to expect people to get their children to vacate seats.

[noonar]

ok, am really not sure what the consensus will be here, so here goes...

dd goes to swimming lessons. there are about 35 children doing classes of different levels. the spectators' are is very hot and cramped. there is v little room for an adult to sit on the floor, and only about 25 seats.

last week, for some reason, there was a large number of siblings watching the lessons with their parents. many of these were occupying a seat. one mum had 2 sons with her. they took up 3 seat. also, a dad let his 2yo have a seat to herself.

meanwhile, i was struggling to keep tabs on my 3yo, while standing, as she edged close to the safety rail between us and poolside.

now, i know children are people too and should be treated with respect but do you think it was fair to allow children to occupy so many seats , in the circs?

why?
why shodul kdis stand up for adults
cos kdisare kid
why is that to do wiht necks?

Yes cod but that argument is really shite

lenny, of course she is my responsibility! but she wriggled down between the chairs. the chairs were tightly grouped together. i couldnt reach her. clearly, telling little noonar to sit still and not climb over the rail was not a big enough hint for anyone to make room for us.

no i didnt ask anyone to move.

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shite or not
its valid.

lol

it hink kdis need to elarn that adults are more iprotant hant hem SOMEEIMS

oh stupid thread

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I think children should give up their seat for adults, or at least offer. I still offer my seat to people older than me. I think its showing respect.

Oh god, you didn't take their seats?

I ABSOLUTELY do this. I'd go up to 8 y-o boy on gameboy and say 'May I have this seat please?' and he will jump up for sure - out of surprise as much as anything.

I routinely do this if nobody offers me one. I'd make my ds stand up personally.

Anyway, they get up and you sit down. Easy. Don't linger about on the sides of the pool fgs. Tell the kid to shift.

thanks COD.lol

you know what, its not about kids vs adults really, its more to do with the fact that my need was greater than the children's in these circs. i gues i just hoped that one of their parents might've grasped this.

Noonar - do as I do, go up and say 'Please may I have this seat.' They JUMP out of them, promise.

noonar, as you say, if you thought that your need was greater then that's a different matter really. If anything, I'd expect fellow adult parents to have more sensitivity to someone struggling. Expecting the average seven-year-old to notice that a woman is having difficulty with her three-year-old is unrealistic - as you say, they're far too busy poking away at their consoles.

lol, ahundredtimes.

len, if she'd gone any forther forward i'd have had to rugby tackle her across a row of seats and wouldve landed in their laps. that was my plan if she climbed any higher

dramaqueen - what is wrong with a mum wanting to watch their child's swimming lesson? I always sit and watch DD's lesson. I like to. Most of the mums and dads sit and watch at DD's leessons, with a cup of tea too.

TELL THEM TO SHIFT.

If absolutely necessary give the childs mother a smile and say 'mini dc keeps trying to jump in the pool' and then look away.

You are lol noonar and I am being serious for once.

I think it's good manners for a child to offer an adult a seat. If they are small they can sit on parents lap and if they are bigger they can sit on the floor.

Policy, if the seven year old hasn't noticed that an adult needs a seat, then it's surely up to the parent to prompt them.

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dramaqueen, are you serious?

actually, dd1 is quite nervous in the water and likes the moral support . i think its a bit odd to be disinterested in your child's activities , tbh.

LOL at 100x. She has the right answer obviously - I am convinced that what she says would happen, would happen.

I think it is a respect thing myself.

It does happen Bozza. I promise.

You just smile nicely and take their seat. They can't get up quick enough as a rule I've found.

I am a serial taker of children's seats.

At Mass on Christmas Eve I was obviously pregnant and there were no seats left. There was a woman there with her two able-bodied teenage daughters and neither of them offered me a seat nor did their mother prompt them to offer. Not a lot of Christians in these church places I always make the ds's stand for adults. I think children tire less easily than adults and should vacate a seat if an adult is standing.