Mrs or Ms after divorce

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Just read another thread about name change and a poster asked whether the op referred to herself as Mrs or Ms.

Just wondering about this as I have been divorced for over 10 years and never bothered changing back to my maiden name. My passport, DL bank accounts all say Mrs Married Name.

If I was going to go through the effort of reverting back to my maiden name I would probably also go from Mrs to Ms. But honestly, I love my married name so can't see the fuss with changing my title.

For clarity, my exH doesn't care and neither does my DP.

If you are keeping your married name, have you offiicially changed your title? If so, why?

He’s mad 😡 even that he gets reports and phone calls to Mr Y 😂😜as the kids are Y, I’m Y and then assume he is.

I would never ever advise any woman to take someone else’s name it a form of ownership

I'm divorced so I consider myself as a Ms. I'm not a young unmarried woman so I'm not a Miss and I'm no longer married so not a Mrs...however my bank and various other places haven't got the memo as they still.put Mrs on everything🤦‍♀️.

I still use Mrs as don't like Ms as it screams "I'm divorced!" and I don't need people knowing my business, thank you. I don't want a different surname to my children so will keep his. Easier to spell than my original surname too! Lol

I've been Ms Myname since the age of 16. Neither has changed during the time I've been either married or single.

If I'd taken another name on marriage, portmanteaued or double-barrelled, I'd still have used Ms.

Ms is a nonsense word in my opinion - I hate the fact it's meant to be used after divorce. I went to Miss Married Name as I wanted to keep the same name as my children.

Why on earth do people think Ms equals divorced woman?
The whole point of Ms for me is it gives no indication of my marital status as it's none of anyone else's business.

I’ve changed to this - totally agree. In fact “titles” are all just an antiquated grading system, Lord, Lady, Highness, Dr, Countess, Duke etc. why do we need them?

It's different in many other countries. This is interesting:

www.smb.london/news/husbands-ask-can-i-get-my-surname-back-on-divorce/

I’d stick with Mrs if I divorced too. I don’t like Ms, it sounds weird and it always seems like it’s often used by people that want to make a statement.

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Do wish the trolls who keep resurrecting dead threads would pith orf.

@popcornfrenzy

Where did you hear that Ms is supposed to be used after divorce?

Ms has its origins in the original women's lib movement. It's absolutely not nonsense. It's the equivalent of Mr - a title for a woman that eliminates marital status from the way you present yourself to the world. If men can be Mr their entire lives regardless of marital status, then women can have an equally neutral title for their entire lives.

@mathanxiety all the females in my family that have been divorced have become Ms - it was expected of me when I divorced. My circle of friends believe it's a divorcee thing - I've now googled and stand corrected but I still won't use it because I don't like the sound and look of Ms...I prefer being Miss

Guessing it's all to do with the annoying "similar threads" feature 🤬

I never changed my name, but use Miss, don't agree with your title reflecting your marital status

Me too. Plus my own surname always.

A statement that they don’t want to be defined by their marital status. So much internalised misogyny around this.

There isn't a legal or official basis for Miss, Mrs, Ms titles - it's just convention - using Mrs when not married isn't incorrect even if Mrs is commonly used for married women.

As per Wikipedia: Mrs originated as a contraction of the honorific Mistress which was originally applied to both married and unmarried women.

I've been using Mrs mysurname since my late 20s, before and during marriage.

Yeah, there's no such thing as an incorrect title in this respect.

If I'm called Mrs/Ms surname in e.g. Doctors or Dentist I always tell them to call me by my first name.

I've always used Ms.

I've been Ms Single, Ms Married, and now Ms Divorced/ Married Surname.

Ms doesn't signal divorced.

Ms is a married status-neutral title, the equivalent of Mr.

@Shiraztonight

Miss is the traditional title for an unmarried woman.

Love this!
But of course YANBU OP- it's your name! And Ms doesn't 'mean' divorced although you get the occasional ignorant person thinking it does. Honestly I can't believe anyone this century thinking women need 'sorting' into single/married/divorced boxes by their titles, whilst men don't. Mind boggling.

So many sensible responses on this thread I can't see why there is such a high % YABU?
For clarity, I think the Miss/Mrs thing is bollocks but I think that creating a bit of light anarchy where people choose whichever of the 3 they fancy is the best way to subvert the whole thing! Not listening to people who think that 'because you're divorced, you're Ms now'. So voted YANBU!

Still married but if ever I was divorced I'd stay as Mrs or go to to miss. I hate msssss. I never ever be ms that's how much I hate it.

I divorced in 2003 and legally changed my title back to Miss but kept my married surname. I am now Miss C Cath as opposed to Miss C Jones as was. I did this so my children and i had the same surname but i am acknowledged as single. My children are grown up now an i am now looking at going back to my maiden name. At the time it was complicated to to do and involved solicitors etc. all my banking, pensions, everything is now in my current Miss C Cath. It will be a massive faff to go back to my maiden name but it was important to me to be a Miss after my divorce . I love being a Miss, i am free and empowered. Will never be a Mrs again! I am not sure now how important my maiden surname even is to me anymore. It was always the distinction between Miss and Mrs that mattered to me. I was having my flu jab the other week and my name flashed up on the display to say nurse was ready for me. I loved loved loved that i was Miss Cath. Reconnects me somehow me with who i used to be, that independent young woman who i still am today, albeit older and despite it all .