To feel mortified ...

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

... that my new next door neighbour came round at 11.15 in her pyjamas to tell me that my TV was so loud it kept her awake? I genuinely had no idea.

I had the radio on through the TV, which is downstairs, whilst I was working upstairs, and I turned it up so I could hear it. I've done this before but the previous neighbour never said anything so I was not aware it was a problem. I live in a mid terrace and the TV is on the wall that joins to her house. She also told me it was loud last week (this I'm not sure about, as I only watched it one evening and I was sitting in front of it).

She only moved in on Wednesday! I feel a total fool. It really wasn't THAT loud but obviously too loud for her.

Nightmare neighbour? Give over!

Don't feel mortified, OP, it's not a big deal. You sound approachable and considerate! It's not like you told her to fuck off and turned the volume up.

Also, I can't stand over-sharers. Big red flag, they always push boundaries and are self centered. I'm sure you will, but keep her at arms length as best you can with a neighbour!

I was being sarcastic Janice, I know exactly how all these work. It's posters here think I don't have a clue.

It sounds like you were just a bit thoughtless. Maybe you should be a bit more mindful of your noise in the coming weeks to to teach yourself to be mindful of your neighbour. In the end you both just want to get along so it's really good that she informed you of the noise so soon.

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The fact she's come from a place with lots of problems with noise is a little concerning. Hopefully she's not looking for the kind of new start where she's moved in expecting everyone around her to live in complete silence and tip toe around. You'll soon know if the complaints become regular even if you aren't being too loud. People who have had serious problems with noise tend to become intolerant of even normal everyday household noise eventually.

Easily done, but always something to watch out for I think 💕

She did say that the next door neighbour previously used to slam the door and demonstrated to me how she demonstrated to him how he should close the door!

I've done similar, watched a re run of a show much later than it usually airs and lost track of time, played music and then realised it was later than I expected so turned the volume down. In my defense it was a very rare child free night otherwise they would have been in bed and I would have been more aware of the time.

She raised it and you'll be mindful in the future so no need to be embarrassed. Sounds like she felt bad or maybe felt she came on too strong so overshared to find common ground.