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Who is BU - restaurant choices.

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BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:02

I'm going to do that tedious A and B thing, sorry!

Person A has just had a baby and is dieting, she also has a dairy allergy. Person B asked Person A (and her children) to go out for lunch, and Person A agreed. Person B is having some financial difficulties. There was no discussion about which restaurant to go to.

Person B booked a restaurant where main meals cost £10-£15 and told Person A she's booked it. Person A doesn't like this option because all the options she can eat are over 1000 calories and aren't the type of food she likes. It's the opposite side of town from Person A's house and would require two buses to get to. Person B has suggested picking Person A up and that she could have a one-off treat.

Person A suggested a restaurant in town where main meals cost £12-£16. Person B doesn't like this because it's more expensive and there's no free parking. Person A has offered to pay for Person B and has said that Person B can park at her house (obviously for free).

Person B doesn't want to be paid for by Person A and thinks Person A is being unreasonable. Person A doesn't want to eat extra calories (especially for a meal that she won't enjoy) and thinks Person B is being unreasonable.

YABU - Go to the cheaper, higher calorie place.
YANBU - Go to the more expensive, healthier place.

OP posts:

Am I being unreasonable?


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lljkk · 02/10/2022 19:08

Who is looking after A's baby?


Caroffee · 02/10/2022 19:17

You are both being unreasonable because you both want your own way and aren't prepared to compromise. The main meals effectively cost the same price so price isn't a consideration.


Beelezebub · 02/10/2022 19:24

Mega bucket from KFC and an agreement that if it’s this complicated you should just do rock, paper, scissors next time or not bother.


TwoWrightFeet · 02/10/2022 19:31

Person C thinks they are both idiots.


phishy · 02/10/2022 19:34

BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:34

Are you not embarrassed?

I'm using this site, with a friend, to gauge opinion on a trivial, light-hearted dispute. You're using it, alone, to hurl petty abuse at strangers. Of the two of us, I think I know who I'd rather be.

I agree with OP. You were unnecessarily snippy, @CountingCrowns , OP can post what she likes.


GettingStuffed · 02/10/2022 19:36

Go to 'Spoons they have an under 500 caps and are cheaper than either


ScurryfungeMaster · 02/10/2022 19:37

Both are being unreasonable. Why not just meet somewhere for a coffee and a light lunch type thing. It's meant to be fun


LuckySantangelo35 · 02/10/2022 19:37

lljkk · 02/10/2022 19:08

Who is looking after A's baby?

I know right! Her place is at home with the baby


Liz1tummypain · 02/10/2022 19:46

One of them could go round to the other's place for a cup of tea and one or even two biscuits.


TheWomanTheyCallJayne · 02/10/2022 19:53

I feel that some are taking this far more seriously than they should.
The comments about being thin/richer made me chuckle. Sounds like the kind of good humoured bickering I have with my friends sometimes.


Hurdling · 02/10/2022 19:55

You both sound like you don’t really want to meet up you’re both being unreasonable!


antelopevalley · 02/10/2022 19:57

Is the issue that the difference in main meals only be a few pound, but drinks are much cheaper at the other place?


Cw112 · 02/10/2022 20:02

I wouldn't be putting someone under pressure to pay more than they feel able to. Because its not just the price of the meal it's also the parking and the petrol costs and they must be on a really tight budget to say that's an issue for them. Offering to pay for them is kind of demeaning and probably embarrassed them when they've already told you their budget and given an option that worked within that budget. I would suggest either going to the cheaper place and then doing a walk together afterwards to burn some calories/pick salad option. Or say that you're at an impasse and offer to make them lunch instead so one doesnt need to pay and the other can eat what they want. I think both are being overly controlling in this scenario but its easier to go over your calories and supplement with exercise and healthier eating the rest of the week to balance it out than it is to spend money you don't have.


Charlize43 · 02/10/2022 20:26

Person A & Person B need to get lives if they are quibbling over a couple of quid difference.

Clearly the solution is to agree to go to one place one time and the other the next.


surreygirl1987 · 02/10/2022 20:40

Both are ridiculous and should just cancel - not worth it.

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