To not remove this picture

[Barnacle1]

Been away for a night this weekend with my husband, our two DC and my DSC. Just got back about an hour ago and posted a picture on FB of all the kids together just saying lovely break with the family.

My husband rarely used FB although he has it (his profile pic is blank and there's nothing on his page, don't think he's been on it for years) but I tagged him in the photo.

His ex, mother of DSC, messaged me and asked me to remove the photo stating they aren't my DC and she doesn't like the thought of their pictures being posted by me (she posts their pictures all the time so nothing about not wanting their photos posted ever).

DH isn't bothered by it so I'm minded to just ignore it. In my mind, he's as much their parent and he doesn't mind.

I think ignore. It’s not about her kids pictures being posted online, it’s about you and you having a nice relationship with her kids. And that’s petty. If you’re DH doesn’t mind and she posts photos herself then there’s no issue. You are their family. Ignore her.

This is the sort of situation that one parent can veto in my opinion, because in the grand scheme of things it's not that important. It's facebook! If you care about you DSC you don't make something out of nothing.

I don't think you are coming across well really? If your DSCs mother contacted you to take down the picture, then take it down. It's not worth the hassle.

He's their dad and has just as much say as she does. The hate towards stepmothers on here is vile.

Where is the hate and vileness?

Leave it up. Can just imagine the uproar on here if you'd deliberately left them out. As a stepmum you can't win.
I had a stepdad who died in prison because he committed CSA now that's a problem to have not a picture that shows your kids having a nice time with someone who cares about them.

So let him deal with it. Say 'this isn't my fight to have' and let him talk to her.

People saying the OP should take the picture down are being ridiculous.

So what if she’s their mother. OP’s dp is their father and she does not have the monopoly here on whether her children be tagged in a picture with their father.

She’s pathetic.

It doesn’t have to be a drama. OP and her dp should just ignore her. All this “they aren’t x’ dc” that we see on here constantly is ridiculous and says more about the ex than it does about the OP.

Honestly these children aren’t her’s and her’s alone. And they are part of the OP’s family whether she likes it or not.

Far better for the children to be allowed to be part of that family than for the mother to be stirring up trouble.

And no, I am not a step parent, and yes, I am a parent whose dc have a step parent.

Why are using Facebook in the first place? Cesspit

Agree. I always what kind of people post family pictures on there? Why? It's just cringeworthy.

Wrong. The mother is doing that all by herself out of pure jealousy and spite.

Why did you tag your DH if his Facebook is blank? If he had actively posted it fair enough, but he didn’t and wouldn’t have, but as she has asked, you should take it down, it makes no difference to you. If your DH wants it left on tell him to reply to her.

Love this idea 😂

I'd take it down, though. I never post my DSS so I avoid all of this shit. I mean, I think she's a crank and just moaning for the sake of it, but it's just not worth the hassle for you.

If you ever post without her DC on it and she moans, then you can tell her to shove her opinion up her arse 🙌

well, plenty of people do. i mean millions. If it’s not for you then don’t. But the OP says the mother posts pictures of them on fb all the time so this clearly isn’t about her not wanting pictures of her dc on social media.

If I were the dp I would change my settings so that she didn’t see anything I was tagged in and then she would never know.

Actually if I were the dp I wouldn’t be fb friends with her in the first place but removing her from seeing tags is a good compromise.

Honestly it’s not hard to see why so many ex wives are seen as bitter ex’s judging from some of the posts on here.

She probably would moan if you didn’t post pictures that you treat her kids differently to your own. Put your Facebook on private , block her and let your husband deal with it :)

And he’s there dad so he doesn’t get to vet her pictures or would want
there her step kids title was my family
it must be hurtful for the kids to be edited out of any pictures with there dads family
tell her you’ve run it past DH and he wants all his family on the picture

fuck her off

or just ignore her

She sounds mean and petty, but agree it's for your dh to deal with

I'd be changing your settings to friends only so she can't see what you post. Is she of these people who doesn't like her ex to have a relationship but is quite happy for her kids to have a new daddy every time she wants a relationship?

I think you are absolutely BU.

I hate social media and don't post anything on anywhere.

If my dh remarried and his new wife started posting pictures of my dc's on social media when I personally am against it Id be mightily unimpressed.

It sounds like you're doing this partly to spite her in all honesty.

Bullshit. The OP says herself that the mother posts on social media.

This notion that people think that step parents include the children in their family to spite the ex is absolutely pathetic.

So predictable. You have the posters making points not relevant to the thread 'Facebook is stupid/don't put photos up of anyone ever on there' and then the usual suspects telling you that your only motive for putting a nice holiday photo on Facebook is to piss off DH's ex, as if she's that important, and that any response you give to her now other than ohh I'm so sorry and taking it down immediately is you trying to antagonise her.

The ex wife is being petty and immature. OP can't win with some of you. If DSC was not included in the holiday there would be a riot. But they were included, they were there with their family, and it's stupid to 'delete' their presence from the family just because the ex wife is being unnecessarily combative. I would love my XH's wife to include my DC as part of the family.

Bet there would be a problem if DSC wasn't in any photos in the house or if OP got her kids an ice cream but not DSC. So what is it? OP has to include DSC in the family at all times in real life (of course) but publicly act as if they don't exist? Ridiculous.

And if I knew a blended family where the SM only acknowledged their own kids on social media I would probably think that she mustn't be very arsed about her DSC (or maybe now I would think that she had just been given a disciplinary hearing by the DSC's mum)

He's the dad but it's not his social media. I don't think you get to do things that upset their mother, especially when such petty silly things involving social media. I wouldn't want another woman putting my kids all over Facebook. You know you can be a good stepmother without broadcasting it online, right?

He's the dad but it's not his social media. I don't think you get to do things that upset their mother, especially when such petty silly things involving social media. I wouldn't want another woman putting my kids all over Facebook. You know you can be a good stepmother without broadcasting it online, right? the fact he has been tagged means the pictures are on his social media.

IMO he doesn’t even have to deal with it. If my ex complained about my DP putting pictures of my DC on social media and tagging me in those I wouldn’t even enter into a dialogue about it.

As far as I’m concerned it would be none of his business.

@GhostFromTheOtherSide see I would always delete. It's about being considerate and I think of both parents aren't happy involving their children on SM, it shouldn't be there. Would be so much easier if the OP just didn't put kids that aren't hers online.

One of the first things I did was block the Ex so she couldn't go a snooping