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To think that chest binders are harmful to children and shouldn't be encouraged?

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WandaWomblesaurus · 29/09/2022 00:29

Trans charity accused of offering chest binders without parental consent

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/37b9fc6e-3d8b-11ed-b24d-96120f17513d?shareToken=b62ae7a914c919bf911bb69f54455fe8

How did we get to this point that people are saying this is brave and cheering it on?

AIBU - to think it's insanity
YABU - it's "lifesaving" and rainbow unicorns

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FrancescaContini · 02/10/2022 09:48

@takeme0uttonight get with the programme. These figures were blown out of the park some time ago.

As for “pushing someone to suicide” - well, that needs a bit of unpacking in itself.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 02/10/2022 09:50

And to get back to the original OP, before my bilateral mastectomy (due to breast CA, which anyone who wants to search my posting HX can confirm), I regularly wore very tight sports bras owing to being fairly big busted and also a runner, and I can confirm, that weight loss/gain/pregnancy and breastfeeding aside, my breasts never changed size or shape.

And none of the sports bras I've ever purchased have had any sort of warning on them that my breasts could change shape or size. Christ, if they could shrink your breast size, many many of my friends could have saved $$$ on breast reductions if that were the case.

To say that sports bras are equivalent to breast binders is naive and disingenuous at best, and at worst, dishonest and downright dangerous.

Binders for children are dangerous and abusive and should be made entirely illegal (If they aren't already).

LaughingPriest · 02/10/2022 10:55

He was very strongly of the opinion that he needed his body to match how he felt - societal views of the masculine body gave him something to aim for.

So believing that being a man means being masculine, not having breasts etc.
Not something I believe and seems like this particular aspect would overlap with traditional, rightwing and Christian beliefs (Not saying he was, just that the aspect of man = male-bodied would be a shared belief).
It must surely be a result society constantly telling us men are masculine, women are feminine, so there is no room for masculine females or feminine males. Really something I would love to change. I guess some people conclude that the gendered expectations are wrong, and some conclude that their bodies are wrong.
Or that it's too hard to fight the expectations of how you are treated due to your sex.
Most MN feminists prefer to fight this!

Thelnebriati · 02/10/2022 11:17

YANBU and I think there are 2 issues;
breast binders are dangerous
no one should interfere with your parenting, especially not behind your back. Its a safeguarding issue. Safe people model safe behaviours.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/10/2022 12:30

@takeme0uttonight

Idk where those stats come from. But they are not from this country. A U.K. site has analysed several stats and these are the findings. It is a respectable site btw and the creator was awarded on the Queen’s honours list earlier for services to children this year. www.transgendertrend.com/the-suicide-myth/

witchyw · 02/10/2022 12:53

YANBU. It's akin to breast ironing and should be illegal

sst1234 · 02/10/2022 12:57

But it’s progressive, innit. Who cares about children.

Knittingmonster · 02/10/2022 13:01

Exactly. And why are children given puberty blockers and encouraged to go for surgeries, when adult males can be a woman with a full beard and penis?

witchyw · 02/10/2022 13:05

Knittingmonster · 02/10/2022 13:01

Exactly. And why are children given puberty blockers and encouraged to go for surgeries, when adult males can be a woman with a full beard and penis?

Money and castration fetishes

Knittingmonster · 02/10/2022 13:12

That seems about right. Look at WPATH and then trying to introduce eunification as a sexuality. With no minimum age limit. There is an obvious agenda here. Why would they want to keep kids in prepubescent bodies and insist children can make bodily decisions from a certain early age? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

PaterPower · 02/10/2022 13:14

”Trans men are men. Trans women are women. That's all there is to it”

Ah, we’ve moved on to religion I see.

I don’t believe in the transubstantiation of the Eucharist and if Jesus couldn’t make it happen, then I’m damn sure some over-ambitious quack with a hefty mortgage and private school fees to pay off can’t transform a woman into a man or vice versa.

Knittingmonster · 02/10/2022 13:15

I’m just waiting for clownfish then I’ve got a full house 😂😂😂

LemonDrop22 · 02/10/2022 13:17

PaterPower · 02/10/2022 13:14

”Trans men are men. Trans women are women. That's all there is to it”

Ah, we’ve moved on to religion I see.

I don’t believe in the transubstantiation of the Eucharist and if Jesus couldn’t make it happen, then I’m damn sure some over-ambitious quack with a hefty mortgage and private school fees to pay off can’t transform a woman into a man or vice versa.

Brilliant.

Bickles · 02/10/2022 13:21

Of course this is wrong.
From what I can tell, it seems that if you are a female person who likes girls or no one, has short hair, wants to wear trousers etc - what used to be called a tomboy- you are now supposed to “identify as trans”. This is obviously rubbish! It is a very damaging way for children to feel. They need to be taught that what they are is ok. Ever if that is a lesbian bricklayer with big boobs.
Let people be people and stop with the “gender” rubbish.
There are 2 sexes and no matter what you like, look like etc you are always the sex that your chromosomes say. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t dress how you like and have sex with who you like.
How did the world get so confused?

LemonDrop22 · 02/10/2022 13:24

Women aren't being being beaten up, doxxed, abused or threatened than they were any more before trans males became a "thing"

What, the ones raped by trans woman in prison and hospital were being raped by the fellow female inmates?

What with, dildos? Is that still rape or another crime?

(And please do find me cases of that).

LemonDrop22 · 02/10/2022 13:27

Bickles · 02/10/2022 13:21

Of course this is wrong.
From what I can tell, it seems that if you are a female person who likes girls or no one, has short hair, wants to wear trousers etc - what used to be called a tomboy- you are now supposed to “identify as trans”. This is obviously rubbish! It is a very damaging way for children to feel. They need to be taught that what they are is ok. Ever if that is a lesbian bricklayer with big boobs.
Let people be people and stop with the “gender” rubbish.
There are 2 sexes and no matter what you like, look like etc you are always the sex that your chromosomes say. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t dress how you like and have sex with who you like.
How did the world get so confused?

Men with autogynaephilia got control in key areas.

Men who are "minor attracted persons" will be getting it next no doubt.
Already trying.

LemonDrop22 · 02/10/2022 13:30

takeme0uttonight · 02/10/2022 08:31

And also @Knittingmonster I've been in lesbian relationships since, with cis females AND shock horror, trans females.

That wouldn't be a lesbian relationship - because they are not women.

Bickles · 02/10/2022 13:32

Why are we letting men take control of anything, again?
Throughout history we have learned that they will make a mess of it!

Pixiedust1234 · 02/10/2022 14:09

takeme0uttonight · 02/10/2022 08:52

Trans men are men. Trans women are women. That's all there is to it.

I sincerely hope, for the sake of your children, that none of them ever go through what my ex did. In a nation of "be kind", please keep in mind that 82% of trans youths have had thoughts of suicide. 40% of trans youths have ATTEMPTED suicide. 21% of those youths have been successful in their attempts. Imagine those youths were your children. Would you rather be so close minded than push them to that? You should be ashamed.

No, they cannot change sex. So no such thing as TWAW.

Those suicide figures have been debunked by those who actually did those studies. Try again.

No such thing as a ciswoman or a cishet (one of your previous posts)

Chest binders are not the same as a sports bra. HTH

TheyreOnlyNoodlesMichael · 02/10/2022 14:46

takeme0uttonight · 02/10/2022 08:34

@WiseUpJanetWeiss yes, it did become erect without intervention. It ejaculated the same way a woman squirts. As with a PP, would you like a diagram?

I fully think and support children feeling how they feel.

This isn't possible, why are you lieing?!

A neopenis can be created using the clitoris. Its called a metoidioplasty. One advantage of this procedure is that the neopenis can become erect as clitoral tissue has erectile abilities. The disadvantage is that a neopenis created by a metoidioplasty is in most cases too small for penetrative sex.

WandaWomblesaurus · 02/10/2022 15:04

takeme0uttonight · 02/10/2022 08:14

@LaughingPriest

All of them, of course 😂

He was very strongly of the opinion that he needed his body to match how he felt - societal views of the masculine body gave him something to aim for.

I've sadly no answer to your second question - I've not spoken to him for a very long time, but I imagine he'd be as open to the idea of gender as a non-exclusive construct as he was about everything else.

So you've not spoken to this person for a very long time but you are giving a lot of sexual details about someone who can easily be identified as having been on a dating show? In order to justify young girls binding their breasts? And then you starting insulting the women here and saying their husbands have tiny dicks?

Are you 15?

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PaterPower · 02/10/2022 15:09

Let’s hope not, or the alleged ex-GF / trans man will have some explaining to do as to why she was in a sexual relationship with a then 10 YO takemeout! 🤪

WandaWomblesaurus · 02/10/2022 15:11

takeme0uttonight · 02/10/2022 08:42

@WiseUpJanetWeiss your username is bizarrely apt. Can I recommend the trans category on pornhub for proof? Otherwise, I might be able to dig out an old home video for you, seeing as you're so keen.

Again this is really creepy.
Offering up a sex tape of your ex you don't speak to as proof of something is very very odd behaviour.

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LaughingPriest · 02/10/2022 15:52

Can I recommend the trans category on pornhub for proof?

If TWAW and TMAM why on earth is there a separate trans category? Is there some difference between a trans woman and a non-trans woman?

Why is this difference suddenly important when it comes to pornography but not when it comes to which people are put in prison together?

Againstmachine · 02/10/2022 18:22

@Bickles apparently this is correct there is no tomboys anymore who I have found turn into lovely wonderful women.

There is plenty of kids who want to be whatever is flavour of month, we indulge them, but it's never permanent this shit is it's disgusting it's an agenda.

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