Would you lie on your bed in the clothes you've been wearing all day?

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My dh got home from the dentist yesterday afternoon (he had a wisdom tooth taken out), he was in a bit of pain and discomfort so went to lie down. I went to check if he was ok/needed anything and saw he was lying on our bed fully clothed with the clothes he had on all day. I told him that was disgusting and could he remove them please, but he didn't understand why. He said (via text as he couldn't talk) 'But where have I been sat? The dentist? Where everything is famously clean?' That day he had also been sat in the car, been to the shops, taken our dc to school. If it was me I would always remove jeans etc. and put on pj's or clean leggings/joggers before lying on the bed.

Who is right?

I am so confused - what is actually going to happen to the bed if he lies on it with his clothes on? What difference does it make?

Unless the clothes are covered in mud or oil or whatever then what's the issue?

I draw the line at shoes on the bed though.

You’re bonkers!

If you are that frightened of his filthy dirty disgusting clothes because he's worn them outside why don't you make him strip off on the front door step and change into paper underwear before he comes into the house. That way his clothes won't touch anything that you may come into contact with if he sits down or god forbid, gives you a cuddle. You can then burn the paper underwear after he's worn it.

Good god......unless ypur hpuse is vaccum sealed its full of bacteria and dirt even if you cant see it.
Honestly......I would actually divorce a clean freak like this.

For some cultures cleanliness and basic hygiene are paramount. For other cultures it's 'OCD', 'Clean freakiness' and other such bizarre terminology. I learnt my lesson about this a while ago when someone cut and pasted NHS guidance when I said I wash chicken and also shower at least once a day. It's okay - the response doesn't surprise me.

Washing chicken isn't "basic hygiene", it's unnecessary and risks spraying salmonella all round your kitchen.

Banning people lying on their bed (or in some cases, sitting on the sofa!) in their jeans isn't dangerous , but it doesn't count as "basic hygiene" either.

Washing chicken is unhygienic and not advised. Lying on your bed fully dressed is not unhygienic and I've never heard anyone say you shouldn't until this thread!

Ok.

@VladmirsPoutine you wash chicken? Even though it's a food poisoning risk?

Thing is it depends on your definition of “basic hygiene”. I would say basic hygiene is always washing your hands before a meal/coming into the house.

Removing a set of clothes before sitting on the bed when they have been out in a sterile environment and then in fresh air isn’t basic hygiene to me. There is no logic to that whatsoever. It’s just rules for their own sake.

And if you insisting these rules take precedence over the need to be kind to a family member in pain then your moral and emotional compass is wonky.

It's not a zero tolerance policy. It's simply reducing the amount of dust, fibers, germs, irritants etc. Eg not zero covid or net zero but reducing exposure and contamination.

I just got into bed with my jeans on, to make sure, and it didn’t catch fire, nor did I contract instant botulism.

But cleanliness and basic hygiene do not mean not sitting on the bed in clothes you have been outside in.

Do the people who think you should not even sit let alone lay on the bed in outside clothes apply this rule no matter what you have been doing outside? What if you just go for a walk? Go to a supermarket? Drive somewhere? Does it just apply if you have used public transport or sat in a seat somewhere like the doctors or dentist?

So do those who do put clean clothes on to lay on top of their beds, also out clean clothes on to get into their bed and also put clean clothes on to sit on their settee or chairs?!

Do you go out in one outfit, come home, change into a clean outfit, sit on the settee, put your original outside outfit to go and hang the washing out then put your clean outfit back on, then do it all again for the school run?!

How much washing is being generated?!

This sort of obsession is one of the reasons we use so much detergent, and energy to heat washing machine water. What a waste and bad for the planet. Chill out!

It's not a zero tolerance policy. It's simply reducing the amount of dust, fibers, germs, irritants etc. Eg not zero covid or net zero but reducing exposure and contamination

the reason autoimmune diseases are on the rise is because people are “too clean”.

there’s a balance between “basic hygiene” and reducing exposure to dust, fibres, germs etc to the point your immune system struggles and starts fighting itself.

for example studies have found a minimum of two pets is optimum for healthy development of children’s immune systems, based on incidence of excema, asthma etc.

On top of the bed OK, in the bed under the duvet or blankets/sheets not, in my opinion.

I think several people have already explained. They will come home and change into 'home clothes'. You wear those clothes until you have to go out again, for most people that will be a couple of times a day and it will take an additional 2min - same principle to change from shoes into slippers if it helps to understand. Live and let live people!

Loads of people change into home clothes. My reason is because my office clothes aren't comfortable to relax in and they'd get covered in hair and claw pulls when I cuddle my cat.

I'd definitely do it if I did a job where I got dirty but sitting in a an office and travelling on public transport isn't the same as working on a building site.

But when I've been feeling particularly ropey - like when I had a wisdom tooth out - I kicked my shoes off and crawled into bed fully clothed. Luckily I had a lovely mum who said: "Come on Limited. Let me help you put your nightie on. You'll be more comfortable. Would you like a paracetamol? I've got those ones that dissolve so swallowing won't hurt too much."

I do the same thing with my husband and he does the same with me.

But some people on here are terrified at the idea of contaminating their homes with deadly microbes from the big bad world outside. Worse, some of them are suggesting that those who don't are dirty.

At the risk of making a TAAT someone I read about a couple of days ago got upset at people who put their handbags on her kitchen table. She said they could have been anywhere like the floors of public toilets or the train.

I never put my handbag on toilet floors not just because they are reputedly very germy, but because if the cubicle is open at the bottom people reach under and snatch them while you're sitting there with your knickers down and unable to give chase. That's why I always use the hook on the back of the door. For similar reasons I put my bags on the seat next to me on the bus and hook the straps round my arm so they don't get dirty or stolen. I always have my knickers pulled up on public transport so I don't have to worry there.

Good idea to apologise.
He was in a dental surgery not a coalmine. Poor man.

Actually, I'm thinking some of these people don't!
Far too unhygienic!

I understand people changing into 'home clothes ' for comfort, particularly at the end of the day. But to change clothes because you don't allow outside clothes on your furniture is a very strange concept to me.
Multiple changes a day seems faffy especially if you have children.

Me and DS have been out this morning to music class, shops and a cafe. He's now lounging on the sofa. No way am I getting him changed especially when we're off out again later.

I'm sat on my bed in what I've been wearing this morning - again, I'm off out later so will change then as I'm out for dinner but I'm not changing in between!

This may shock you, OP. Today I took my lovely father for his vaccination, came back with a rampant headache ( life's been very stressful recently) and suddenly absolutely exhausted. Too tired to eat lunch. Too tired to undress. Felt cold and got straight into bed. Now just about able to get up to cook dinner and post this - still in the (clean) jeans and shirt I put on this morning 🙄

This is the strangest AIBU thread ever.