To feel mortified ...

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

... that my new next door neighbour came round at 11.15 in her pyjamas to tell me that my TV was so loud it kept her awake? I genuinely had no idea.

I had the radio on through the TV, which is downstairs, whilst I was working upstairs, and I turned it up so I could hear it. I've done this before but the previous neighbour never said anything so I was not aware it was a problem. I live in a mid terrace and the TV is on the wall that joins to her house. She also told me it was loud last week (this I'm not sure about, as I only watched it one evening and I was sitting in front of it).

She only moved in on Wednesday! I feel a total fool. It really wasn't THAT loud but obviously too loud for her.

Do you seriously think I'd deliberately piss off a brand new neighbour just for a laugh?

I don’t know why you’d do it but I know no one is that stupid.

No one would turn their music up so loud that they can hear it upstairs and then be shocked that the neighbour can also hear it.

I clearly am stupid, then.

Nothing wrong? Blasting music from downstairs so you can hear it upstairs and forcing your neighbours to listen to it as well at 11pm? 😂

I mentioned earlier (and am sure have written about it before), but I had neighbours who, not only played music that was not to my taste very loudly, they put an amplifier in the garden (bunch of young men, bonfire, weed etc etc). Two tunes they played were "Wouldn't it be nice - to get on with your neighbours?" - and "Better off alone". Lovely. Smartarses.

The girlfriend (young mum) had her younger sister round, and she played her phone music very very loud, again, in the garden - about 6 feet away. I asked as nicely as I could that she lower the volume, and she disappeared inside, only for seconds later the neighbour to come out screeching at me (I am old enough to be HER mother) that I "shouldn't try to control what other people do!", and "We'll do it even louder now!" She didn't even hear my mild suggestion of headphones, which is what I thought "they all" (lol) did nowadays....

THAT is an example of nightmare neighbours - which is actually a broad spectrum that I don't even think @ImJustMadAboutSaffron is on. More likely her neighbour will turn out to be one.

My neighbours have moved, but relatives of theirs (the younger sister, now with a baby, I think?) have moved in 😩

strange question in the first place

is it some kind of bingo you are playing op?

should i be mortified for playing loud music late at night
yes or no

Honestly, you should be mortified. You don’t need your neighbour to complain to know that having your radio / TV on loud volume means it will probably reach your neighbour. It’s called being a considerate neighbour.

This is why I won’t be having a tv put on our wall.

We live in a semi detached house, with paper thin walls, this would most probably mean that any sound, especially bass, would travel easier to next door, if the tv was fixed to the shared wall.

Even without my tv being in a wall, I wouldn’t turn the sound up so loud to be able to hear it upstairs.

I probably would have felt the same as you, OP, but at least you now know and can think of other ways to enjoy listening to the radio. I have Alexa upstairs that is great for this.

Got to laugh at some of these replies! Such drama. Neighbour from hell? Op, clearly you're not, as you didn't realise how much your neighbour could hear so clearly, and once you knew, you rectified it. Not my idea of a neighbour from hell.

All should be good now, although she might be one of those that can hear a mouse fart a mile away and will need to moan at you about it.

You might get sympathetic responses then. MN is so strange sometimes.

good idea about swapping numbers for any future misdemeanours contact though

So simplistic. You can clearly see that backstory is needed.
And I would BET she was NOT paying the music loudly. Bet.

I think that might be regretted at some point.

We live and learn, eh? The important thing is that you've apologised and will modify your behaviour. Don't let it sour your relationship - hopefully you can both move on now and be friends in the future. Buy yourself a radio for upstairs.

Did you not read the OP where she said she was playing it really loudly?

Actually I didn't say that at all.

I intended to chat with her today but she waylaid me as I was leaving the house and kept me chatting for half an hour at least when I was trying to get away for a cider festival!

She said her daughter thought she was over the top and hoped I wasn't offended. We discussed that and all seems fine.

Then she told me about her dead husband and her ex, her two sisters who are bitches and her parents who are dead but she's not bothered about her mum. Then about everyone shagging loudly in the last flat complex she lived in and screaming arguments, taking drugs and cheating. And asked me if I swear because she does. All TMI for me.

And she just wants a quiet life!

you said you were playing it downstairs loud enough to listen to upstairs but ok

It’s ok @ImJustMadAboutSaffron most people don’t lead such boring lives they have to come on here and pick to shreds the most non-story of stories (no offence meant!) in order to make themselves sound more interesting.

YANBU to be a bit embarrassed and now you know the sound carries. Easily resolved and your neighbour seems fine.

That does not necessarily mean "loudly" (rolls eyes)
I can hear my radio upstairs - the house is small and open plan, the radio is on the other (external) wall. But I listen to Radio 4, so that's not so much music. However, I also play anything from Def Leppard to Lady Gaga to Beethoven on the stereo, or through Bluetooth/Amazon Music.

No-one else hears it.

It all depends.
What the heck is wrong with people on here?

@ImJustMadAboutSaffron I think [predict] you may live to regret engaging with this neighbour 😉

we used to hear our old neighbour's telly through the wall,
he was hard of hearing.

It's loud if you can hear it properly on another floor, don't be obtuse

Meh, you know now, you've apologised, you will be more mindful in future. Nothing to feel mortified about, these things happen.

Bless you, sounds like you’re not very tech literate

you could have listened to the radio from a device upstairs - your phone, a laptop, a tablet, smart home devices like google home, a speaker, an actual radio etc. There’s probably more that I’m missing. If you don’t have a suitable device, just buy one as they’re not expensive. You can’t just crank up your TV volume so it transcends walls and ceilings and then be shocked your neighbours can’t sleep.