Mrs or Ms after divorce

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Just read another thread about name change and a poster asked whether the op referred to herself as Mrs or Ms.

Just wondering about this as I have been divorced for over 10 years and never bothered changing back to my maiden name. My passport, DL bank accounts all say Mrs Married Name.

If I was going to go through the effort of reverting back to my maiden name I would probably also go from Mrs to Ms. But honestly, I love my married name so can't see the fuss with changing my title.

For clarity, my exH doesn't care and neither does my DP.

If you are keeping your married name, have you offiicially changed your title? If so, why?

Titles aren't official anything so you don't need to change it, just start using Ms
Personally I was never Mrs anyway but I find it odd to use Mrs when you're divorced.

Separated 2010, divorced around 2013/4 (can't remember).
Continued using my name (married name) and Mrs.
Remarried 2016, continued using my name (1st marriage name) since then.

I have stayed Mrs, it's fine.

Staying Mrs I hate Ms.

I became Mrs for my first marriage. Then Ms on divorce (deed poll surname change). Then remained Ms on second marriage.

Not going through that bollocks palaver ever again.

I am married but don't like using Mrs. I always pick Ms when I can. I am not, nor should I be, defined by my marital status which is frankly irreleant on the vast majority of cases where you are asked for your titled. Tempted by a phd just so I can call myself Dr.

I went back to Miss 🤷🏻‍♀️ and my maiden name.

I'd rather forget the whole thing entirely 🤣🤣

I used Ms before, during and after marriage!

I am married (first marriage).

However, I've started to use Ms.

I get annoyed that, in one form or another, women have to divulge whether or not they are married by saying Mrs or Miss.

It is nobody's business and men don't have to do this!

I'm unmarried and have used Ms since my early 20s. If I marry, I will remain Ms Bees. Not going through all the bloody hassle of changing my name even though I like DP's surname.

I've kept his surname after divorce. My DD has his surname and it's nice than my old one. Have also kept Mrs.

Kept married name as same as kids (don't see why he should have same name as them and not me). He doesn't care anyway. I flit between miss and Mrs I guess as it doesn't really matter but I personally don't like ms

I've been a Ms. for decades, through two marriages and one divorce. I don't think women disclosing their marital status as a matter of course is a good thing.

I think this is wrong through, My passport, DL bank accounts all say Mrs Married Name. Surely your bank accounts and passport just have your name, not title. When they write to you they'll use one but that's just convention.

I use married name, but put a variety of titles down on forms that ask...I did try and change my driving licence to Ms but DVLA still got it wrong and returned new licence with Mrs on...so gave up after that.

Yes I changed to Ms. not immediately but as things needed to be renewed I used Ms.

Mrs was no longer accurate and Miss makes me sound like a young woman rather than middle aged with kids.

Genuinely curious and not goady - for those who use Mrs when divorced - why? I always think (although could be wrong/old fashioned) that Mrs denotes that you're married and if you're divorced, you're no longer married... I went back to Ms when I divorced my first husband, am Mrs now because am remarried.

Of course, it's a personal choice and I'm not being critical but I just wondered what the thinking behind having an incorrect title was?

@harriethoyle because my ex got to keep the same title when we divorced...so why shouldn't I?

But @WoooahNelly Mr doesn't denote marital status in the way that Mrs (rightly or wrongly) does.

@harriethoyle I don't care enough to change it...that a better answer?

@WoooahNelly 😂fair dos!

I've been divorced 11 years and my name is Mrs married name

Because my children have my married name as their surname and as it's my married name I'm not a Ms or a Miss as I haven't changed back to my maiden name. Since I have children I keep the Mrs as I had them within my marriage.

Their dad isn't involved, doesn't pay a penny and disappeared off years ago!
It's my professional working name and I've been Mrs (married name) for more of my life than I've been my maiden name . So it's me. And I love my name. It's a personal decision.

Yip indeed. I’ve always been Ms and will remain so.

Oooh I went to Miss married name. Is that allowed? I can't be arsed with the palava of changing back and no one cares.

Throughout the whole farce, I can't believe how difficult it was to have a different surname to the one you were born with. You would have thought it run of the mill for many women, but no. Prove this, prove that..fuck off. I advise everyone I know never to change their name ever!

harriethoyle, at first I couldn't be bothered changing anything - it had taken me quite a long time post marriage to change my name, and then by the time we separated I'd had my married name for quite a long time.
By the time we divorced, 3 or 4 years post split, it was no longer something I really thought about - I'd continued (using my name and) putting Mrs where it needed it on a form or application from habit I suppose.

I used Ms from about 17 to post marriage when I started using my married name, have nothing against Ms, but it was no longer how I thought of myself - which was as Mrs Chasingsquirrels.

On remarriage I continued to use Mrs, along with my (1st marriage) surname.
And continue to do so now widowed.

You don’t need to do anything to change to Ms though. Just use it.