To question my DH about the bizarre items ive found?

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I've been away for work, I have come back to find items that certainly aren't mine, some quite bizarre things. A top, pink nail clippers, womens razor, small makeup pallete, all things that don't belong to me. My DD had also said to me on face time when I was away that DH was talking to a lady in the shower on the phone (she is only 5) so I didn't question her I just left it.
He also keeps checking my phone when I'm not in the room which is adding to my suspicion as that isnt normal behaviour for him.
I feel a bit silly really, it's a few random items but I know they do not belong to me and i feel like hes being weird. I'm not sure now if I'm over thinking or if I should genuinely ask him who the fuck the pink nail clippers belong to 😳😂AIBU to ask or am I being a twat? How do I go forward with this? Any help greatly appreciated.

Well either this is his way of trying to tell you something by making you ask him, or he's one of these very daft people who don't really notice things around them and think you won't either! Very strange and not good behaviour, whatever the explanation.

I was thinking those items are the list glam. So more likely to belong to him!!

Can we have a picture of the top?!

I had a weird thought - I wonder if men have admitted to cross dressing when things like this have been found, rather than telling the truth about cheating?

I can't help with the others but DH once had pink tweezers and I was like ???? PINK.

They were his mums, which I found out when we got a message asking where they were, he had stolen them / 'borrowed' them for his unibrow.

You are very calm about this.

Some people get very calm when it is obvious the shit is going to hit the fan.

(Doesn't necessarily mean they don't go and wibble out later on though. But this calmness in me personally tells me that a concern of mine really is very serious or potentially so.)

My DH worked a lot and seemed to be either at work or with us. Turned out he',d been having an affair for 8 years.
We worked through it but it was horrendous at the time. It's been over for 24 years now but sometimes I feel hurt about it. Just ask him and then decide how you feel.

Where specifically were the items discovered?

If he was cross dressing, shaving his legs etc why would he buy a women's razor? Surely he could just use his own?

I vote affair, and the woman wants you to know.

I'm like that. The more stressful a situation is, the more logical and calm (or 'cold' as my ex said) I become. It serves me well :)

Same. I get coldly calm. Maybe it’s from the job I do.

later I collapse and can’t control my emotion

I knew someone who used to cross dress when I was younger we would hang out and go shopping and he always had those items with him to shave areas when trying on new outfits ect..

Thought people's suggestions were bit wild with that but can actually see that being a reason.

If he had another woman round surely she wouldn't be clipping her toenails at your house ! Gather it all together present him with it and say ' who do these belong to?'

This is very odd! Before you ask him about the items I would ask if anyone stayed at the weekend. Could his sister or mum have stayed over to help him with the kids? If not, then like others have said it's cheating or cross dressing 😔

You found all of that in one day?

I don’t have any explanation but I don’t think it’s anything dodgy as I don’t believe anyone would leave their stuff lying around for you to find so easily.

Unless that person wanted the OP to either suspect or know?!

Who the fuck brings nail clippers and a lady razor to their lovers house? You do all that grooming stuff beforehand, unless they are that long shagging that it's normal to clip toenails in front of each other.

She's given him an ultimatum, hence him hovering over your phone. And also giving you clues to 'find out' about them. Things that only belong to an adult female and wouldn't be for a 5 year old.

I mean pink nail clippers is the sort of random thing I could see a 5yo latching onto in a shop and my OH buying just for an easy life.

The rest is odd though and I'd deff be asking him where they came from!

Hes either cross dressing or cheating. And he is happy for you to find out, this is his way of doing it.

Dodgy as fuck, that. LTB. Don't waste any time fretting about him, move on!

Quite. There’s another woman’s stuff in your home that arrived while you were away, coupled with a tot behaviour change. Why on earth do you feel ‘silly’ for wanting to ask him what the fuck he’s playing at?

Do people leave nail clippers around 5 year olds?

Why? Have you left one behind somewhere??

They are hardly bizarre items. They are obviously all items which belong to another female who is not you. You need to confront your DH.