AIBU, I have been asked by a close friend to host a party in my house for them. I'll be 9 months pregnant by the day of the party and I'm already tired all the time but I don't feel like I can say no. I would have thought that some consideration would have been given to the fact I'm pregnant before they even asked but they recently did helped me out with something which they pushed to do but was helpful (nothing on this scale) so now I feel obliged. My main concern about the whole thing is having a bunch of strangers in my house (20-30 people), the possibility of picking up a cold/flu and the deep clean that will have to happen after the event because tidying is not the same as cleaning. DH says he will manage the day and sort out all the cleaning after but I just don't feel comfortable with the whole thing. AIBU?
AIBU?
I have been asked to host a party for a friend in my house while 9 months pregnant
BrinaEds · 04/10/2022 13:20
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLjustasking111 · 04/10/2022 13:24
Be very devious and with a straight face tell everyone you're going in early for observation and a possible induction due to your blood pressure being a concern
CaptainMum · 04/10/2022 13:53
Serve it back to them. "No, I'm so sorry that won't be possible. I could bake and freeze a few puddings in advance for you?"
LimeTwists · 04/10/2022 13:43
“That doesn’t work for me. At nine months pregnant, I don’t want to take on the planning and hosting of your party.’
It needs to be this simple, OP. I’m a really anxious people-pleaser and even I would put my foot down at this ridiculous, thoughtless idea of theirs. Why isn’t your husband being more assertive as well? Doesn’t he think it’s ridiculous?!
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BrinaEds · 04/10/2022 14:38
Thanks for all the advice! This was my first post so wasn't comfortable saying it was my in-laws at first but I really appreciate the comments. AINBU but DH has to be the one to advocate for me on this occasion as it's his family. I just don't understand why he doesn't see it as an issue. And yes it's our first child together.
BrinaEds · 04/10/2022 14:38
Thanks for all the advice! This was my first post so wasn't comfortable saying it was my in-laws at first but I really appreciate the comments. AINBU but DH has to be the one to advocate for me on this occasion as it's his family. I just don't understand why he doesn't see it as an issue. And yes it's our first child together.
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