Who is BU - restaurant choices.
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:02
I'm going to do that tedious A and B thing, sorry!
Person A has just had a baby and is dieting, she also has a dairy allergy. Person B asked Person A (and her children) to go out for lunch, and Person A agreed. Person B is having some financial difficulties. There was no discussion about which restaurant to go to.
Person B booked a restaurant where main meals cost £10-£15 and told Person A she's booked it. Person A doesn't like this option because all the options she can eat are over 1000 calories and aren't the type of food she likes. It's the opposite side of town from Person A's house and would require two buses to get to. Person B has suggested picking Person A up and that she could have a one-off treat.
Person A suggested a restaurant in town where main meals cost £12-£16. Person B doesn't like this because it's more expensive and there's no free parking. Person A has offered to pay for Person B and has said that Person B can park at her house (obviously for free).
Person B doesn't want to be paid for by Person A and thinks Person A is being unreasonable. Person A doesn't want to eat extra calories (especially for a meal that she won't enjoy) and thinks Person B is being unreasonable.
YABU - Go to the cheaper, higher calorie place.
YANBU - Go to the more expensive, healthier place.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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phishy · 02/10/2022 19:34
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:34
Are you not embarrassed?
I'm using this site, with a friend, to gauge opinion on a trivial, light-hearted dispute. You're using it, alone, to hurl petty abuse at strangers. Of the two of us, I think I know who I'd rather be.
CountingCrowns · 29/09/2022 12:32
are you both not embarrassed? you should be
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:31
Don't worry, we don't want to be friends with you either.
CountingCrowns · 29/09/2022 12:30
i couldn’t be friends with either of you. sitting huddled round mumsnet waiting to be told what to do with your overly detailed pointless dilemma
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:28
By the way, A and B are both here and reviewing - we're not falling out over this, it's not that deep, we just need help deciding where to go.
A would like to add that she doesn't want to spend money and calories on eating half a portion of food she doesn't like, has used up all her calories and is still hungry.
B, equally, doesn't want to just order a starter because she'll also be left hungry.
(B would like to add that A is thinner than her and doesn't need to diet and A would like to add that B has more money than her)
I agree with OP. You were unnecessarily snippy, @CountingCrowns , OP can post what she likes.
Cw112 · 02/10/2022 20:02
I wouldn't be putting someone under pressure to pay more than they feel able to. Because its not just the price of the meal it's also the parking and the petrol costs and they must be on a really tight budget to say that's an issue for them. Offering to pay for them is kind of demeaning and probably embarrassed them when they've already told you their budget and given an option that worked within that budget. I would suggest either going to the cheaper place and then doing a walk together afterwards to burn some calories/pick salad option. Or say that you're at an impasse and offer to make them lunch instead so one doesnt need to pay and the other can eat what they want. I think both are being overly controlling in this scenario but its easier to go over your calories and supplement with exercise and healthier eating the rest of the week to balance it out than it is to spend money you don't have.
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