To think alot of you are weird

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Clickbait title I know, but on the back of another active thread I'm genuinely curious about this.

I honestly think anyone that doesn't instantly change into comfy clothes (pj's or lounge wear etc.) As soon as they come home are seriously weird. How can you get comfy on the couch in fecking jeans 🙈 I also can't do chores in normal clothes, has to be old pj's.
If I'm not going anywhere for the day then I just shower and get into a different pj set. I can't stand wearing shoes indoors either, so slippers are lined up on the shoe stand near front door.
My kids don't even need to be asked, once they come home from anywhere (shool, shopping etc.) They take off shoes and go change into comfy clothes. I'm in no way a germaphobe, it's not related in any way to cleanliness, its just comfort.

This was not my upbringing, my dad ran his business from our home so there was always alot of traffic at our home, people coming & going. So we always had to be fully dressed, hair neat with shoes on from early morning till evening. He thought, and still thinks, wearing pj's during the day looks dirty or lazy.

So anyway:

YABU - I don't change as soon as I get home, you are the weirdo.
YANBU - yep, always instantly into fluffy socks and stretchy bottoms.

I think most couples have to care a bit about what the other thinks Topgub or they might end up with problems or divorce..

You obviously don't know me 😂

Don’t wear anything in bed so pjs are lounge clothes which are different to going out clothes

Is the difference maybe between people who are bothered about appearance more than others - frankly don’t care hoots about what strangers think of me if I answer the door

I always get changed into comfy clothes once I'm home and not planning on going out again. Bra off as soon as I walk in the door! It's just part of my evening ritual to put clean, comfy clothes on for being at home. To be fair most of my PJs are actually jogging bottoms, a vest and a hoodie so if I had to quickly go to the supermarket or someone popped over it wouldn't be a big deal.

I wouldn't stay in PJs all day. I almost always leave the house at some point in the day for some fresh air and a change of scenery. But if others like staying home in their PJs then they're not hurting anyone.

@hoovermanouvre

Most couples, maybe.

I dont.

Shoes off yes but why do you buy clothes that are uncomfortable? All my clothes are comfortable, including jeans.

This had made me laugh. Why are people fuming that other people don't want to wear jeans to chill and watch TV. I don't buy cheap ones.

If your partner still thinks you are sexy as fuck in your lounge wear and you don't look that awful to scare the delivery driver who drops off your online delivery then do what you want.

I've actually kept my jeans on tonight as teenager has friends round and not uncomfy but if I had a choice I would have took them off.

Some people obviously look better than others in lounge wear.

Also, if the dogs aren't on my jeans I can wear them more before washing.

Yeah, I said I think they LOOK better, not "I think every woman should wear this and only this all of the time" 🙄So sorry if that wasn't clear.

See I'd be the opposite, if I got in from work I'd be delighted he was in joggers & tshirt it means he's "clocked off" so to speak as he is mostly wfh but has to be dressed for zoom meetings (multiple a day), dp is sometimes still working by time I go to bed at night, so on the rare occasion he's switched to joggers by the time I'm home it means he's not working through the evening and we can cuddle on the sofa and watch a movie with the kids or by ourselves ... his job is high stress & high priority for him, so I love when he turns of the computer and just relaxes.
Dp appreciates that I work in a lab all day, so with PPE on top of regular clothes, I feel a bit claustrophobic & gross by the time I get home. I just can't wait to shower off the day & put on something comfortable. I said earlier that I think the best thing to come out of lockdown was stylish practical lounge wear, that made you feel "dressed" but with soft, breathable, material. Even pj's have become much nicer, but I suppose it might depend on where you shop 🤷‍♀️

I think it's rather sad a bit that you would judge your partner though, I'd never assume my dp did nothing all day but mooch around the house just because he's in his comfortably clothes, we have 3 dc (12, 7 & 3 months) laundry to do, cooking, cleaning, etc. With kids that need us, so we literally never stop going and if he or I feel more comfortable scrubbing toilets, hoovering the stairs, or bringing out the bins in lounge wear then so be it, I wouldn't slate him for it and know he doesn't hold it against me either. I find dp attractive no matter what he wears & like to think he feels the same.

I’m exactly the same. As soon as I get home it’s day clothes off and pjs on 😂. DH is one of the weirdos who will sit in jeans until they get ready for bed!

My dp was like this, until lockdown.. now he loves to chill in loose joggers when he's not working .... my dad however lives in jeans or suits, hates joggers and don't even mention pyjamas 😅 .... but then again my parents house is high traffic, I'd prob be the same if I always had people calling by. I'm pretty grateful I live somewhere that would make unexpected callers a rarity.

Were you planning on doing it in front of him?

I’m like you, and didn’t grow up like that. My mother who is late 60’s now wouldn’t dream of not getting dressed all day! She will change into PJ’s but not until after 8pm! I will get dressed on the weekend - but do get changed into more comfortable clothes once home from where ever I’ve been. I am in my PJ’s very early every evening

Yes I understand that OP. It doesn't matter and it's just funny that people are different. I don't work so I feel like I should make an effort when my husband gets back. Never thought of us as 'formal' people at all though. You just don't know how people are in their houses..

This is exactly it... I get up, dressed, school run, work, after work errands etc., home for the evening, shower and into comfy clothes.

Weekends depend on what's on, I'm more likely to be in loungewear if I feel the need to deep clean... other wise we're up & dressed & off out for the day, then home, shower & in pj's by early evening ... bedtimes start at half 7 in my house & I like to be home at least an hour before then because middle child needs to "wind down" to be able to sleep, so say into pj's about 6 & snuggle on couch with a movie. She's usually super tired by half 7 and goes to bed without a fuss.

Aye I'm finding it a really interesting topic actually. I would say that if making the effort for dh makes you happy then you do you 😊 I have friends that would be the same as yourself & it gives them a boost too.

I am almost 70 and sleep naked. Hate wearing anything in bed. I find it uncomfortable and makes me too hot.

We have a 4 tog duvet all year round and I don't feel cold in bed.

I cant ! I have a dog and i cant do the teatime and eve walk in jamas .

What about comfy loungewear clothes ... like out of work clothes and into joggers or leggings and tshirt?

Bra off pjs on if I've been out on a day I'm not working (once I'm home of course). Dinner break uniform off pjs on till I go back to work. Not working and not going out. Pjs on. They come off at bed time though because I can't sleep in anything

How much? I’d never wear that it wouldn’t survive the so many washings it would need. My jeans are baggy so very comfortable. PJjs are for evening mainly after tea. New home will be in complex so getting dressed will be a must. No more bins outside the door they are one floor down.

I wear pjs in the house.

Since lockdown I choose sets that I could get away with on zoom. (If I had to I mean - I generally dress but sometimes you can get away with your pj top if it's plain enough).

I'm currently considering this set...

www.johnlewis.com/hush-joey-star-print-v-neck-jersey-pyjama-set-midnight-navy/p5830111

It's not plain but I think that looks okay on zoom wouldn't it? 😁
I love cute pyjamas normally though.

All my clothes these days are comfy, even down to my smart office attire that I occasionally have to wear. Modern suits offer stretch fabrics and even my leather belts are stretch. All my jeans are stretch too so joggers. etc aren't much more comfortable.