AIBU?
Who is BU - restaurant choices.
BeeRogue · 29/09/2022 12:02
I'm going to do that tedious A and B thing, sorry!
Person A has just had a baby and is dieting, she also has a dairy allergy. Person B asked Person A (and her children) to go out for lunch, and Person A agreed. Person B is having some financial difficulties. There was no discussion about which restaurant to go to.
Person B booked a restaurant where main meals cost £10-£15 and told Person A she's booked it. Person A doesn't like this option because all the options she can eat are over 1000 calories and aren't the type of food she likes. It's the opposite side of town from Person A's house and would require two buses to get to. Person B has suggested picking Person A up and that she could have a one-off treat.
Person A suggested a restaurant in town where main meals cost £12-£16. Person B doesn't like this because it's more expensive and there's no free parking. Person A has offered to pay for Person B and has said that Person B can park at her house (obviously for free).
Person B doesn't want to be paid for by Person A and thinks Person A is being unreasonable. Person A doesn't want to eat extra calories (especially for a meal that she won't enjoy) and thinks Person B is being unreasonable.
YABU - Go to the cheaper, higher calorie place.
YANBU - Go to the more expensive, healthier place.
Am I being unreasonable?
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LuckySantangelo35 · 29/09/2022 13:18
People on here tend not to be that sympathetic to people who dieting to lose weight….maybe cos on food threads there’s so much talk of being hungry allll the time and eating loaaaaads of food both them and their kids but cos they do active they stay slim without even having to try blah blah
Cleothecat75 · 29/09/2022 13:20
we are on a budget (so don’t go out for lunch often), but honestly, there isn’t much difference between £10-£15 and £12-£16. If person B is worried about cost, they can have something that costs £12 and if they don’t like it, maybe think how hard it is for A who regularly gets very little choice due to her allergies.
zoeFromCity · 29/09/2022 13:25
The price difference in OP seems very small, probably lower than bus fare would be to the cheaper place.
The person who insist on this meeting being lunch out should think about the options, so the other one isn't forced into something they don't like. (Wasn't told who is A, B in this exchange)
In general A's idea seems to be generally better: similar price range, closer to home for mum with a new baby and better/more comfortable food for both. If it helps, letting A pay for one B's drink to offset the difference. I don't think that inviting someone out for a food they won't enjoy works well.
BarbaraofSeville · 29/09/2022 13:28
I also can't see how the price differences differ that much. The £12 meal from the 'more expensive' place is obviously cheaper than the £15 meal from the one that is apparently more affordable, yet doesn't sell food that A likes.
Can't you just meet up at one of your houses and order in or get nice supermarket food? Even if you get some treaty bits from M&S it's likely to be less than £10 pp, plus any drinks will obviously be much cheaper.
blackpearwhitelilies · 29/09/2022 13:29
What amuses me a bit is that everyone, quite rightly, is telling you that life's too short and it's ridiculous to get this worked up about lunch. And yet every single one of us is also getting engaged and embroiled in this non-story . . .
I'm probably on the side of person A, because I hate going to restaurants where I know I don't particularly like the cuisine.
VeridicalVagabond · 29/09/2022 13:33
I ditch friends like this, too much hard work. You're both being unreasonable and pig headed. There are more than 2 places in the world to go and eat - Christ if I want to see one of my friends and we're struggling we have sandwiches in the back garden. Friendship is supposed to be fun!
DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 29/09/2022 13:39
TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 29/09/2022 12:17
I do hate A& B, I lose track!
oerson with the car goes to other persons house & picks up lunch on the way, other one makes tea/coffee & provides venue/loo
sorted
if non driver is happy to make lunch that works too.
This. It would solve the whole problem. A's diet and B's financial cruch.. and can be suggested on that basis. And as you are busy with children, maybe get M and S nibbles etc.. You can bring your own dairy-free salad, things kids will actually eat instead of watching them pick on restaurant food.
Have it as an Autumn picnic so the kids can run about. Both mums can go for a brisk walk too. (good for A's diet) Will probably be much nicer than squirming in a restaurant anyway. Have a back up plan in case of rain. If you went to an NT place or similar they would have a tea room for the essential hot drink.
I've been meeting people for park/walk coffee instead of meeting in resturants for the last few years and it seems to suit everyone. We get a budget coffee/chat/exercise and it doesn't drag on for too long (meaning that we are more likely to squeeze it in if it doesn't take ages)
MomwasCasual · 29/09/2022 13:40
VeridicalVagabond · 29/09/2022 13:33
I ditch friends like this, too much hard work. You're both being unreasonable and pig headed. There are more than 2 places in the world to go and eat - Christ if I want to see one of my friends and we're struggling we have sandwiches in the back garden. Friendship is supposed to be fun!
They're not friends though.
Well they aren't at the start of the thread, but I think they become friends later on 
MarshaMelrose · 29/09/2022 13:48
(B would like to add that A is thinner than her and doesn't need to diet and A would like to add that B has more money than her)
😂😂😂
OMG. Are you two me and my sister in a different reality? Maybe not, because my sister would go anywhere if I was paying!
Leave the kids and use any money saved by their absence to pay for a higher cost, healthier menu in a place not on a bus route with nearby free parking. Or get a take away and watch Netflix.
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