Mrs or Ms after divorce

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Just read another thread about name change and a poster asked whether the op referred to herself as Mrs or Ms.

Just wondering about this as I have been divorced for over 10 years and never bothered changing back to my maiden name. My passport, DL bank accounts all say Mrs Married Name.

If I was going to go through the effort of reverting back to my maiden name I would probably also go from Mrs to Ms. But honestly, I love my married name so can't see the fuss with changing my title.

For clarity, my exH doesn't care and neither does my DP.

If you are keeping your married name, have you offiicially changed your title? If so, why?

I haven't changed from Mrs because I can't be bothered and it's simply not important to me

I'm legally married (civil partnership) and still use Miss Maiden Name! 🤣 No desire to be a Mrs or Ms or change my name, ever.

Staying Mrs.

I only half changed my name on my first marriage (never got round to changing everything) and I mostly went back to my maiden name on divorce except for at school.

I’m remarried now and use Mrs DH Surname for home/school stuff and it’s on my passport too but I use Ms Maiden Name at work and it’s what I say when I answer the phone.

(Well I say my maiden name - not the ms bit)

I reslly think it's outdated and sexist that in Britain our marital status is denoted by a title. In France and Germany for example, you just morphe into Madame/Frau once people think you look about the right age. Nothing to do with whether you're married or not. In Spain - and Holland I think - you don't even change your name on marriage.

This Mrs Husband's Name is a tradition very much rooted in the English-speaking parts of the world, but not necessarily the greater part of the world.

I was Ms before marriage, during and now Ms whilst divorced. Kids have my name.

I'm totally against women declaring marital status through title and men not.

Once I'd got divorced I would use Ms for anything new, but didn't bother to change anything existing (bank cards etc).

Same here. I tick Ms if filling in a form but cba changing anything that already says Mrs. I kept my married name as it had been my name for more than half my life and I wanted to keep the same name as my children (also cba changing everything!)

Ms since I left school.

Snap. Quite happy being Miss Wolf

I was always a Ms never a Mrs. Never changed my name so nothing to change with divorce. But I think titles are dying out aren't they?

I'm married and have been Ms since then.

I find Mrs looks too much like like Mr's.

Ms means that you don't want people to know if you're married or not. Much like Mr. It's neutral. It doesn't mean you're married or not.

Mrs. Can't be bothered to change it all.

Married but kept my own name. I use Mrs, Ms and Miss, depending in my mood.

Ms to me has always meant you're divorced. I've never seen it used as a "don't want people to know"

Fwiw, I went back to miss maiden name. Annoyingly, as I'm in my mid 40s, I get Ms used regularly even when I've specified Miss.

Ms sounds so old in my book and is such a meh word. No clarity to the sounds.

Ms to me has always meant you're divorced. I've never seen it used as a "don't want people to know"

I have used Ms since I was 14, far too young to have been divorced.

You can see from this thread how many people use Ms as a marital status free title.

Ms doesn't mean divorced. It's just the female equivalent to Mr.

'Ms' isn't associated with divorce. I've been Ms all my adult life, later Dr. I'd be just as happy not to use any title at all, they're obsolete and to my mind serve no useful purpose.

If people, hospital doctors for example, do address me in a more formal manner they invariably call me 'Mrs' (I do wear a wedding ring). Irritating, but I merely indicate my preference of being addressed by my given name.

The level of husbands' devotion to their wives is never measured through their titles or choice of family name, and it's never assumed they will do other than retain their own. All I expect is the same courtesy.

I've always selected Miss just because I've always been that. I'm getting married soon and I'm pretty certain I won't be taking his name just to save the hassle. I won't start using Mrs either but haven't decided if I'll choose Miss or Ms after I marry. Perhaps I'll swap and change about depending on who it is who's asking.

I went back to Miss maiden name after divorce. Tbh wish I had never changed my name on marriage but I got married very young and just changed my name as it was the done thing. If I got remarried I would not change again.

I also found it pretty easy to change back. Took a couple of days taking birth, marriage, divorce certs in to bank etc. Took a couple of weeks to get driving license back and about a month for passport. You do have to write a statement and prove that you have gone back to and are only using your maiden name to get the passport done, so I’m surprised to read on here that some people are using two names.

Separated May 2010, divorced January 2011, still using Mrs Married name but said as soon as ds was 18 I would change it to Mrs Maiden name but haven't got around to it yet.

the children have my surname partly as we agreed we with both become Mr and Mrs X~Y on marriage and then I changed and he didn’t. So I thought bollocks to that and gave the kids his name as a middle name and mine for surname. He’s made as we are all
now Y and he is X.