I'm going to do that tedious A and B thing, sorry!
Person A has just had a baby and is dieting, she also has a dairy allergy. Person B asked Person A (and her children) to go out for lunch, and Person A agreed. Person B is having some financial difficulties. There was no discussion about which restaurant to go to.
Person B booked a restaurant where main meals cost £10-£15 and told Person A she's booked it. Person A doesn't like this option because all the options she can eat are over 1000 calories and aren't the type of food she likes. It's the opposite side of town from Person A's house and would require two buses to get to. Person B has suggested picking Person A up and that she could have a one-off treat.
Person A suggested a restaurant in town where main meals cost £12-£16. Person B doesn't like this because it's more expensive and there's no free parking. Person A has offered to pay for Person B and has said that Person B can park at her house (obviously for free).
Person B doesn't want to be paid for by Person A and thinks Person A is being unreasonable. Person A doesn't want to eat extra calories (especially for a meal that she won't enjoy) and thinks Person B is being unreasonable.
YABU - Go to the cheaper, higher calorie place.
YANBU - Go to the more expensive, healthier place.
AIBU?
Who is BU - restaurant choices.
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:02
Am I being unreasonable?
557 votes. Final results.
POLLDerbee · 29/09/2022 14:25
Both sound too tiring to bother with. Person A is unreasonable dieting as soon as they’ve had a baby.
Person B is unreasonable for thinking that £2 per main meal is an expensive option vs a
cheap option.
LuckySantangelo35 · 29/09/2022 15:44
@Derbee
what’s unreasonable about her not wanting to eat 1000 calories or more in one setting
it’s hardly crash dieting to not want to do that
Derbee · 29/09/2022 14:25
Both sound too tiring to bother with. Person A is unreasonable dieting as soon as they’ve had a baby.
Person B is unreasonable for thinking that £2 per main meal is an expensive option vs a
cheap option.
Derbee · 29/09/2022 16:16
@LuckySantangelo35 its unreasonable to be so fixated on dieting EVER (never mind right after having a baby!) that you are unable to go to a restaurant because the meals are ALL too high calorie for you. There’s no way that Person A is unable to go to a restaurant and be forced to eat 1000 calories.
It’s also only half of her recommended calories (less if she’s breastfeeding) so depending on what she has for breakfast and dinner, 1000 calories wouldn’t be massively outrageous anyway.
It’s unreasonable to be so hung up on calories that you are unable to go out for lunch with a friend when they invite you (and have chosen a restaurant)
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Derbee · 29/09/2022 19:05
@LuckySantangelo35 you can argue semantics, but if you think it’s ok to not go to a restaurant because you can’t just order/eat appropriately then you ALSO have food issues.
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