Agree @GrumpyPanda sitting with a financial advisor or a solicitor would clarify her situation.
I wonder if OP’s partner heard what they had to say, if he would dig his heels in further or feel embarrassment to realise he has fobbed her off with the short straw.
@MsPincher Because if her partner had chosen to have a child on his own, his life would have likely have been far more hectic and time consuming.
He would have little free time. He would likely be sleep deprived.
He would have had to pay for the convenience, luxury and, you could say, the respect, granted to him in society by virtue of OP performing a conventional, wifely role.
It has frequently been confirmed by research stats, that men who are deemed to have ‘desirable’ long term partners/wives, enjoy faster promotions in the workplace.
A good woman is a fantastic ‘asset’ to a man’s advancement.
It’s no coincidence that this is downplayed because if women knew their value they would advance more readily.
OP’s partner will engender respect by being seen with her. She will have sacrificed thousands of pounds worth of income, pension and time by enabling his smooth progression in life.
OP has literally facilitated his status at her expense of hers!
Not to mention she has awarded him with the precious timeframe of her expiring fertile eggs.
He can waltz away and begin another family.
Her time may have expired for that and should she choose to have a second family, any childcare responsibilities would probably be doubled. Another setback.
Her body would also have been aged by pregnancies, perhaps breastfeeding.
Ongoing health issues can result from pregnancies in later life.
A woman’s body won’t be the young, fertile body that had the power to attract so potentially the second time around.
His body by contrast will not have experienced such gruelling transitions, pain, and wear and tear related to child bearing and care.