To be pissed of at DH???

[Disenchanted]

He was supposed to be going out tonight then it was cancelled at about 6pm, he said lets get the kids to bed and we can snuggle up and watch a film,

so Ive just spent 2 hours getting DS into his own cot for the first time in 7 months, and he screamed like a banshee the whole time!! because I thought we would need the bed to our selves IYKWIM!

and Ive just come out now from DSs room and DHs mate is down stairs and he said hes going out

I told him I didnt want him to as he said we would watch a film together and now Im apparantly 'trying to control him'

I really feel for you and you must stay stong you really are worth more than that. My Dp can be a thoughless monkey at times but he would not leave me to look after dd if i was ill. Good luck Xx

I wasn't having a dig at you I just find it amazing that when a relationship is on the brink of ending people (not necessarily you and your dp) still conduct important life changing exchanges via text

He will never change. Dump him.

Read this to my DS1 who is also in his early 20's and he agreed to the "Wa*&$r" comment.

In the first instance I probably wouldnt have been too bothered, the fact that he only cancelled his night out at 6pm then reinstated it at 8pm doesnt seem too awful to me, the cinema, again wouldnt really bother me too much, if he was going to see a film then come straight home, what would bother me is not coming home for dinner, and seeing the kids.
So he;d be in big shit for that in our house, I think it depends on if he is usually like this or if its just a coincedence that two ngihts ended up in one week.

He's treating you like an unpaid babysitter/childminder. Perhaps you could suggest he adds your fees to the loan from his dad for the cinema tickets...... Call it over-time, too.

DDF - sometimes it is easier to say what you mean by text instead of 'losing it' over the 'phone.

and he can always re-read them later if he doesn't learn the lesson the first time.

I e-mail and MSN my DH, even if he is in the next room. Sometimes it is the only way to get his full attention.

How did it go? Are you okay?

Are you ok? How did it go last night?

HIya

Even thoguh i told him 'all' day that i had had enough and wanted a night to myself nd would not be letting him in tonight
he still turned up with his dad knocking on the door and acting like he had no idea he wasnt to be getting in

Hew would me up so bad, thankfully he was very calm and was just saying 'lets talk ect throught the letterbox' but when it came apparant i would not be letting him in he started sayin

that 'he had done nothing wrong, and he hadnt a clue what was up with me' ect

making me feelike i was just mad and makingit up

then when he finally did face the fact that he wasn't getting in he said he would go home with his dad, who was stood there the whole time, and then DH was saying through the letter box

'c'mon baby come give me a goodbye kiss'

REALLY trying to wind me up

then he went

he rang and could tell i was sooo upset by him taking the piss, and he was actyully LAUGHING with his dad (who is an absolute immature womanising PIG) when he was outside the house.

But when he realised how upset i was he was really apologetic and got upset himself and said he would treat me like a princess this weekend, run my baths , sort the kids and take me to see sweeny todd on saturday nihgt (he HARES johnny deep and swore he wouldnt go see it with me ) and then out for a meal too

So hopefully it worked and things may improve?

Will jst have to see

hates, not hares!

god that post was horrific! sorry im rushing ive got to got out in 15 mins~!

He sounds so childish.

He treats you like crap, doesn't put you - his family - first, does what suits him regardless how it impacts on you, can't give of himself in the interests of his family, laughs at you when you tell him how that makes you feel, dismisses your concerns and complaints, mocks you when you reach breaking point and 'apologises' as a way of shutting you up which will enable him to continue to behave like this.

I predict that he will be very nice to you for a week and then revert to his true self. And until or unless he grows the fuck up, you will be in a cycle of him doing this sort of shit, you eventually kicking off while he doesn't seem to care, him creeping round you with promises of Change, you giving him another chance, him behaving for a week then riding off on his BMX to go scrumping and maybe find some conkers.

Some 'men' just need a large dose of reality.

Preferably administered as a suppository.

With no lube.

Good for you disenchanted, hope he keeps his promise for the weekend.

You do need to sit him down though, and tell him he is an adult with responsibilites to his family and he must take on his fair share of looking after the children before he thinks about having time to himself.

Good luck and hope you have a nice weekend.

PMSL Hecate, you truly are an inspiration. Although I do believe that there is no conkers at this time of year. He He He

You're a baaaaaaaaaaaad lady Hecate. And that's a compliment.