To question my DH about the bizarre items ive found?

[NameChangeHoney]

I've been away for work, I have come back to find items that certainly aren't mine, some quite bizarre things. A top, pink nail clippers, womens razor, small makeup pallete, all things that don't belong to me. My DD had also said to me on face time when I was away that DH was talking to a lady in the shower on the phone (she is only 5) so I didn't question her I just left it.
He also keeps checking my phone when I'm not in the room which is adding to my suspicion as that isnt normal behaviour for him.
I feel a bit silly really, it's a few random items but I know they do not belong to me and i feel like hes being weird. I'm not sure now if I'm over thinking or if I should genuinely ask him who the fuck the pink nail clippers belong to 😳😂AIBU to ask or am I being a twat? How do I go forward with this? Any help greatly appreciated.

I wouldn't answer. She will be calling having said to your H "I'll talk to her" you, the unreasonable one who she loves to slag off.

I wouldn't answer either.

Do you have a decent relationship with his mum?

@AgathaX she was slagging her off to her husband (I assume in messages) so I'm not sure they do anymore

I wouldn't. You don't owe her anything. She was slagging you off with him!

Ignore her calls she will only try to make excuses for the lieing cheating double crossing bastard.

I'd probably have to answer to find out what she wants.

It'll probably be a torrent of abuse for kicking him out though or blaming you for the affair.

His mother? The woman who snagged you off in messages to him?
I'd be sending a quick message to tell her that I'd read the messaged between her and her son, I now know what she thinks of me so have no interest in hearing what she has to say about your marriage.

This.

I know it will all be money related.
She only seems to like me when they want my money.
Thats going to stop now, so I don't think she will be to pleased.

@NameChangeHoney

Yes answer who cares what she has to say? Let her know you saw her msgs too if she wants to get sassy.

I don't think I'd offer an explanation to anyone from his family. It's your marriage. Lean in to your family all you can, though.
Don't waste any more time with the OW. Yes, she's a shite cunt and so is your spouse. But, he is the one responsible for damaging your relationship, not her. It was his choice to bring her into your family home, and please excuse the old-fashioned phrase, the marital bed. And worse, expose your child to the affair. That is beyond reproach in my book. Very irresponsible and damaging all around.
Moving forward, I'd seek counselling to deal with the trauma and betrayal and help rebuild self-esteem. I'd also seek it for DC.
it's not your responsibility to understand and help DP. He broke your family. Family is sacred.
He needs to fix himself and make the best relationship he can, full effort, with you and DC.
Whatever you end up doing, separation, divorce, reconciliation, is up to you. Please just don't make any decisions until you have some time apart. Whatever that means to you. Don't be desperate or idealistic. Don't cling to the past. You can't afford that for your sake and DC. Things have changed.
I hope you find a way forward from this nightmare with dignity. I am wishing a healed heart for you. 💕

I know it will all be money related.
She only seems to like me when they want my money.
Thats going to stop now, so I don't think she will be to pleased.

Oh dear what a shame for her she is about to reap what her and her pathetic son have sown.

I'd ignore/block her @NameChangeHoney why waste your listening, thinking time and breath on her? You don't need to hear whatever she has to say, it's irrelevant.

very pleased that he is out of the house, you’ll get a chance to get your head straight.

He's probably getting her to phone begging you to take him back. You sound well out of it from the pair of them. Especially now you know she was slagging you off while you helped her out with money. Nice. As for the bunny boiler I can understand the things in the ensuite being missed but hiding things in your drawers was calculated. She did that on purpose to split you up.

I say to her the same as I said to him. Don't answer, don't engage. If you wanted to listen to an arsehole, you'd fart. She won't be saying anything helpful to you so don't bother with the bitch.

I love this so much!

Do you want to speak to her ?

Unless you have something to say, block her. Don't waste your time listening to her opinion.

And get the locks changed.

I'm intrigued as to what MIL wants to say given you know they've been talking about you. I gather he's gone to hers?

Well done OP, I’m impressed you tackled it straight away and he thought he had managed to hide it all on his phone. Wrong. Don’t let him creep back, you know he will try. He is sorry, only happened once, he will do anything blah blah blah. Then in a week or 2, he will probably be shacked up with her or some other woman. That’s the way it tends to go.

Stay strong, lean on your family & friends, people who love and respect you

Hope your enjoying the wine and the chat OP. You will heal in time. Just surround yourself with the people who care about you the most.

I'd text her the truth and then block her.

So sorry this has happened to you Op. I have a feeling you're a survivor though.

I'm sorry this has happened but I'm pleased you have found out pretty swift. Look after yourself now as adrenaline has kept you up, but sadness will come and we will still be here for you

Agree to changing the locks and reclaiming the space. Applaud your courageous action Op.