Would you go out if your child was on a sleepover?

[Bagpuss2022]

Dd has two friends stopping over one has been sick and is running a temp. We know the parents well girls been friends since reception now 12 y8 ,
I can’t get hold of either parent I saw earlier on fb they were at some gig I’m not opposed to parents going out when I have there children sleeping over but not to be able to get old of them and the Dad has posted on social media since i have called them both

of course I’m taking care of “Lilia” she’s laying on the sofa in the dining room with Netflix and a sick bowl I keep checking on her and she’s in the next room the other girls are upstairs I feel mean but I don’t want them both to come down with it too

wwyd? The poor girl just wants her mum and her bed

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I'd be absolutely livid to be honest.

Terrible parenting from them. The poor girl and poor you (and DD) for having to deal with it all.

We dropped her off at 8.30am I’m far from a door mat what use would me of been dragging a poorly child home at 1am to parents that were drunk,
actually had a okay sleep she only woke once at 4.15am
she’s a lovely girl and the parents are usually so normal and definitely no form for this kind of thing I have known them for 8 years

at DDs birthday activity now and enjoying a coffee

They could have collected her in a taxi I suppose

I can’t imagine leaving my sick kid with someone else overnight. Even as an adult, you want to be in your own bed/home when you’re ill.

Frankly, I don’t have much time for parents who think a night out means getting too shitfaced to go and fetch your own poorly child home from a sleepover. Surely one of them could have chosen not to get drunk? Just how hard is it for some people to remain sober? 😳

Definitely a doormat and they know it, hence their behaviour.

She would have been much better at home in her own bed. The fact her parents had been drinking is not your or anyone else's problem. Their daughter being a 'lovely girl' is irrelevant.

What a shitty excuse not to come get your child.

They are clearly sober enough to text, get themselves home and post online.

You dont get to opt out of parenting your sick child.

This. She's 12, not 2. Given the choice, she'll probably want to stay where she is rather than face going out in a car and risk throwing up there. She'll be fine sleeping or watching Netflix.

Please to get you got to your birthday outing with you DD and her well friend and that you didn't have too bad a night. You weee a very kind friend and mum to this friend DD. I also think it was a bit ooor form of both parents to drink excessively and not be at least contactable. I hope that they are very apologetic
I would never be uncontactable nor be unprepared to go collect my child if on a sleepover. If dad can post on social media he can read his phone! 😱

Anyway OP you were kind and good if you to drop her off next morning. Hope no one else gets the bug

Even if drunk I dont really get this.

My mam went through a rough time and turned to alcoholism in my teens, she could be cusp of black out drunk regularly.

Dispite drinking crazy amounts I have seen her sober up INSTANTLY if anything happened dangeous happened (we lived in a rough area so dangeous stuff happened fairly often), it was facenating to see her personality switch and go straight into 'mam' mode as if she hadnt even had a drink.

I think adrenalin and instinct just took over if she knew we where at risk, even with the alcohol I never felt like we didnt come first.

You're a very good mum @Bagpuss2022 and good friend. But I don't think the parentssound awful like people are making out. At 12 I stayed over at others houses regularly and i never had cause to go home before morning.

@ChampagneLassie It’s the fact that they must’ve seen the OP’s messages earlier in the evening as the Dad was posting in FB! But they chose to ignore them, drink and stay for the entire gig.

Most parents would leave early and pick up their sick child, instead of leaving their friend to clear up their child’s vomit and potentially catch the bug themselves.