To let my teen wear black to a wedding?

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I often hear that black is a no no for weddings unless it’s background for a colourful pattern. Her style is a bit alt, bit gothy. She originally said she’d like a trouser suit and we looked but there’s not much selection for her age/size. So, we’ve found a skater style black dress with long sleeves which she hasn’t hissed at turned her nose up at. It’s a winter wedding so long sleeves will be ok and not out of place.

Black isn't a no no at a wedding. Lots of people wear black. White's the no no.

Hissed at 😂😂😂

Yes, 5 in the last 2 years (covid backlog). 3 younger couples (late 20s/early 30s) and two more mature. Mixture of venues. Not a single black dress or outfit, male or female (apart from traditional Bonnie Prince Charlie jackets with coloured kilts) in sight. Anything else you want to know? 🤔

Maybe it is a regional thing, I have never seen anyone wear a full black dress at a wedding.

I also wore black to the last wedding I attended. I thought I looked quite good actually

We all need to think of others at times, Tell her it is a wedding and not a funeral and that black (or white) is not acceptable.

Totally take your point, @SmallPrawnEnergy, I hadn't thought of it that way before. It seems to be completely ingrained in me that women shouldn't wear black for weddings. I've nothing against black otherwise, love it, in fact. Odd. But I genuinely can't remember any women at weddings I've been to recently (in Greece in the past 3 years), wearing black. To be fair, nor did any of the men attending!

I am quite gothic myself ever since was I was a teenager. When I was 17/18 my uncle got married and I wore a black dress it was fitted under the bust and came down and had floaty sleeves with black tights. Nobody said anything at all xx

I couldn't tell you what anyone wore to my wedding. I was just happy to spend the day with people I cared about.

Wouldn’t occur to me that it was a faux pas! Maybe odd in the summer if it was heavy black but even then I doubt I’d notice. I haven’t been to a stuffy wedding in years though. All the weddings/civil partnerships I’ve attended over the past few years have been pretty relaxed and lively. A nice black dress wouldn’t raise any eyebrows.

It would have to be a very certain type of wedding where it mattered tbh.I've been to loads of weddings but never one of those. You get ALL SORTS at a wedding. And in the moment does anyone even care? Especially the bride who is usually so busy buzzing around etc Def not " oooh look that person over there is wearing ... blah blah" As if.

I def can't remember what anybody wore to mine unless I got the pics out.

I got married at a time where wearing black was seen as not the done thing, one of my best friends wore black, couldn’t have cared less. I would probably try and get a teenager not to wear blue jeans or a skirt with her arse hanging out but beyond that I don’t think it matters.

I wouldn't pick this battle with a teen there are more important things in life

It’s fine for a teen

🙄 I do wonder when people will get bored with the 'miserable goth' trope. I've been goth for 20+ years and it's always the same thing. You think after that long you'd come up with something different.

I agree! I've seen loads of people wear black to a wedding and nobody was in the least bit bothered by it.

I had some guests wearing black on my wedding, I noticed it while watching wedding pictures. Couldn't care less, they all looked nice anyway.

I agree.

I wore a black dress to a wedding as a teenager, my mum made me accessorise it with a bit of colour and that was fine - would your daughter be ok with a splash of colour - teal or purple is good for alt/goth looks.

My own mum and MIL wore black to my wedding - they looked smart and if anything it made my white dress stand out more 😄

I wore a black trouser suit to a wedding once, a long time ago, with an electric blue blouse, hat and clutch. I wouldn’t wear unrelieved black because it’s not a flattering colour on me. But it looks fine on others.

I had adults wear black to my spring wedding, didn't care. As long as it isn't white you're probably fine

It's fine. People saying it's not are just arguing for the sake of it.

I would not want my dd wearing black to a wedding. It seems disrespectful to me. What is wrong with navy or dark burgundy?

Men wear black to weddings literally all the time, unless we’re going to start insisting men stop wearing black why can’t women wear black?

Men don’t have a huge range of suit colours to choose from, IME various shades of grey are more usual with coloured ties.

Me too!