting their child is vegetarian or only eats halal meat. You child, your choice.

The reason a lot of mums end up feeding their younger kids rubbish, is that older siblings eat it - and it is harder parenting to let one child have something and not the other.

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Dogtooth · 04/10/2022 17:11

I've never seen healthy children's party food work. They want crisps and biscuits at parties, not carrot sticks and hummus. Same goes for adults tbh.

We don't have junk food in the house as a rule (I'd count cereal bars and baby crisps as junk food btw, they're no less processed than mars bars and walkers). But when they're out or at parties, it's fine to have the odd bit of junk.

You can hold the line fairly well for a first child but for subsequent children the horse has bolted. And you don't really have the energy to fight!

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OriginalUsername3 · 04/10/2022 17:12

They're just shit parents. You're definitely better than them.

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LizTrussIsACylon · 04/10/2022 17:13

Thing is if you don't allow them to have any of it then it becomes like forbidden fruit and they'll binge on the stuff when it's eventually presented to them.

My two eat that kind of crap at parties, soft play etc but that's because it's a special occasion. They have a good diet at home. It's all about balance.

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SarahSissions · 04/10/2022 17:14

#humblebrag

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Doowop1919 · 04/10/2022 17:14

It's all about balance. Nothing wrong with bourbons and walkers too. Especially if he's having a well rounded diet.

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Happyhappyday · 04/10/2022 17:15

We’re pretty strict, don’t have much processed food in the house, unless you consider flour, sugar etc processed. Do home bake muffins with reduced sugar reasonably often. But also don’t police parties. I won’t offer her sweets but if she asks she can have a few at a birthday party. She basically never asks though (4yo) because she doesn’t even know what most of it is. She only recently learned about juice but we don’t have it at home.

TBF most of our friends/her school is similar so not super difficult to avoid. We’re actually banned from sending prepackaged things in lunches.

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PopcornParty · 04/10/2022 17:18

Adult Crisps 😂😂

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Snoken · 04/10/2022 17:19

I can see the benefits of staying away from ultra processed foods for as long as possible, but a lot of what OP has listed are just that. I can also see that an oat bar could provide more fibre than a custard cream per 100gr (but I haven’t googled that) and thus be more nutritious. At 2 years old though my kids didn’t get to drink any sugare drinks, not even juice, and it wasn’t until about 4 years old when they started to like apple juice, they are both adults now and neither likes fizzy drinks as they find it too sweet.

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BryceQuinlanTheFirst · 04/10/2022 17:21

I really couldn't get het up about a mini cheddar.

I'd never willingly give my child an ice puppy slush or that type of thing but really a few crisps doesn't bother me.

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ElmtreeMama · 04/10/2022 17:23

Favour237 · 04/10/2022 16:34

There isn’t a guideline for your sons age, or a minimum age for crisps or biscuits. We’re not really snackers but my son the same age will usually try a bit of what we’re having, or at a party will have the crisps and fruit shoots etc.

Although today I did see a baby about 18 months swigging from a bottle or Dr Pepper so I think you might be the two ends of the spectrum. Balance is usually a better idea.

I really hope this wasn't my baby!
We were waiting agggges for the bus and so I let her hold my bottle not drink from it though but I saw a few sideways looks from others so started loudly saying
Shall I get your water out for you 🤣🤣I promise she wasn't drinking it if it was us!

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HighlandPony · 04/10/2022 17:24

Yep mine just get whatever. I’m sure waaayyy back when my number 1 was a toddler I probably attempted to stick to healthy snacks but as time went on and more babies arrived I loosened up. Especially at parties. It’s not like they get wotsits and Fanta for tea every night.

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FirstAidKitNowPlease · 04/10/2022 17:25

CheezePleeze · 04/10/2022 16:39

According to Google there's 8.1g of sugar in an Organix Oaty Bar.

There's 3.6g in a Bourbon biscuit.

Anyone else really fancy a bourbon now? That's no euphemism 😂

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00100001 · 04/10/2022 17:26

BryceQuinlanTheFirst · 04/10/2022 17:21

I really couldn't get het up about a mini cheddar.

I'd never willingly give my child an ice puppy slush or that type of thing but really a few crisps doesn't bother me.

What's wrong with a slush drink?

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diddl · 04/10/2022 17:26

what the flip are adult crisps?

www.tantetomate.de/Chips/128/PorNo-KesselChips

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Thatboymum · 04/10/2022 17:27

Mine ate loads of shit at that age but also loads of healthy things , it’s all about the balance, at that age mine would have laughed in my face if I said they could only eat fruit veg and oats

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