I'm going to do that tedious A and B thing, sorry!
Person A has just had a baby and is dieting, she also has a dairy allergy. Person B asked Person A (and her children) to go out for lunch, and Person A agreed. Person B is having some financial difficulties. There was no discussion about which restaurant to go to.
Person B booked a restaurant where main meals cost £10-£15 and told Person A she's booked it. Person A doesn't like this option because all the options she can eat are over 1000 calories and aren't the type of food she likes. It's the opposite side of town from Person A's house and would require two buses to get to. Person B has suggested picking Person A up and that she could have a one-off treat.
Person A suggested a restaurant in town where main meals cost £12-£16. Person B doesn't like this because it's more expensive and there's no free parking. Person A has offered to pay for Person B and has said that Person B can park at her house (obviously for free).
Person B doesn't want to be paid for by Person A and thinks Person A is being unreasonable. Person A doesn't want to eat extra calories (especially for a meal that she won't enjoy) and thinks Person B is being unreasonable.
YABU - Go to the cheaper, higher calorie place.
YANBU - Go to the more expensive, healthier place.
AIBU?
Who is BU - restaurant choices.
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:02
Am I being unreasonable?
557 votes. Final results.
POLLIknowthis1 · 29/09/2022 12:41
A and B are both mad as a March hare.
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:28
By the way, A and B are both here and reviewing - we're not falling out over this, it's not that deep, we just need help deciding where to go.
A would like to add that she doesn't want to spend money and calories on eating half a portion of food she doesn't like, has used up all her calories and is still hungry.
B, equally, doesn't want to just order a starter because she'll also be left hungry.
(B would like to add that A is thinner than her and doesn't need to diet and A would like to add that B has more money than her)
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:42
I think A' B's being difficult, actually.
She could eat something a bit more calorific expensive than normal - she doesn't want to
She could eat a half portion side - she doesn't want to
She could just have a starter - she doesn't want to
There's lots of ways that A could compromise, but she's not prepared to.
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:34
Are you not embarrassed?
I'm using this site, with a friend, to gauge opinion on a trivial, light-hearted dispute. You're using it, alone, to hurl petty abuse at strangers. Of the two of us, I think I know who I'd rather be.
CountingCrowns · 29/09/2022 12:32
oh no!
are you both not embarrassed? you should be
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:31
Don't worry, we don't want to be friends with you either.
CountingCrowns · 29/09/2022 12:30
i couldn’t be friends with either of you. sitting huddled round mumsnet waiting to be told what to do with your overly detailed pointless dilemma
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:28
By the way, A and B are both here and reviewing - we're not falling out over this, it's not that deep, we just need help deciding where to go.
A would like to add that she doesn't want to spend money and calories on eating half a portion of food she doesn't like, has used up all her calories and is still hungry.
B, equally, doesn't want to just order a starter because she'll also be left hungry.
(B would like to add that A is thinner than her and doesn't need to diet and A would like to add that B has more money than her)
nobodygirle · 29/09/2022 12:38
Is £12-16 really that much more expensive than £10-12 for a lunch? I think person A wins it.
Person A has good reason - dieting, doesn't like the food at original suggestion and has offered both free parking and to pay for lunch. Person B is just being difficult over the sake of potentially 2 quid.
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BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:34
Are you not embarrassed?
I'm using this site, with a friend, to gauge opinion on a trivial, light-hearted dispute. You're using it, alone, to hurl petty abuse at strangers. Of the two of us, I think I know who I'd rather be.
CountingCrowns · 29/09/2022 12:32
oh no!
are you both not embarrassed? you should be
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:31
Don't worry, we don't want to be friends with you either.
CountingCrowns · 29/09/2022 12:30
i couldn’t be friends with either of you. sitting huddled round mumsnet waiting to be told what to do with your overly detailed pointless dilemma
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:28
By the way, A and B are both here and reviewing - we're not falling out over this, it's not that deep, we just need help deciding where to go.
A would like to add that she doesn't want to spend money and calories on eating half a portion of food she doesn't like, has used up all her calories and is still hungry.
B, equally, doesn't want to just order a starter because she'll also be left hungry.
(B would like to add that A is thinner than her and doesn't need to diet and A would like to add that B has more money than her)
forrestgreen · 29/09/2022 12:03
Just don't bother, sounds like way too much hard work. It should be fun, see a friend and having a meal.
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