To not remove this picture

[Barnacle1]

Been away for a night this weekend with my husband, our two DC and my DSC. Just got back about an hour ago and posted a picture on FB of all the kids together just saying lovely break with the family.

My husband rarely used FB although he has it (his profile pic is blank and there's nothing on his page, don't think he's been on it for years) but I tagged him in the photo.

His ex, mother of DSC, messaged me and asked me to remove the photo stating they aren't my DC and she doesn't like the thought of their pictures being posted by me (she posts their pictures all the time so nothing about not wanting their photos posted ever).

DH isn't bothered by it so I'm minded to just ignore it. In my mind, he's as much their parent and he doesn't mind.

Except it's not her children her rules

Your biased due to your own views on social media usage

Could you just untag your DH? If he never uses FB presumably he won't care whether the pic's on his page or not.

If you block her she won't be able to see it?

Me and my DH went out with the DC at the weekend.While we were out my DH took a picture of all of us and put it on fb and tagged me. My eXH saw it and has messaged me saying that they’re his children and DH has no right to take a picture of us as a family.”

I guarantee that the vote would be unanimous that the ex was a dick and to block/ignore him.

But for far too many on here women view their children as possessions.

It’s very simple. If you don’t want another woman having a parental influence in your children’s life, then don’t leave the marriage.

Surely just blurring or putting stickers on their faces would deal with any privacy concerns, thereby taking her worries seriously but also not backing down. You could always put a post explaining you changed the photo out of consideration for the privacy concerns of their mum - might be a bit too passive aggressive though!

If she still kicks up, then she's showing everyone she's just petty about you all having a nice time together. More fool her, she'll have no leg to stand on to try to get you to take them down.

From this point on, either post no pics with dsc, or blur so they can't be identified.

I think had these pictures been added to your DH's account, this would be a non issue.
She's messaged you clearly saying she's "uncomfortable" with her children being posted by you and requested you take it down.
This is a no brainer- take it down, apologise for any offence caused and ask her to message DH in the future on these matters, it's for them to make and agree on decisions ideally...
agree with others here this is not a battle worth fighting .

Personally I would remove them and just post pictures with my own DC, I never post pictures with my DSS anyway. But ultimately she is just encouraging you to feel detached from her kids so she's really not helping them, is she.

This is true she can't ever complain if you don't "treat them like your own".

Don't be daft

She’s being pathetic, I hate people that hide behind their kids to be spiteful, she should grow up and become a parent.

I agree. Respect her feelings. She is their mother. You would want your feelings respected. Even if she 'shouldn't mind' - she does. So don't be mean when you could be nice.

Do you think she's happy they were off on holiday with you, instead of her? No. But she has to suck it up. So don't make it worse with photos that upset her.

You sound like a scorned and bitter step-mum. 😂

Nope, no step kids here 😁 Just want adults to be adults but crack on Sherlock.

In my head I would be calling her every name under sun 🤬 but I would take the picture down cos I don't think I would like another woman putting my children's photo on social media and playing happy families even if you are

Grrrr that's a tough one but be the better person

Not being daft. She can't expect to OP to treat them as she would her own children if she's not allowed to do this in all aspects of life. Which is perfectly fine so as long as she's not moaning if OP doesn't get involved then it's fine.

Remove the picture. Not your child, not your place to post picture. If the father wants it on facebook he can post it himself.
I say this as a step mother

Just another a stepmother cannot win scenario Mother is a dramallama

You sound like a bitter ex wife.

I would take it down

God almighty! They're not your kids, just take it down!

I'd message back and say, I know I'm not their mother, I'm fully aware of that, but you don't mind them coming to my house and me looking after them, cooking for them, cleaning up after them and doing their washing, so you get free time. The picture is staying. X

You're not their mother. You don't get to decide whether pictures of other people's kids get to stay online.

YABU

Would you really?!
They come to spend time with their father presumably, it's nothing to do with op.
If she does the majority of the extra cooking and cleaning that's for her and her dh to sort out between them.

You are aware I could take a picture of your kids at the park and post it wherever I like right?

You don't have to be a mother to post things online

Also these children have a father with equal say over said photos

Just take it down.

It sounds like you're doing it deliberately to wind her up.