Would you lie on your bed in the clothes you've been wearing all day?

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My dh got home from the dentist yesterday afternoon (he had a wisdom tooth taken out), he was in a bit of pain and discomfort so went to lie down. I went to check if he was ok/needed anything and saw he was lying on our bed fully clothed with the clothes he had on all day. I told him that was disgusting and could he remove them please, but he didn't understand why. He said (via text as he couldn't talk) 'But where have I been sat? The dentist? Where everything is famously clean?' That day he had also been sat in the car, been to the shops, taken our dc to school. If it was me I would always remove jeans etc. and put on pj's or clean leggings/joggers before lying on the bed.

Who is right?

Do you allow him on the sofa in his clothes? If so, what is it about your sleeping body that is so susceptible to contamination that it must be protected from anything that has been outside? With even a duvet not considered sufficient barrier?

Yes, without a second thought. I do it every day. I often go up and watch tv if my husband and son are watching sport. I could sit in the kitchen/diner but it’s more comfortable sat on the bed.

Do you inflict this regime in your children?

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Get a fucking grip! 🤣🤣🤣

@GloriousGlory It's not a regime and I do not inflict this upon anyone, if you read my previous message it's a habit I grew up with and so did DP so there is no drama at home, we are all happy about it 😂 As I said each to their own, it's truly appalling how judgemental people can be in here.

He’s right. You’re a bit weird.

You are being very OTT. He is right.

Yes it is, I'm pretty appalled at being called gross because I don't subscribe to this regime!

@GloriousGlory errr I didn't call you gross.

Oh poor man, he couldn't even talk and had to text you. He was in that bad a way and you still had a go at him. Seems a bit harsh to me, sorry OP. Can't you just change the bed if you're that worried? When he feels better of course.

Did I say you did? I thought I agreed with you saying how judgemental people were and the fact that people that don't keep this kind of regime are called gross by others?

I have never in 32 years stopped, even for a second, to consider this. As it is, I don’t lounge around in ‘outside clothes’ because jeans are leg prisons so I change into leggings and a baggy t-shirt as soon as I get home. However, that is purely for my comfort, nothing to do with germs.

I think you were a bit bonkers and it was shitty to moan about it when he was clearly in pain. If it bothered you so much, you could have left him to rest today and then washed the bedding tomorrow.

YES, I do.
back home, the first thing is to change clothes, and second wash hands.

I’m reading this thread whilst lounging on my bed fully dressed

He is, clearly. Do you take off your clothes to sit on the sofa or dining chairs too?

Pig farmer … yes change clothes
Go to dentist and sit in car - wtf for … are you light headed?

Currently sat in bed in my day clothes! Admittedly I haven't been out in these but I'm not licking the bed so it's not all that grim.

Asking again because I have not yet had a satisfactory answer: what microbes so people think someone will contract at the dentists then in the fresh air and a car that they won’t in their own living room? I just don’t understand the science behind this.

I just don’t understand the science behind this.

I don't think there is any, in fairness

I totally understand you I don't even like to sit on our bed with work clothes on. I have struggled with OCD tendancies previously.

I can also see why some people wouldn't be bothered. Feels dirty to me.

You do sound seriously OTT about germs, OP.

TBH if that were me and I was very tired and feeling seriously rough, I’d probably get under the duvet with my clothes on.

Op I'm sure the thread has moved on but usually yes, fine I wouldn't think about it.

However having been to somewhere like the dentist...I would also be uncomfortable with clothes on the bed. .
I'm also a shoes on person.

I would never, don't you know that those outside germs sneak up on you when you're asleep and unable to defend yourself?!

Sorry OP, you are a clean freak.
Your DH probably thinks you are a nightmare.
Some people are self righteous / proud about their clean-freakery but this is bordering on the extreme so I’d suggest either trying to relax your standards or if you’re not able to seek help.