Would you go out if your child was on a sleepover?

[Bagpuss2022]

Dd has two friends stopping over one has been sick and is running a temp. We know the parents well girls been friends since reception now 12 y8 ,
I can’t get hold of either parent I saw earlier on fb they were at some gig I’m not opposed to parents going out when I have there children sleeping over but not to be able to get old of them and the Dad has posted on social media since i have called them both

of course I’m taking care of “Lilia” she’s laying on the sofa in the dining room with Netflix and a sick bowl I keep checking on her and she’s in the next room the other girls are upstairs I feel mean but I don’t want them both to come down with it too

wwyd? The poor girl just wants her mum and her bed

Jesus, that's really shit of them! Poor kid. Well done you op. Hope DDs birthday goes to plan tomorrow.

Drop her off at home. The other girls will be fine for the time it takes. She needs to be in her own bed.

At that point I'd be telling them I was dropping their DD off at home as soon as they were back, how absolutely selfish and disrespectful of them.

Firstly that they wouldn't make a detour home to collect her (or at least ask you if you can drop her off at home) when she is clearly ill and in need of her parents/own bed is shocking - what parent just leaves their ill child with someone else, especially if they aren't family, unless they really have to? And secondly how disrespectful of them to just expect you to look after their ill child until it is convenient for them, especially knowing that you are hosting a party for your child's birthday

Sounds like a really unfortunate situation rather than bad parenting, it’s shit you are left with a sick child but also if parents have been drinking and have just got home so late it’s probs not best for the kid to go home in a taxi at this time to drunk parents. Your doing a good turn op

I’d be annoyed by their reaction, I would’ve been right over to collect my ill DD, it’s not fair to make you have a possibly sleepless night looking after her!

I used to go out when mine were younger-now they’re teenagers I don’t need to wait for sleepovers (!) but I’ve always checked my phone regularly.

I can't believe they didn't offer to come in a taxi and pick her up. I'd drop her home if I'm being honest, not your problem.

We might go to dinner or something else that took us away from the immediate neighborhood, but we would stay contactable and able to return home in a reasonable time frame. I wouldn’t be out of contact or more than an hour away (or if I’m really honest 40 minutes, but I think an hour is fair) without arranging it with the hosting parents first.

@melj1213 Many parents don’t have family members able or willing to p

*pick up an ill child. Our school emergency contacts have always been close friends and I reciprocate.
I’ve picked up their children when the school closed early due to a power failure, etc., but truthfully, I wouldn’t expect them to collect my puking child nor vice versa! Unless it was a really desperate situation. Certainly not from a sleepover.

Hence I’ve always checked my phone regularly when out.

You should have dropped her off home. She needs her own bed. You're coming across as a bit of a doormat.

Precisely why I wouldn’t go out- being anywhere where you are uncontactable/pissed/unable to get back in an emergency is shit parenting.

Poor child and poor you.

Hopefully this won’t go round your household. I’d have said I’m dropping her home.

I think it is ok to be out locally for a meal or for a drink. But going to a gig without letting the person know and both drivers over the limit is too much.

How did they get home and how far from you do they live? I'd have left the other two girls and dropped her home to be with her own family in her own bed if the really couldn't detour to collect her.

We have no family near us at all so have a couple of other family friends that we rely on. If my DD was with one of those I'd still go get her.

That is disgusting! What an absolute cheek and the poor little girl. You could have maybe dropped her home?

Well done op for taking such good care of their poorly daughter, I hope you aren't rewarded by catching the bug. It was irrisponsible of them both to drink in my opinion. If my kids are elsewhere one of us always stays sober so we are able to collect. Also sounds like the Dad ignored your messages until their gig had ended which is also pretty selfish.

Wow, OP, that's pretty shit from them. I hope she gets better and you won't all catch the bug.

Oh, poor kid. I hope you managed to get done sleep OP. They really are amazingly selfish.

I would be up and dropping their Dd off NOW. The other girls would have been fine with a DH who had had 2 glasses of wine and certainly fine now. DO NOT WAIT for them to sort themselves out you will moss you activity. I would have done this @ 1am tbh.

This is awful.

if they can’t come to get her due to both having had a drink…how did they get home from the gig? Surely do a detour?!

I think you are amazing for staying so calm tbh

I would have dropped her home.

That poor girl 😥hope she’s ok this morning. Likely a bit heartbroken.

DH and I would go out if DD was at a sleepover but we would probably stay local and not get drunk and I would keep an eye on on my phone.

Can't understand any parent that would just go home and leave their sick child. How selfish.

Also can't understand why you didn't take her home either though.

Parents should have collected her in a taxi if they’re over the limit - I’ve been in similar situation (as both host and as a parent) and taxis were called! Or you should have dropped ASAP. I wouldn’t be waiting until 9am this morning. Hope the girl is feeling a bit better, poor thing.