DH had a small operation on Wednesday to sort out his groin hernia which means that I have been doing everything (and I mean everything!) around the house. I have to look after my two DS (17 & 12), two dogs, I work part time but it just feels like there’s a never ending amount of shit to deal with. Literally from the time I wake up to the time I go to bed I’m having to look after, what feels like, three children as well as working and keeping the house running. The doctor told him to get up and walk around and not just sit there all day so he managed a small dog walk with DS1 yesterday (which he had to use crutches for 🙄). I’ve just sat down to sort out some admin, pay bills etc and he’s in the kitchen making himself a coffee so I shouted through that I’ll have one as he’s making and he said he couldn’t make it as he could only manage one mug. I asked him to just make it and I’ll get it and he said that he couldn’t lift the kettle long enough to make two and if I’m getting up to get it, I might as well make my own! On his operation leaflet it says ‘no heavy lifting for at least 2 weeks’. Well he’s taken that to meaning he doesn’t have to lift anything heavier than one fucking mug! I’m so tempted to just stop cooking his food and being his nursemaid if he’s going to be that petty about it. He is just being a big fucking baby, after all, I was doing things around the house after I’d given birth and had enough stitches to make a replica of the Bayeux tapestry!
AIBU to just want a coffee made for me when I’m doing everything around the house to support his recovery?
AIBU?
Husband won’t make me coffee?! AIBU?
Mysonisugly · 27/09/2022 09:55
Am I being unreasonable?
1005 votes. Final results.
POLLMeltingsocks · 27/09/2022 09:56
YANBU
But why are doing everything if your sons are 17 and 12? Have they learnt laziness from him?
Mysonisugly · 27/09/2022 10:03
I should clarify that DS1 works part time and is at college full time - 3 days of the week he doesn’t finish until 6pm and I think it’s unfair to ask him to do too much when he’s really busy with his studies.
Meltingsocks · 27/09/2022 09:56
YANBU
But why are doing everything if your sons are 17 and 12? Have they learnt laziness from him?
ThanksAntsThants · 27/09/2022 09:59
Why are you doing everything if you’ve got one adult and one nearly adult DC?
your DH is being a bit of a drama queen, I’m sure he can put the coffee pot on.
i’m literally just about to make a coffee now, I’ll make you one.
Icedlatteplease · 27/09/2022 10:02
I'm sorry I disagree
He's recovering from an operation and your expecting him to make you coffee?I'd have hopped up and made his as soon as I heard him go for the kettle but I'm nice like that
Icedlatteplease · 27/09/2022 10:02
I'm sorry I disagree
He's recovering from an operation and your expecting him to make you coffee?I'd have hopped up and made his as soon as I heard him go for the kettle but I'm nice like that
Mysonisugly · 27/09/2022 10:03
I should clarify that DS1 works part time and is at college full time - 3 days of the week he doesn’t finish until 6pm and I think it’s unfair to ask him to do too much when he’s really busy with his studies.
Meltingsocks · 27/09/2022 09:56
YANBU
But why are doing everything if your sons are 17 and 12? Have they learnt laziness from him?
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