My DH wants to get rid of our dog. At this stage I don't think he cares if she is rehomed, goes to a shelter or is put down.
She is a 13 year old terrier cross and up until a few months ago she was having a lot of issues with diarrhoea and causing a lot of mess in the house. We have very young DC and I put measures in place to try and sort her tummy problems (consulted a vet, changed her food, she now sleeps in a crate overnight so she is contained) and for the past few months her stomach has been better although she vomits intermittently.
This morning she had pooed in the crate but it had spilled out on to the floor, so whilst he sorted the DC for nursery I had to clean up this huge mess whilst I should have been expressing milk before my newborn twins woke up.
He says the dog has to go, so as not to drip feed we had another elderly dog previously that I refused to get put down despite massive incontinence issues and dementia, when he finally went it was such a relief. DH says he won't go through it again. In fairness he is the one who walks her although we are struggling to get her walked everyday at the moment.
Despite all of this I'm still very much of the opinion that a dog is a life long commitment. AIBU?
AIBU?
To refuse to get rid of the dog.
Alfredo674 · 22/09/2022 17:16
Alfredo674 · 22/09/2022 17:31
I can 100% accept that with our other dog I should have had him pts sooner. He was 16, doubly incontinent, confused, wandered the house at night and in pain from sore joints.
Our current dog is generally well, her tummy has been much better since I changed her food and now gets no treats or leftovers from DC dinner.
When I say struggling to walk her every day I mean because we are struggling to fit it in not because she can't walk, she can still walk fine and is not confused, a bit deaf but otherwise well. The vet just said that her breed were prone to sensitive stomachs.
violetglow7 · 22/09/2022 17:21
I'd get rid of DH. Attitude like that towards a sick family pet is a huge red flag.
somebody2lava · 22/09/2022 17:54
I LOVE dogs and have never been without them. I've raised 4 kids with dogs.
The best advice I've ever been given was when I bright my first pup home age 13. My dad told me that if it was my dog then I need to be responsible and that's not just walks. It's also vets, and knowing when to draw the line. It's our job to make sure they never suffer a second longer than they have to. I think it sounds like your dog is suffering and I definitely think it sounded like your old dog suffered too. I would have been quietly furious at a friend of mine letting a doubly incontinent dog with dementia carry on suffering. A dog wants nothing more than to please its owners and to receive love in return. and neither of yours were/are capable of that. Your current dog will feel the disappointment from your oh and you every single day. Please let this poor old dog go. I'd rather euthanise a year too soon than a day to late and I feel the same for people.
hattie43 · 22/09/2022 17:58
This and I don't say it lightly . A partners attitude to pets is everything .
violetglow7 · 22/09/2022 17:21
I'd get rid of DH. Attitude like that towards a sick family pet is a huge red flag.
Alfredo674 · 22/09/2022 17:45
@BattenburgDonkey The most she ever goes is one day without a walk and he is the one who walks her. Usually for a good length of time. She has taken outside to the garden at 9.30pm last night by DH and she did two poos. If she hadn't been out all day then I would of course be more understanding of the incontinence.
Alfredo674 · 22/09/2022 18:10
For everyone calling me and DH callous I feel I should clarify a few things.
I adopted my current dog from a charity, she had been very badly abused and came to us with lots of wounds from being chained up outside. We lived overseas when we got her and paid a lot of money to bring her back to the U.K. when we moved home a few years ago.
She has always been walked daily, pre kids DC would walk her for hours in the countryside, we now have 4 kids including newborn twins and it's only been since the twins arrived a few weeks ago that she has missed a few walks here and there whilst we all find our feet (DH is back at work full time and as you can imagine our household is very busy)
I've probably made DH sound terrible which is not fair as he is a lovely person, he is understandably very frustrated with the current situation.
With regards to my older dog, I'm pretty certain I won't be the only person who kept an old dog going longer than I should have because I loved him and didn't want to put him down, in hindsight I know now that I should have done it sooner but it's difficult to make that decision at the time.
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