AIBU help or not.

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We are in a diocese house (vicarage)with two adults, one child. The house has four bedrooms and we use two. We have been asked to house someone who is fleeing domestic violence. Its a woman.
There are other people who could do this nearby without kids but they have declined to.
We both work full time but the pressure is on as the higher ups in our parish feel its our duty. I want to help, husband wants to help but I don't feel I have it in me to live with someone who is a complete stranger for an unspecified period someone who will understandably be emotionally scarred and need support as well as everything else. We are told its our Christian duty and as we have free rooms we should but surely there are other ways to help. What would everyone else do...please don't shoot me down.

Your house is part of your partner's salary package, not a 'free' house. It is your home not a halfway house for the Diocese or any other agency to decide to use for the placement of a vulnerable person. The correct place for this person is in the care of a women's shelter who can provide appropriate support. What you do professionally is irrelevant. It is not any part of your responsibility to give space in your home to this person and indeed I would suggest that it is a breach of CofE safeguarding protocol.
Suggest your partner speaks to the safeguarding team for support and advice.

But they are helping her, or trying to, but she's not helping herself as she won't leave the area or leave her dog!

Refusing to hone her in their home is absolutely not the same as refusing to help her.

Good update OP. Seems very reasonable to me

The women needs to take some responsibility for herself and her decisions. If the ex is so risk and unpredictable then why won’t she leave the area?

@EL8888 She wants to stay local as her daughter lives close by and grandchildren. Although she won't have her stay (also won't have the dog). The woman herself is not knowing where to go and not making the best decisions about things which is understandable. I made some enquiries for her but there is nothing in the area also I can't just ring her! I'll have to wait.