Would you go out if your child was on a sleepover?

[Bagpuss2022]

Dd has two friends stopping over one has been sick and is running a temp. We know the parents well girls been friends since reception now 12 y8 ,
I can’t get hold of either parent I saw earlier on fb they were at some gig I’m not opposed to parents going out when I have there children sleeping over but not to be able to get old of them and the Dad has posted on social media since i have called them both

of course I’m taking care of “Lilia” she’s laying on the sofa in the dining room with Netflix and a sick bowl I keep checking on her and she’s in the next room the other girls are upstairs I feel mean but I don’t want them both to come down with it too

wwyd? The poor girl just wants her mum and her bed

Poor girl, can you message her dad on social media?

I’d go out certainly but I’d also make sure I was contactable and keeping an eye on my phone. It’s second nature as a parent; how long since you tried to contact them?

It's absolutely fine to go out when a child of that age is staying with someone they know well.

Obviously, they should be contactable but maybe phones are not working where they are. Have you tried WhatsApp? Presumably, they have an internet connection if they're posting on social media.

I’d comment on his fb post and say she’s really unwell

Called both mums phone straight to voicemail dads rang out left both a voicemail, text both and WhatsApp too good shout to try Facebook messenger
like I said I’m not opposed to them going out I have done it myself but I make sure I keep phone on and do a check in text with DD

I guess it’s only early still will just keep eye on her and sleep on living room sofa if needs be such a shame she’s a lovely girl

It's just one of those rubbish situations that happens occasionally. I don't think the girls parents are unreasonable to go out, but they should be contactable, or at least be checking their phone regularly just in case. I hope that when you get hold of them they get a taxi (if they've been drinking)to collect the poor girl.

I think it’s fine to go out, not really any different to going out if you have a babysitter for example. At 12yo the child has probably been on lots of successful sleepovers so parents probably thought the chance of anything wrong to be low. I don’t think the issue is that they’re out but that they’re uncontactable, if their child is with someone else for the night I would still expect at least one of the parents to be reachable in case of emergency.

Yes I would also go out but I would be contactable!

Yes I’d go out, but I’d make sure I was contactable. If it’s a gig it could be that they had tickets before you arranged the sleepover, so in that situation they wouldn’t be expected to cancel.
I’d send a message on social media if he appears to be active on there.

No I wouldn’t go out if my child was at a sleepover.

god, my dd is 18 not long passed her test and I don’t have a drink or night out when she works as she needs to drive home at 2am and I worry she has a problem with the car and I need to get to her.

Also, does the girl have her own phone? If so maybe try ringing and messaging on that, hopefully they’ll be less likely to ignore if they see she’s trying to reach them and will realise it’s an emergency-type situation.

It's literally the reason my dc do sleepovers! Free babysitters.

Definitely comment on his FB post asking him to call you asap. The girl needs to be collected and taken home. Shame on them for not being contactable.

I'd go out but I'd be contactable at all times.
Poor girl, she's lucky she's got you looking out for her

I hope they're not deliberately ignoring you
We've been in this exact situation except it was a family member
6 year old feeling poorly and crying wanting their parent who was unreachable for 24 hours
They knew the situation they just didn't want their time out ruined
All the poor child wanted to do was speak to said parent..
I hope this isn't the situation here!

Are they still local? Definitely encourage her to contact them

I would but not to a gig or anywhere that I couldn't be contacted, I wouldn't drink either just in case.

Of course I'd go out. ! When I was a single parent I used to love the opportunity!
I'm sure they're not deliberately avoiding you and will be mortified when they get some signal and realise you've been trying to contact them

Lots of people don't pick up when it's an unknown number. So I second calling them on their DD's phone.

There DD has tried contacting them the dad is green ie active on fb she’s asleep now

Why is your thread title ‘Would you go out if your child was on a sleepover?’

That’s not what you’re asking - and you say (rightly) that you don’t have an issue with that?

Shouldn’t your thread title be ‘Would you be non-contactable if your child was on a sleepover?’

They should be contactable but they're not unreasonable to go out - that's the reason many parents organise sleepovers in the first place as it saves paying for a babysitter and they can just return the favour another time.

Yes it probably should but I’m tired got a poorly child that wants her mum and it’s my DDs birthday tomorrow

I'd go out but ( hopefully) be contactable and also able to drive unless previously agreed with parent of the house where my child was staying

We always went out when ours were at sleepovers but we would always be contactable. That’s a bit shit of her parents, particularly as they have been posting on FB etc.