To question my DH about the bizarre items ive found?

[NameChangeHoney]

I've been away for work, I have come back to find items that certainly aren't mine, some quite bizarre things. A top, pink nail clippers, womens razor, small makeup pallete, all things that don't belong to me. My DD had also said to me on face time when I was away that DH was talking to a lady in the shower on the phone (she is only 5) so I didn't question her I just left it.
He also keeps checking my phone when I'm not in the room which is adding to my suspicion as that isnt normal behaviour for him.
I feel a bit silly really, it's a few random items but I know they do not belong to me and i feel like hes being weird. I'm not sure now if I'm over thinking or if I should genuinely ask him who the fuck the pink nail clippers belong to 😳😂AIBU to ask or am I being a twat? How do I go forward with this? Any help greatly appreciated.

I'm hoping he's not employed in the secret service, he'd be very bad and not being detected!

Did he think you weren't clever enough to find the evidence?! He sounds think as well as a cheat.

Enjoy your wine.

Wow, well done OP for kicking him out, bastard.

Did he want to get caught though, I mean who is stupid enough to leave all that crap out for his wife to find?

Also, who the fuck takes a razor and nail clippers with them when they nip around for a shag with their married ex?

Did he think you weren't clever enough to find the evidence?! He sounds think as well as a cheat.

No he left them out for OP to find so she would kick him out and he could go be with the OW.

Why else would he block the OWs number from his phone on the day OP came home.

Thank goodness your lovely friend is coming over later.

What a shock this must have been.

Omg handled so well OP, I am sure you will have a time when it all comes over you but use the adrenaline for now to get through this bit.

Bravo OP!!

Out of interest, how do you find blocked conversations on WhatsApp?!?!

You are a legend @NameChangeHoney

He is a scumbag.

Glad you have the house & car.

I am guessing she planted her items, the dimwit H wont have been intelligent enough to check & cover up.
She set him up for this

My gut feeling is that she set him up.
He's left now.
He tried telling me it was only once. She was in a bad place and it just happened and then she wouldnt leave him alone. Take her to a fucking therapist not my fucking bed if thats the case, not that i believe any of it.
No way she planned leaving items of hers around my house on their first fuckfest.

Wow OP this must have been a huge shock!
Agree with the PP about shitting in his shoes 😁

Exactly this. He probably had no idea that the make up, razor etc weren’t the OP’s so it didn’t set off any alarm bells when he saw them. My DH wouldn’t have the faintest idea what eyeshadow palettes I own or where I keep them.

I’ve heard of women secretly tipping off the wife/girlfriend after finding out they were (unwittingly) the OW, for example a blonde woman leaving silver shampoo at his house for his brunette girlfriend to find. Most men wouldn’t know what silver shampoo is but many women would know what it meant.

However, this OW has obviously done it maliciously. Adding OP on facebook is extra brazen.

Men really are trash and I’m sick of certain women who entertain it.

She definitely planned it. Bunny boiler slag. Well at least you have your dignity. Your ex should be ashamed of himself bringing back someone to your house where your children are. Literally no respect for any of the women in his life ???

like others have said, shag his dad. Shag his best friend. Good riddance to the scum bag!

It was definitely planted.

Is he gone yet? Call the police to escort him out if he refuses to go.

She was in a bad place and it just happened

It always 'just happens' doesn't it? Pathetic. Of course the answer to someone being in a bad place is to have a fuck, seriously how can someone come out with shit and expect to be believed or forgiven?

He's gone

What a stupid comment. They are married. It is his home. The police will not remove him unless he has been violent and needs arrested.

Do you seriously think you can call the police to remove your spouse from your marital home just because you've had a falling out?

Honey, you’re right. Cheaters always lie when they’re rumbled. He is scrambling for damage limitation. Their affair was already going on when OW added you on FB a month ago. This latest assignation at your house was not their only rodeo.

Ffs. There's always one who gets carried away.

Oh man went to bed reading and woke up yo thos devastating outcome, OP you sound amazing strong!
What a loser to risk so much... For what.

I was here 5 years ago and I stayed and forgave and all it did was five hom a greenlight to disrespect me further l, including to slagging off between him and his poisonous mother.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

His mother keeps calling me. I don't know if I should answer. I'm not sure what she is going to say or how I'm going to respond.

Yes as OP said the house and cars are in her name.

Tell her what he did and refuse to discuss anything other than his porn addiction and then slagging you off