To let 13 year old dress like a drug dealer??

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DS is 13 and suddenly has taken an interest in ‘fashion’ which mostly seems to be dressing in all black sports logos and puffa
jackets. Nike trainers, puma joggers, north face hoody - you get the idea.

oh, and calling us ‘fam’ every frigging minute,
innit bruv.

given that he’s a white, MC kid, in a MC area at a MC school ( state but uniform with tie/blazer/shirt etc) with all that comes with that, I think it’s annoying/amusing and that he’ll grow out of this fake ‘street’ phase.

DH on the other hand thinks that he’s dressing. like a drug dealer and we should go buy him some Boden or something.

AIBU to just let 13 year old to dress how he likes??

Hisayoshi Maruyama was the world's most successful heroin courier, smuggling £10 million worth of the drug into Britain alone. Travelling as a Japanese boy scout, he was never ( Til arrested) stopped By customs..

Using a uniform to travel incognito.

I think both you and your wife should each get yourself a lovely warm feather-filled North Face jacket and wear them at every opportunity, commenting on how they are so warm and practical and how useful they will be this winter when you are having to be so careful about energy bills.
Praise your DS for wanting to wear such a lovely warm garment and joke about how when you were a teen you refused to wear a coat as it wasn't a cool look.

That's the quickest way of getting him to dress differently!

I think to let him dress like that is to fail to discourage an attitude which is not ok.

Serious youth gang crime is real, in my area there are 14 year olds holding people up at knifepoint etc.

You forgot the sliders with socks!

I have this to look forward to don't I? My nearly ten year old has started calling me bro 🙄

^^whenever I ask my 5year old to do something he says he's busy with "big man tings" picked it up off his step brother 😂

Not sure about that unfortunately. I think some of the kids settle into wearing the clothes and use a bit of the lingo, others continue. It’s just an identity. It will pass. People seem to group into Roadmen, emo and nerds etc.

As for North Face and Puma, dd liked North Face and Puma in year 7. Now everyone in the roadman clan, including dd (who as I said isn’t that interested in being like them anymore) wear tech fleece jacket and joggers. More expensive brands like Stone Island and CP (the integral glasses) are well…. drip.

I cringe at my fashion phases!
The gothic phase was definitely one of my worst.

Let them get on with it as I’m sure there will be another phase soon enough.

The amount of white boys who talk like they’re from a ghetto in Jamaica is crazy but I do find it amusing.

I agree thank goodness for school uniforms!!

Chill bruh
Nuff said

Absolutely right!
No self- respecting teen wants to wear what parents do, especially if “‘Warm and sensible “.
which is what NF down coats and jackets are.
Round here, they are worn by dog walkers of all ages in Autumn & Winter.

It’s just a phase.

I thought I was an All Saint 25 years ago 😆 I had low slung cargo pants, Calvin Klein pants with band higher than trousers, chunky trainers and a black puffy gilet. Sometimes I even wore a T-shirt under the gilet, but only if it was tiny and showed a good inch of skin above the CKs. Totally ridiculous, but I thought I looked amazing 😂 Now I’m more likely to wear Boden.

I think some of your kids have made a little film:

Also, it’s all about the Crocs now, not the trainers of sliders, man.

It’s gone from DH to DW. I’m confused on who’s speaking.

<completely misses point>

I remember DD bringing home a lad in an enormous puffa jacket when she was about 15. He looked like a bouncy castle!

This!

Ah Moncler. Now you’re talking. DD’s friend has a Moncler jacket and she lets her wear it when they go to town. I just hope she doesn’t damage it one day. 🫣Dd wanted a Canada Goose last year. I explained that would be the one and only very expensive Christmas gift and she decided against it thankfully.

yes, I remember my one of DS' going through that phase, luckily only the younger one. Can't stand " manbags " or Canada Goose jackets ever since. We have had a laugh though, observing the real dr*ug dealers paying for designer items in wads of £20 notes in cash 😖. So glad to see the end of that phase, he's now settled in a professional career with very different rolemodels/mentors, that phase seems to be a distant dream now ( nightmare more like at the time 😂)

Yup, the day my 14yo DS came out of his room in his outfit which included a silver chain I wet myself laughing. He looks like a member of ‘Blazin’ Squad’ but he’s always had a tendency to go for the ‘thrown up on’ look. In the night garden, Spider-Man, Nike, North Face.

Also, heavy on the Lynx. 🤣

‘I think both you and your wife should each get yourself a lovely warm feather-filled North Face jacket and wear them at every opportunity, commenting on how they are so warm and practical’

I’d bloody love to, if we could afford it! Even the little road man here has to settle for Nike or Puma…

@viques ih it wasn’t a stealth boast humble brag at all! DS is amazing’!. I don’t care who knows it. It’s the juxtaposition of street culture with his upbringing/culture. It’s silly. He, like all teens is flirting with what he is not and he will roll through the cycles of various cultural/fashion trends. This particular one I don’t love. Thank you for the slow hand clap though, that was funny.

@twoandcooplease yep- no bumbags here. (Except I’m the sucker who bought it in the first place)

Save me.

Dare you to say to him love that top ‘mush’ 😂

That's cute 🤣

Does he have a ‘gold’ chain?
That’s the most fascinating part of the uniform (second only to the little man bag) … 😬

They grow out of it OP. DS has just turned 18 and has a mullet and looks like an extra from Stranger Things/ has Vans dungarees and a ironic tshirt on.

Phases 🙈

Well at least they're not nicking the Volkswagen car badges and wearing them round their necks or wearing terrible shell suit trackies that rustled when they walked! As per the 90's

I love seeing teenage fashion, but nothing beats the 70's punks!

I assuem you are talking to OP's DH; read the post, eh?