To let my teen wear black to a wedding?

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I often hear that black is a no no for weddings unless it’s background for a colourful pattern. Her style is a bit alt, bit gothy. She originally said she’d like a trouser suit and we looked but there’s not much selection for her age/size. So, we’ve found a skater style black dress with long sleeves which she hasn’t hissed at turned her nose up at. It’s a winter wedding so long sleeves will be ok and not out of place.

I think that will be fine. I think the average wedding guest knows teens are a law unto themselves when it comes to fashion. As long as she isn’t in leggings with her midriff out, I’d consider it a win!

Can't you ask whoever's wedding it is?

I don't think there's anything wrong at all for wearing black at a wedding. I have and have seen plenty other people do the same.

How old is DD and whose wedding is it?

Can you ask them?

Teenagers can be so fussy especially when it comes to more formal wear. If she's happy and you're happy, I would definitely let her wear it. I don't think anyone would have an issue with her wearing black.

I think a teen should be able to understand wedding etiquette. I wouldn't want people wearing black to my wedding. Can she maybe compromise and stick a bright jacket over it?

I think its fine. My children have done exactly the same.

It's fine.

I did for a wedding about 10 years ago (black, lacey, long sleeves). The bride joked that I looked like I dressed for a funeral. I wish I'd at least worn navy blue now!

Unless you're the bride or groom how can you be so sure?

The only way to know OP is to find out what those actually getting married think, why would it matter what I think?

I think that would be ok.

Of course she can wear black. As you said shes a teenager and a bit gothy. Let her wear what she is comfortable in. My DD went through a tomboy phase. We had no problem with her wearing tracksuits and shorts to events if that's what she wanted. If people judge that's their problem.

I also think it’s fine, especially for a winter wedding!

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This.

Non see through leggings and non cropped top with bra straps hanging out is a good win these days with teens.

The dress sounds nice and the colour is preference.

I'm a fan of allowing teens to wear appropriate clothing (and not fuss over colour) and let them them decide for them self if in future they want something brighter like everyone else or if this is indeed their style.

She can always colour it up with accessories if she wants?

It's fine, especially for a gothy teenager, totally not worth kicking up a fuss about something I don't think most people would even pass comment on.

Unless you're the bride or groom how can you be so sure?

The only way to know OP is to find out what those actually getting married think, why would it matter what I think?

I'm not so sure it should be up to the bride and groom what people wear.

What if they started deciding that everyone should wear yellow, or pink etc.

It's just black. It's a dress. Hardly affects anyone else!

I wore black velvet to a friends winter wedding. I had a chunky silver necklace and earrings. It was fine

Of course it’s fine. Loads of people wear black to weddings these days. I wouldn’t check with the bride and groom.

I think it would be nice to see a teenage goth harrumphing at the conformity of it all

My concern is that someone might say something stupid to her. Can you find the same sort of thing in blue/dark green?!

She’s 14 and the bride and groom are early twenties. I’m sure they’ll be fine with it, I just wanted to check it wasn’t an epic faux pas. I can’t remember the last time I went to a wedding so my wedding etiquette is years out of date.
I know I wouldn’t have minded someone in black at mine, unless it was the MIL with matching black hat and veil.

I’d rather see your dd in black and happy than forced into something they hate so their face is tripping them!

Usually I would say it's a no, but getting a goth teen into any kind of dress for a wedding - hats off to you!

Personally I insisted my DD's wore wedding appropriate clothing ish eg I compromised on skirt length (way to short) heel height (way too high) and spaghetti straps but insisted on strapless bras so their bra straps didn't show. They wore appropriate colours though

@AutumnIsHere21 ha! DD is definitely more into covering up than leaving it hang out.

My DD wore black to her cousins wedding, and her cousin wore back to my sisters wedding.

That cousin is now having a full blown goth wedding which will be amazing.

Black is absolutely fine, the bride and groom should be more bothered that she comes and feels comfortable, formal situations can be a nightmare for teenagers.