My DH wants to get rid of our dog. At this stage I don't think he cares if she is rehomed, goes to a shelter or is put down.
She is a 13 year old terrier cross and up until a few months ago she was having a lot of issues with diarrhoea and causing a lot of mess in the house. We have very young DC and I put measures in place to try and sort her tummy problems (consulted a vet, changed her food, she now sleeps in a crate overnight so she is contained) and for the past few months her stomach has been better although she vomits intermittently.
This morning she had pooed in the crate but it had spilled out on to the floor, so whilst he sorted the DC for nursery I had to clean up this huge mess whilst I should have been expressing milk before my newborn twins woke up.
He says the dog has to go, so as not to drip feed we had another elderly dog previously that I refused to get put down despite massive incontinence issues and dementia, when he finally went it was such a relief. DH says he won't go through it again. In fairness he is the one who walks her although we are struggling to get her walked everyday at the moment.
Despite all of this I'm still very much of the opinion that a dog is a life long commitment. AIBU?
AIBU?
To refuse to get rid of the dog.
Alfredo674 · 22/09/2022 17:16
Alfredo674 · 22/09/2022 18:10
For everyone calling me and DH callous I feel I should clarify a few things.
I adopted my current dog from a charity, she had been very badly abused and came to us with lots of wounds from being chained up outside. We lived overseas when we got her and paid a lot of money to bring her back to the U.K. when we moved home a few years ago.
She has always been walked daily, pre kids DC would walk her for hours in the countryside, we now have 4 kids including newborn twins and it's only been since the twins arrived a few weeks ago that she has missed a few walks here and there whilst we all find our feet (DH is back at work full time and as you can imagine our household is very busy)
I've probably made DH sound terrible which is not fair as he is a lovely person, he is understandably very frustrated with the current situation.
With regards to my older dog, I'm pretty certain I won't be the only person who kept an old dog going longer than I should have because I loved him and didn't want to put him down, in hindsight I know now that I should have done it sooner but it's difficult to make that decision at the time.
Herejustforthisone · 22/09/2022 18:44
I couldn’t abandon a lifelong loyal and beloved pet because as they’ve become elderly they’ve developed some medical issues.
It is part of dog ownership. He’s been through it before, surely he knew it was coming?
Having a dog live to a ripe old age is a privilege. Your husband is a monster.
Mariposista · 23/09/2022 10:11
Horrible man.
You know that at her age your dog doesn’t have long left and is poorly. She needs love, care and patience in the time she has left. Would he shove an elderly person in a home because they needed extra suport?
ShaneTwane · 23/09/2022 10:54
Why would you not? Thats what care homes are for.
Mariposista · 23/09/2022 10:11
Horrible man.
You know that at her age your dog doesn’t have long left and is poorly. She needs love, care and patience in the time she has left. Would he shove an elderly person in a home because they needed extra suport?
Stompythedinosaur · 23/09/2022 12:05
He has a horrible attitude. You don't get rid of family members when they become unwell. Pets aren't objects to throw away when they aren't as fun to play with.
Would he opt out if you or the dc had a significant chronic health problem?
Stompythedinosaur · 23/09/2022 12:05
He has a horrible attitude. You don't get rid of family members when they become unwell. Pets aren't objects to throw away when they aren't as fun to play with.
Would he opt out if you or the dc had a significant chronic health problem?
Stompythedinosaur · 23/09/2022 12:05
He has a horrible attitude. You don't get rid of family members when they become unwell. Pets aren't objects to throw away when they aren't as fun to play with.
Would he opt out if you or the dc had a significant chronic health problem?
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vicky46 · 23/09/2022 18:03
Yes, but letting a pet sit in a cage of shit and piss and wander the halls in pain is not a good character trait either.
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