To be pissed of at DH???

[Disenchanted]

He was supposed to be going out tonight then it was cancelled at about 6pm, he said lets get the kids to bed and we can snuggle up and watch a film,

so Ive just spent 2 hours getting DS into his own cot for the first time in 7 months, and he screamed like a banshee the whole time!! because I thought we would need the bed to our selves IYKWIM!

and Ive just come out now from DSs room and DHs mate is down stairs and he said hes going out

I told him I didnt want him to as he said we would watch a film together and now Im apparantly 'trying to control him'

why don't you go to the cinema with your sis then and let him watch the kids?

sounds like he thinks he's still single to me.

I think most men would probably try and get away with behaving like that if they could - i know my dp would but i just won't stand for it.

Show him who's boss!

yeah, but he was supposed to be going out to start with.. were you ok with him going out before the plans changed?

Does he always go out with his friends? Do you ever go out together?

FF2

yes, yes, no, not really, lol

He didnt come back till 1:30

DS woke up and was vomiting everywhere,Ive woken up and am ill and hes gone to work adament that hes still going cinema straight from work.

Ive told him Im packing up his shit and taking it to his nans down the road.

But I cant do that though, empty threat.

Im so fed up, everythings going wrong at the moment, Im so stressed

I cant do it as his grandad is ill and wouldnt want to put that on them

If i left his stuff outside he would go nutty and he'll be coming home after the cinema with his dad and i dont want to have a barny in front of him

yes, yes you may

oh dis, he sounds like an immature toss pot. really he does. and as for his dad - paying for him etc - what a load of bull, im suprised his dad hasnt though about paying for u2 to go then.

id go to my mums/away and make the tosser feel bad for a few days.

he needs to take responsibility for his child - does he step up financially?

herts, he does, he pays all the bills and stiff and we dont have much left after that

so i can see where he is coming from with the free cinema tickets, it would be a burden financially if we spent £20 on a night at the cinema

stiff?

sorry meant stuff

havent read all of post but no yanbu make it appear your not bothered let him make effort next time for evening in and go out let him see how it feels

I might go to my mums.

he needs to realise that although he is paying the bills etc, u need more than that, you need emotional support, and him being there for you and your baby. u need to talk. asap, before this gets any worse.

cx

Just been txting him saying how DS is still vomiting and im feeling rough, I said what time do you finish work...he replied ...

'prob about 9ish, film starts at 6.30, am going to my dads ffor dinner first, tell the boys hello'

He just wont come home for us

Hes having dinner at his dads, nice. You get a meal cooked for you (like he does from me everynight) whilst im ill and will have to force myself near the fridge to make DS2 something for tea without vomiting!

Now hes ignoring me.

Change the locks while he's out! FFS I would never put up with this sort of behaviour! He's being totally selfish and immature.

Next time he's ill with man flu (and you know how serious that is ), just announce you're going out with the girls, walk out the door and leave him with the kids/supper etc etc.

Seriously, you really need to talk to him about this, in a calm way and without any yelling/nagging/accusations. Easier said than done, and if he won't listen I'm not sure what you should do, but he's not behaving like a husband and father, he's acting like a bachelor with no responsibilities and if you let it go on too long, he's never going to change.

If he wants to go out then fine, let him, but MAKE SURE YOU GO OUT TOO with your girl-mates, sis etc. Having a baby is 50/50, so if he goes out with his mates, then its only fair that you do the same.

Note - make sure you leave the house a total tip with a "to do list" pinned on the fridge for him too

Really feel for you hun x x

Ive locked him out

Ive got a bag of his stuff to drop out of the window and if he wants to make a scene ill just ignore him and turn the telly up.

A few days without us should make him realise what an arse and loser he is without us!!

Expect the shit to hit the fan at about 9:30

I'll be back at 9.30.

He is taking the piss...not sure I would have locked him out without asking him in no uncertain terms to come home but you had to do something. Stay strong.

oh i did ask him to!! Repeatedly!

i texted him and phoned him

he doesnt care

ive had enough

In that case..good for you!!
I would ring him and tell him not to come home as he's not welcome...but if he is at cinema he probably has his mobile off...

I do find it amazing how many people conduct relationships via text these days though.

We dont 'conduct our relationship through txt'

but if he is away and theres something that needs to be said I text him as i get free texts and cant afford to use the home phone to call his mobile.